i need to moan!!!!!!

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ok son, aged 20 (21 in oct) left or lost his job in may - not sure which option- went off to magaluf to try for a job for the summer, has come back...crumbs in the kitchen, towels on the floor,etc etc basically cr@p everywhere, I came n tonght and lost it with him, he has walked out, ,,,well I think I may have pushed hm but OH MY GOD did I want a cigarette, 11 weeks in with out even a crave but tonight I really really want one!!! Thank g0d I don't live within a 10 minute walk of a shop and since the argument I have downed a bottle of wine so no driving... I do love him but cant carry on with the stress and stuff....

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Good thinking drinking too much wine to be able to drive!! I think situations like that anger, stress, sadness etc are still associated with ciggies until you get used to experiencing them without a ciggie. For years situations like that went hand in hand with ciggies, it may take a while for our brains to stop the association!!

I hope you work things out with your son.

Sarah

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ok, they say the crave lasts 3 mnutes, I argued, shouted etc, he is now God knows where, at his dads or girlfriends but I HAVE NOT SMOKED!!!! just goes to prove that smoking does not help!!! If I had smoked I would still feel cr@p but I would smell too!!! Who s the winner now HEHAHEHA!!

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ahh bless, he is creeping, a text sayng he can understand where |I am comng from...

[nsd_user663_56712]

Good thinking drinking too much wine to be able to drive!! I think situations like that anger, stress, sadness etc are still associated with ciggies until you get used to experiencing them without a ciggie. For years situations like that went hand in hand with ciggies, it may take a while for our brains to stop the association!!

I hope you work things out with your son.

Sarah

it is amazing how we all link situations with smoking...oh no, we cant cope without a cig...rubbish!!! and I think I may have worried him enough that we will be able to talk and sort things out

Ooooh, not fun hon!

First up, you probably had every justification to blow a gasket - you're not his housekeeper, you're his mother and if he wants to be treated like an adult then he needs to start pulling his weight and not only stop making work for you but actually do his share of the chores!

Thank you for confirming what I have been trying to get over to him

Maybe it would be a good idea to sit down with him when he reappears and lay some ground rules so that he knows what you expect and can either do his part or, if he doesn't like it, find his own place.

Absolutely!!! Ill try and peruade him away from cornwall shall I ??:eek:

Well done for not caving hon, unfortunately we always met stressful situations by reaching for a smoke so it'll take a fair few of those to come and go before your brain stops shouting "smoke!" at every one. So be chuffed that you've already handled one, the next time will be easier, I promise! ]

This has been the first time n 11 weeks that I have felt close so thanks everyone for being here and listening to me moan xxxx