I really hope your situation improves soon. That must be so hard to manage to not smoke in such a stressful situation. But you have done it, so well done! In comparison, the rest of the quit should be smooth sailing... Ok maybe not smooth, but you have managed to do something pretty admirable! I know I wouldn't have contemplated giving up smoking during a stressful time. In fact, I always used it as an excuse to delay my quit. So good for you!
You should most certainly continue with the quit. The group on this forum are amazing at raising spirits when you are down. Just post what you are feeling and a really nice supportive fellow quitter will respond. You will probably also find yourself offering support to others - which makes you feel fab when you help someone else.
I'm sure your family are just worried about you and want to see you happy again. Try think positively about the quit as it is a huge positive step you have taken to a healthier and more prosperous life. And..... You won't be smelly at future job interviews........
20 a day, 5 year smoker - stopped Sunday 19th May 5AM Cold Turkey
Basically lost my job last week, now in serious financial issues!!
I feel so depressed to a point its affecting my family. My mum, dad, sister are worried I am having trouble sleeping etc
Im thinking, I should have a few smokes for a few months...ill get back on my feet then quit!
What ya'll think?
thanks
Hi Bobsan
Sorry you lost your job and are having a tough time - it's not fun at the best of times!!
But, smoking isn't the answer!! Evn if they weren't stinky, lethal, addictive, and so on they're £8 a packet!! If you've lost your job that's a hell of a lot of expense you can't afford - and cmoking for a set time is an illusion once you've got addicted. I never believe it when ex-smokers say they only smoke in certain situations.
For your deprssion, go and see your GP see what they can do to help and don't give up on your quit!!
You are NOT pathetic coming to this forum!!! We have all probably experienced varying levels of depression at different stages during our quits. You are having a really tough time and if you can keep up with the quit under such tough circumstances, you will have achieved something amazing!
Have some fizzy water, go for a walk, breathe in the scent of the spring flowers, do anything to try forget about smoking for a little while. It will pass soon and you will be amazed by how much your mood improves. Go see your gp to discuss your quit - he/she will be able to advise on suitable NRT for you if you wish. Some of us take tablets (Champix), some use patches or gum, some use e-cigs (like me) and others go cold turkey. Whatever works best for you, but don't give in when you are doing so well. The cravings are the worst at the start. It will get better!
Thing is I've gone 4 days without smoking, I can handle the anger, the crave everything about it.
Being depressed is something I can't handle. I'm not the type of person to be depressed I'm the loudest one In the room! How long will this last? Will nRT fix the depressing factor ?
You are NOT pathetic coming to this forum!!! We have all probably experienced varying levels of depression at different stages during our quits. You are having a really tough time and if you can keep up with the quit under such tough circumstances, you will have achieved something amazing!
Have some fizzy water, go for a walk, breathe in the scent of the spring flowers, do anything to try forget about smoking for a little while. It will pass soon and you will be amazed by how much your mood improves. Go see your gp to discuss your quit - he/she will be able to advise on suitable NRT for you if you wish. Some of us take tablets (Champix), some use patches or gum, some use e-cigs (like me) and others go cold turkey. Whatever works best for you, but don't give in when you are doing so well. The cravings are the worst at the start. It will get better!
I don't know if NRT will help. For me going cold turkey has not worked due to the depression I felt. I am using e-cigs this time and haven't had anywhere near the depression - probably 1 day out of the last 31. For one people the gum helps for urgent cravings, but the patches give you a constant supply of nicotine that may help. Reading the Allen Carr book might also help as this made me feel more negative about smoking and stopped me from thinking that I needed to smoke to be happy. You have only smoked for 5 years and I'm assuming you were happy before, so you do not need ciggies to be happy (your addiction just makes you think you do).
If you want to try an e-cig, you can get them online, or from many shops/garages, although I know many on this forum don't agree with them. They have helped me enormously.
Just keep talking about it until it passes - it will pass. I'm sure tomorrow will be a better day!!!
I feel so pathetic coming to this forum! I sound like a total junkie I'm a young male I can't believe how sad my life has become
You are definitely *not* pathetic!!
We're all in the same boat on here, addicts yes but not pathetic!!
Smoking turns us into junkies and that sucks but when you get through the bad bits you're going to feel heaps better - if you didn't I'd have started up again
NRT might be an option - it will take the edge off your craves and it definitely helped me. Gum or lozenges might be your best bet 'cos then you can take them as and when you deed to, rather than having a constant supply you don't need.
I'd say stay away from e-cigs at all costs - 'cos I got one and got myself as hooked on those as I was on the real ones. They *sound* brilliant, but they're too much like the real thing and not sold as NRT but a replaement for the real thing.
Don't beat yourself up about being down - it's the withdrawal, and it is only a temporary phase while your brain gets used to making hormones again. Nicotine mimics your natural feel good ones, hence why you're feeling c*ap now.
Sorry about the job etc, but it sounds like you've come here to get the okay to smoke from a group of people who have worked really hard to quit, just like you.
Why would we ever suggest that you should begin smoking again?
As for the interviews you have coming up, you think stinking of fags is going to go down well? I know they're tough and it really gets your nerves going, but smoking is proven to not help with nerves and stress.
I just had a major bust up with my dad. I'm 22 years old male and I'm crying like a little girl in my bed. I just wanna die. I swear I need to start smoking this **** is killing me so badly. I'm fed up
Bobsan, I wish I could give you a hug right now!!! I don't know what to say to you that will help, but smoking isn't the answer. Is there a non-smoking good friend nearby you can call on to have a chat to?
Alternatively call your gp, or go get some gum or an e-cig and try that. I'm worried about you - such severe depression cannot be solved by smoking (in fact no depression can be solved by smoking).
Please hang in there - it WILL get better soon. Keep talking to us.
Bobsan, I wish I could give you a hug right now!!! I don't know what to say to you that will help, but smoking isn't the answer. Is there a non-smoking good friend nearby you can call on to have a chat to?
Alternatively call your gp, or go get some gum or an e-cig and try that. I'm worried about you - such severe depression cannot be solved by smoking (in fact no depression can be solved by smoking).
Please hang in there - it WILL get better soon. Keep talking to us.
Friends? I dont have any friends, they all let me down. They broke my heart, and the couple I do trust and talk to....dont smoke they wont understand the ones that dooo think this quit smoking wont last and will lol away
and my other friends I dont tell them about my personal life.....i never tell anyone nothing!
I swear I am so fedup.....I can handle all this crap with smoking.....im inches away from just buying a pack....if I never thrown them out I would of smoked for sure!
It sounds to me like you have a lot of unhappiness in your life - probably nothing to do with your quit attempt. The addiction is just telling you it will fix it, but it is lying to you. What about talking to family - telling them exactly how you are feeling. They must be able to comfort you?
Please go see a doctor to talk this through as I'm sure getting it all off your chest will help you. It's hard when friends let you down, but perhaps those relationships can be fixed. Just try and detach cigarettes from the other **** that is going on.
Alternatively why not write a long letter about everything that is upsetting you - sometimes getting it out helps?
It sounds to me like you have a lot of unhappiness in your life - probably nothing to do with your quit attempt. The addiction is just telling you it will fix it, but it is lying to you. What about talking to family - telling them exactly how you are feeling. They must be able to comfort you?
Please go see a doctor to talk this through as I'm sure getting it all off your chest will help you. It's hard when friends let you down, but perhaps those relationships can be fixed. Just try and detach cigarettes from the other **** that is going on.
Alternatively why not write a long letter about everything that is upsetting you - sometimes getting it out helps?
Some great ideas here.
And I would definately recommend seeing your gp about your quit.
Don't know if anything I say will help, but I'll give it a go.
Its a s*&t that you lost your job and are going through a hellish time.
I can relate (kind of) I know I'm old enough to be your mum but I do feel your pain and understand how low you are feeling.
I am also going through a very bad time at the moment, with an unwell mum, my health is definitely not great and I'm on long term sick at the moment. I quit for 3 weeks and then caved, I started my quit again today, I have an interview coming up for a job next month and so am using this as a reason to stick to this quit.
If you are so low that you just want to cry or are crying then I suggest you see your GP. It is not a weakness and you mustn't see it this way. Please PM me if you need a chat.
STick with the quit, cigarettes DO NOT make everything better, I am proof of that. I was smoking and everything still went t*ts up. Thats what made me realise that having a cig was just making me feel more low. I was scared about failing again but with this forum I am going to stick to it this time. Stay here with us, There are loads of great people on here to support and get you through this.
Don't know if anything I say will help, but I'll give it a go.
Its a s*&t that you lost your job and are going through a hellish time.
I can relate (kind of) I know I'm old enough to be your mum but I do feel your pain and understand how low you are feeling.
I am also going through a very bad time at the moment, with an unwell mum, my health is definitely not great and I'm on long term sick at the moment. I quit for 3 weeks and then caved, I started my quit again today, I have an interview coming up for a job next month and so am using this as a reason to stick to this quit.
If you are so low that you just want to cry or are crying then I suggest you see your GP. It is not a weakness and you mustn't see it this way. Please PM me if you need a chat.
STick with the quit, cigarettes DO NOT make everything better, I am proof of that. I was smoking and everything still went t*ts up. Thats what made me realise that having a cig was just making me feel more low. I was scared about failing again but with this forum I am going to stick to it this time. Stay here with us, There are loads of great people on here to support and get you through this.
I hope some of that made sense
Amanda
I didn't realise how bad things were for you Amanda It makes you all the more admirable in my eyes!
Bob, if you follow in this lady's footsteps it will pay off. Bouncing back after going through so much c*** is what makes us stronger
A) Got a job interview lined up tomorrow, its more of quick interview before the actual interview which will take place later.
B) Someone called me today about finding me a job (recruitment agency)
C) I am seriously considering starting to smoke again, because I feel like I am going crazy sometimes / depressed. I know people are saying go to the GP regarding this but I dont wanna do this its not only going to be embarrassing for myself...BUT its going to worry my family....my mum is very ill and I dont want to make her any more upset!
D) I have a dentist appointment today....going to the dentist after 5 years...since I started smoking I have never been....worried!!!!
I'm glad you are feeling better and things seem to be going a bit smoother. I really hope you don't smoke, as it is just going to get harder to stop in the future. Most of us have smoked for a lot longer than you and I can assure you it gets harder. But it's up to you of course.
I hope your mum gets better soon - perhaps she would feel happier knowing that her son was a non-smoker! Just saying.......
I'm glad you are feeling better and things seem to be going a bit smoother. I really hope you don't smoke, as it is just going to get harder to stop in the future. Most of us have smoked for a lot longer than you and I can assure you it gets harder. But it's up to you of course.
I hope your mum gets better soon - perhaps she would feel happier knowing that her son was a non-smoker! Just saying.......
Lol - You know what the issue is. I think non smokers dont understand how hard it is to quit!!!
Anyway I feel so much better I have not smoked! Going to actually WALK today because I feel so healthy to the town centre normally I drive because I am so lazy lol!
Thank you for caring I am so surprised this community is so strong! its amazing!!!!
Lol - You know what the issue is. I think non smokers dont understand how hard it is to quit!!!
Anyway I feel so much better I have not smoked! Going to actually WALK today because I feel so healthy to the town centre normally I drive because I am so lazy lol!
Thank you for caring I am so surprised this community is so strong! its amazing!!!!
The thing is, we can't really expect non-smokers (or never smokers, as I call them) to understand how difficult it is. In their defence, we've chosen to take up a nasty, filthy habit, that robs us blind and makes us stink. It inevitabley ends in some kind of illness or in death by disease, and is something that hasn't been forced upon us.
The friends of mine who smoke realise that it can be a real battle to give it up (after all, we don't mean to get addicted in the first place). But I know better than to expect a pat on the back from friends who have never smoked. And that's absolutely fine by me. I wouldn't have that much sympathy for an alcoholic who is trying to give it up (I would, of course, support them if they were a friend), as I just don't get why you would let it control your life.
No I don't think you are the only person who liked smoking. I think we all "liked" smoking in one way or another. The difference is that many of us have recognised that it was not a conscious decision to like it - it was the addiction talking. I have also fantasised about having a ciggie at times. But I think the reality would be very different. Do you remember the first ciggie you ever had? Did you enjoy that one? I know that I didn't, but I persevered because I was rebelling! It took many cigarettes before I started liking them (but that was only once I was addicted).
Hiya just saw you thread. Wow you are facing a lot at the moment. I'm sorry to hear about the job and other stuff you have going on.
Obviously it makes sense that stopping smoking will save you loads, so will help with finances.
As for people to understand and support you, that is what this forum is for. And god knows everyone on here is positive, supporting, caring, undertsanding and so far not been judgemental. Hey we are what we are. We all cope differently with situations. Some have an easier time of quitting than others and i think you have to find what works for you. Some people may not quit on their 1st attempt, but hey there is always the next time to try again and keep on trying until your there.
As for your quit you have come so far already. You have done so well & have already faced a lot. You should be proud and confident that you can do this and you will. Anytime you need to talk pop on hear and air it all, everyone replies so quick too. I personally have been reading a lot of information regarding my quit. Visit a site called whyquit. It has helped me greatly. There are many things to read and you will find a few things out i bet you never knew about smoking. That is one site i came across, there are probably hundreds.
So please, please, please stick with it and believe in yourself because we believe in you 👍👍👍👍
No I don't think you are the only person who liked smoking. I think we all "liked" smoking in one way or another. The difference is that many of us have recognised that it was not a conscious decision to like it - it was the addiction talking. I have also fantasised about having a ciggie at times. But I think the reality would be very different. Do you remember the first ciggie you ever had? Did you enjoy that one? I know that I didn't, but I persevered because I was rebelling! It took many cigarettes before I started liking them (but that was only once I was addicted).
I started smoking sheesha / bong / waterpipe based smoking about 16 coming from a british pakistani family, this was quite the normal with cousins family etc, etc....so fags was just something really mina for me....enjoy the sheesha so I guess I enjoyed the fags!!
Hiya just saw you thread. Wow you are facing a lot at the moment. I'm sorry to hear about the job and other stuff you have going on.
Obviously it makes sense that stopping smoking will save you loads, so will help with finances.
As for people to understand and support you, that is what this forum is for. And god knows everyone on here is positive, supporting, caring, undertsanding and so far not been judgemental. Hey we are what we are. We all cope differently with situations. Some have an easier time of quitting than others and i think you have to find what works for you. Some people may not quit on their 1st attempt, but hey there is always the next time to try again and keep on trying until your there.
As for your quit you have come so far already. You have done so well & have already faced a lot. You should be proud and confident that you can do this and you will. Anytime you need to talk pop on hear and air it all, everyone replies so quick too. I personally have been reading a lot of information regarding my quit. Visit a site called whyquit. It has helped me greatly. There are many things to read and you will find a few things out i bet you never knew about smoking. That is one site i came across, there are probably hundreds.
So please, please, please stick with it and believe in yourself because we believe in you 👍👍👍👍
Awwwwww!! Thanks you soooo much!!! This is so kind of you !!!
Madam! I have already quit, I do not need anymore webites like whyquit etc! I am an ex smoker! Its going to be 5 days from 5AM tomorrow morning! As far as I am aware I am an EX SMOKER!
It depends on what you're looking for bobsan - you can get them with zero nicotine but obviously using one will mimic smoking so you won't actually get free of the whole hand-to-mouth habit which is actually the hardest part of this whole quitting malarkey for most of us. After all, your body is already clear of nicotine so the craves you're getting are nothing to do with your body wanting nicotine and everything to do with your mental programming saying that you need the action of smoking.
It's really your call mate, some people are happy with how an e-cig is working for them, others, like our Gemma, have had one hell of a shock realising just how dependent they've become on the damn thing and are having to go through what is, in effect, a second quit.
Whatever you choose to do, I would strongly recommend getting hold of a copy of Allen Carr's Easyway to Stop Smoking book - it really does make a huge contribution to reprogramming our poor confused brains and can make the whole process sooooo much easier.
Its 5 days from 5AM today, tbh the first 3 days and sort of half day today was so bad.
I am fine now, my friends came to my house and they where sitting there smoking sheesha / waterbased hookah what ever you wanna call it. I never had a single puff of it or anything
I was only thinking it is because I genuinely like smoking, its something I enjoy. Might be the way I am programmed since I started smoking or something, but hey thats life!
I wont' get the e-cog even though you can get nicotine free.....ill keep going as I am.
Tomorrow I have a job interview, and I feel so positive and I dont feel like I need the fag either
Yes I agree, give it a few days and it will be so much easier!!! You are doing brilliantly just don't give up now!! You can do it. Hope the interview went well!
Fakkkin hell!! The craves today feel so much stronger and longer today! Its been 4 days, 10 hours and 14 minutes! Surly it should feel easier !
You're almost through the worst of it, but these feelings are normal
Try to keep your mind occupied and stay positive. Do things that make you happy and will keep you busy for a little while. Sitting and stewing over how it should or should not feel will only make you feel worse.
Sorry haven't been updating this thread was extremely busy!
Interview went well and I'm going to be invited back to the 2nd stage
Something STUPID happened at mid day today and It's made me very angry. Honestly it's nothing to get angry about but I am feel long so angry and it's ruining my Saturday with family!
It's been 6 days 15 hours since I quit!!!
I'm thinking if I have just that ONE cigratte will I get addicted to it all over again? The one fag will calm me down I know it, and I know everyone is going to say its not worth it. Honestly I've been angry for 5 hours ill have one fag and if it won't make me addicted again it'll be worth it!!
I'm thinking if I have just that ONE cigratte will I get addicted to it all over again? The one fag will calm me down I know it, and I know everyone is going to say its not worth it. Honestly I've been angry for 5 hours ill have one fag and if it won't make me addicted again it'll be worth it!!
Short answer is yes, one fag will make you addicted.
Long and not nice answer is that we are all addicts here, and we always will be, same way as an alcoholic can't have "one drink" we can't have one fag.
18 months after I stubbed out my last fag last quit I (same as you) had a row and bougth a pack of 20. Within a short space of time i was smoking as much as I ever did, and more. :mad:
And smoking doesn't calm you down - nicotine is a stimulant, how could it?
You *think* it calms you down 'cos it shuts up the craving but it doesn't!!
Short answer is yes, one fag will make you addicted.
Long and not nice answer is that we are all addicts here, and we always will be, same way as an alcoholic can't have "one drink" we can't have one fag.
18 months after I stubbed out my last fag last quit I (same as you) had a row and bougth a pack of 20. Within a short space of time i was smoking as much as I ever did, and more. :mad:
And smoking doesn't calm you down - nicotine is a stimulant, how could it?
You *think* it calms you down 'cos it shuts up the craving but it doesn't!!
You know when I get like this, I normally smoke and think allow arguing let it rest life goes on, or I hardly ever get angry over stupid things.
This situation has made me so angry and no man in the world would get angry over it, the only way I can possibly get over this I think is scream and shout at the person who made me angry but it won't make sense because she done nothing wrong, or smoke and move on with life!?
I don't know why after nearly 7 days this is happining to me, I've been going strong. My friends have been smoking infront of me and I haven't even been tempted to smoke!
You know when I get like this, I normally smoke and think allow arguing let it rest life goes on, or I hardly ever get angry over stupid things.
This situation has made me so angry and no man in the world would get angry over it, the only way I can possibly get over this I think is scream and shout at the person who made me angry but it won't make sense because she done nothing wrong, or smoke and move on with life!?
I don't know why after nearly 7 days this is happining to me, I've been going strong. My friends have been smoking infront of me and I haven't even been tempted to smoke!
That's because you're recovering from an addiction.
Stick with it and it will go away.
No offence, but you're talking yourself into smoking again - which obviously is your choice, but nobody here is going to tell you it's any kind of answer or a good idea because it isn't.
We've *all* gone through c*ap times on here, we've all had times when we thought "oh eff it I'll have a fag" but we didn't and we don't get that any more.
If you still want to quit, pick yourself up and start again. You tried cold turkey - which is very hard at the beginning. If you can`t take the stress of that at the moment, sort out a plan to help you cope when the going gets tough. What about using patches, gum. lozzenges to get you through the first few `no smoking` days? We can`t all cope with CT. What matters is that you stop smoking. You have to want it though. Sorry things are so tough for you at the moment.
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