What day am i on??? lol

Seriously I cant count - what day am i on? I stopped on 9 January. I am too lazy to count the calendar!!

Apart from my "blip" i am continuing with this quit. it has been eaten me up all week. I have promised myself i wont do it again as i cant believe how rubbish and cheated i feel in myself. Only consolation i have is that i was so drunk i really cant remember properly (not an excuse).

Frustrated in myself aarrghhH!!!

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  • Hey, you are still with us. That is what counts. Hopefully you from this and wont ever do it again. I also hope, and I mean this in a good way, you stunk to high heaven the next day. Just a nasty reminder of what you should not do..LOL

    I quit on 1-1 and am on day 53, so you would be day 44. Actually I quit on 12/31 but don't count it as I smoked that day, all day long until I made myself sick. I think I may of smoked 70 fags on my last day. YUCK!!!

    Keep up the quit and I am watching you.....you can do it!!! ppat

  • You smoked 15 cigarettes!

    Your conscience is your own, but if it was me I would have gone back to day 1.

    Some people have had the odd puff, some have smoked 1 or 2, you smoked 15.

    Just saying.

  • not going back to day 1, have came this far and this week has been tough, although day one at the start of my quit was a hell of a lot harder. i just feel gutted in myself more than anything. if i get to 6 months i will say "yes i have stopped for 6 months but had one blip near the beginning" its far to disheartening to go back to day one after a silly drunken mistake.

    Day 44 - thats a lot of days!! Yes i did smell awful. To be honest i am guessing i had 15 smokes but it wasnt anymore, like i say i was so drunk cant remember. i am trying to look at the positives of this blip and look at it as a reminder why i stopped in the first place because as soon as i was sober all those "stop smoking" reasons where there - had no incline to smoke anymore, that has got to be a step in the right direction.

    I still havent smoked for 43 days!! lol thanks guys x

  • Not good to have smoked into your quit. But if you have not had anymore 43days stick to it. But always remember drinking loads does not help. All the best with your quit 9 january. Jacqui

  • Well i stopped on 9 January, unsure how many days but it is around 6 weeks. Had a good friends birthday bash on Friday night and went on a complete bender, drinking all night through to saturday and the inevitable happened - i smoked about 15 fags. I was so drunk i didnt care!

    This post was dated 21st February 2012 and would make the date you smoked 15 cigarettes or so the 17th/18th February 2012

    not going back to day 1........I still havent smoked for 43 days!!

    This post is dated 22nd February 2012.

    You're dreaming, you haven't smoked for 4/5 days not 43.

    Disheartening or not, 15 cigarettes is not a "blip" it's 3/4 of a packet.

    You should be true to yourself because the only person you are cheating is you.

  • the reason i was asking how days i was on was to get back on track, i may be cheating in the number of days but like i have just posted on another post i am on this part of the forum to share experiences that i am going through which i feel are a lot different to those starting their quit on day one.

    there is too much emphasis on the number of days, i havent smoked for 43 days and i am motivating myself to continue and not make the same mistake again. i dont need my msgs "quoted" to tell me how well i am doing. i feel the benefits. thanks for your feedback though

  • How can you seriously say you haven't smoked for 43 days?

    You had 15 cigarettes 4 or 5 days ago!

    Come on, stop deluding yourself.

  • i was on day 44 and taking one day off lol hey if it helps my mindset to continue not to smoke does it really matter??

  • It's your quit and you do with it what you like, but don't say you haven't smoked in 43 days when you had 15 within the last 5 days.

    My integrity wouldn't let me lie to myself but you are different.

    We will have to agree to disagree on it.

  • karri u have just made me LOL thanks

    I was close to deleting my profile there to be honest.

    I havent made a big deal of counting days but was curious to know.

  • Lol!

    What's an iron?

    Look, I'm not trying to make anyone feel bad and I admire January for getting back on a quit, but I'm sorry if being principled and having integrity is such a bad thing. :(

  • Yeh, I'll make it easy and delete mine instead.

  • The picture says it all...love Charlie Brown

  • Did you inhale?

    Hi 9 January

    Did you inhale? Ahhhh you can't remember can you? Drinking does that:cool:

    Therefore you did not smoke & you're on Day 45.:)

    (I know how Solomon felt!!!)

  • Liking your style nonico.

    Everyone is different Captain,and finds their own way, and being so down on others is far from helpful, which is what this place is suppossed to be all about x

  • I have no wish to demotivate anyone and if you check my posts I think you will find that in the last week I have contributed to helping 2 people not to smoke in their hour of need.

    How will new quitters view it when they see people smoking a lot of cigarettes, 6 weeks into a quit, yet consider it not to have really broken the quit?

    January has said on more than one occasion that counting the days does not really matter. If that's the case then what's the problem with being honest and going back to day 1?

    I really don't want to upset anyone or be possibly blamed for someone smoking because of what I have posted but I just see it differently to others.

    I really cannot see how you can justify 10 -15 cigarettes and still claim you are on a 6 week quit.

    Because I don't want to upset people further, I'll take some time out of the forum and decide if it's wise to come back.

    If I don't, I'd like to thank everyone on here who helped me and I'll still be looking out for people, just not posting.

    Gary

  • I think you're a valuable member.

    How will new quitters view it when they see people smoking a lot of cigarettes, 6 weeks into a quit, yet consider it not to have really broken the quit?

    Don't worry about them. I'm sure they'll see it for what it is - an effort to keep 9 January psychologically strong.

    I hope you do post in the forum as you are a very valuable member. You've strived to motivate people and gave out a lot of energy to others.

    I wish you would just see the whole thing as a difference of opinion & nothing more.

  • I'm sure they would have resolved it if they were left alone to. Capitan did say they'd have to agree to disagree....this happens a lot, so sorry for sticking my oar in too, but I'm sure people would solve differences between each other if just left to it.

    Lisa xxx

  • I agree Lisa. I think it is up to the individual how they manage their quit, but we do open ourselves up to other peoples opinion when we post on here and sometimes it will differ from our own. We are all entitled to our opinion and to voice it so I don't think we should jump down peoples throats for giving us theirs.......that's why we are on here after all:D Good luck everyone, whatever way you are doing this:D

  • Capitan please dont delete your profile. Lets agree to disagree on the number of days!

    Feeling good today :D

  • Please remember:

    Opinions are like A rse holes

    Everyone has one

  • You smoked 15 cigarettes!

    Your conscience is your own, but if it was me I would have gone back to day 1.

    Some people have had the odd puff, some have smoked 1 or 2, you smoked 15.

    Just saying.

    i would say the same, how did you manage to smoke 15? thats not a slip really is it. But good on you on get back on the wagon. its upto you how you work your way through your quit. but im with Gary i would go back to day one. your only really kidding yourself.:confused:

    Hey good luck, we all need it.

  • I was paralyetically drunk - i remember smoking perhaps 2 or 3 but that is it. my friends told me how many. i never ever ever ever drink that much but had my reasons. it was a one off.

    i am going to start back at day one (from last Sunday) and this time it will be easier because i have the bonus of having 43 days or whatever it is behind me as a wee head start!! That decision has came from comments received on this forum lol ;)

    Anyone reading my posts - watch alcohol it's evil!!!!

  • Its up to YOU January 9

    We all have our own opinions on this as stated before - but ultimately this decision is yours - don't be pressured by anyone else.

    Personally - I would go back to Day 1 - just to "punish" myself and also - I'm really into Milestones. However, I completely see your point around the fact that in the 44 days - you were smoke-free for 43 of them.

    The drink is a devil and has caused me to slip/blip/start again in the past - interesting that you still have to be on your guard after 44 days.

  • I completely agree with Chris and drinking has also nearly always been my downfall so I am not going to indulge for a few weeks at least.

    I certainly am going to be saving lots of money which I intend to spend on nice things for myself and my new fresher home :)

  • Not this old argument again

    Day 151:

    Its January 9's quit he can do what he likes with it :rolleyes:

    I don't want to smoke, even after a several shandies :cool:

  • Personally, I'm into milestones too and think way too much about things. If I'd reached the penthouse knowing I'd had a blip along the way, I dunno I'd sorta feel fake standing in the penthouse. This is just how I'd feel about myself not others (rather strange that)...other people can do what they like.....but myself I'd rather stand there in the knowledge I'd done a complete year without smoking at all. The victory would be that much sweeter for myself. Like I said this is entirely how I would feel about things and it's completely upto anyone else what they do. If they're comfortable with a blip/slip then do it....it's just I would feel like I'd cheated myself.

    Keep on trucking guys.

    Lisa x

  • the thing is peeps if you allow one slip up to discounted it gives permission for other discounts to sneak in. i personally would have to go back to day one but i would be reticent about it. no one but moi would know, at the end of the day im rubbish at kidding myself.

    mash x

  • Keep on Keeping on! You have only lost 1 day babe!

    I'm sorry but my take is your 1 day less...you goofed 1 day...I consider it

    as if I were on a diet...I mess up and have a 4 piecees of Chocolate..

    well guess what...I got back on the straight an narrow and I will not kill

    myself over it....tuff coookies...sometimes it be like that...So Jan09...

    Count anyway you like! IN THE LONG RUN this is your FIGHT and no one else's! God Bless... ;)

  • Days quit

    Why not do what pfaber11 does and call it 39+5 (or whatever) That way you are not going back to square 1 (and why should you, you have done really well) but you are still acknowledging the blip. Smoking once but still being determined to continue the quit is brilliant. How many of us have collapsed straight away in past once we've lapsed? I am giving up for about the 6th time. On day 53 and determined not to lapse but if I do I hope I would deal with it as well as you.:)

  • after a long think about it and numerous discussion about it i have decided to continue my quit with my start date as of 9 january, then when i get to say 6 months and asked this will be my response: "i have stopped for six months but cheated one day back in February" LOL LOL sounds like a plan

    feeling very very good today - i had a slip up and im still here a week later as a non smoker - very tough :) never making that mistake again - no way hozay!

    thanks to all for your support with this - i have a clear conscionce now and clearly cant spell this morning!!

  • 9 Jan your plan sounds good, I suggest worry about the integrity of the quit at the penthouse gates in 10 months time. As a fellow blipper thats what im aiming to do

  • after a long think about it and numerous discussion about it i have decided to continue my quit with my start date as of 9 january, then when i get to say 6 months and asked this will be my response: "i have stopped for six months but cheated one day back in February" LOL LOL sounds like a plan

    Good for you January!! I think the simplest thing is for you to say 'in the last six weeks I have only had one night smoking'. Surely that is better than the six weeks before???? I think the structure of this forum is totally wrong. Day 1, Day 2, Day 3, Day 4 etc lol its like doing pressups, we do so many and eventually collapse in a heap on the floor, cos we can't do no more. And its always going to be like that. And you are NOT back in day 1 cos you are NOT suffering the physical withdrawals of a day 1 quitter. So Day 1, Day 2, Day 3, Day 4, I AM NOT fitting into that anymore cos I AM NOT A FIGURE IN AN INTERNET SPREADSHEET LOL!!!! As far as I am concerned, I am a HUMAN BEING, and I started my adventures into quitting smoking on 23rd September 2011 at 12.14pm, and that is where it is staying!!!! Obviously I am not saying that I am five months quit because I am NOT :rolleyes: but in the last five months I have had more NOT smoking weeks than smoking weeks, and excuse me if I give myself a bit of kudos for that as it is a damn sight big improvement on the five months before!!!!

    I don't DO perfection, and I don't expect others to either. Scuse the rant, but there is FAR too much pettyfogging, nitpicking on here.

    Love,

    Zoe xxxx

  • Zoemac....

    Scuse the rant, but there is FAR too much pettyfogging, nitpicking on here.

    There is no such thing...there are opinions that is all. It is up to the individual to read and evaluate such opinions and decide what the best course of action is for themselves. 9 January has done this and decided what is best to do for her on her quit. If all opinions were the same we would be chuffin away on 60 a day.

    With all the best intentions Lisa x

  • 9 Jan your plan sounds good, I suggest worry about the integrity of the quit at the penthouse gates in 10 months time. As a fellow blipper thats what im aiming to do

    Agree Andrew :D and I for one won't be going anywhere near the penthouse, its too old hat :rolleyes:

    Will be the luxury yacht for me, sailing somewhere nice, with REAL people lol :rolleyes:

    Zoe xxxx

  • Yeah Lisa, there are opinions, and MY opinion is there is TOO MUCH PETTYFOGGING NITPICKING on here. KK????

    Zoe :rolleyes:

  • We will have to agree to disagree I'm afraid. What's a pettyfog?

  • If all opinions were the same we would be chuffin away on 60 a day.

    If all opinions were the same we would all agree that smoking sucks, but that is just my opinion of course.

    Berra shurrit now I guess.

    Zoe xx

  • Oh I see....

    Pettifogging

    1. insignificant; petty: pettifogging details.

    2. dishonest or unethical in insignificant matters; meanly petty.

    Wowser...that's erm......harsh!

  • What's a pettyfog?

    Erm, not sure lol :o its an expression I picked up from my 81 year old mother and she is a born and bred brummie????

    Zoe xxxx

  • Erm what I was trying to say by "If all opinions were the same we would be chuffin away on 60 a day. "

    Is that without some friendly differences of opinion we wouldn't build up any collective knowledge of why we were smoking in the first place and which would be the best way to stop for any given individual...if you get what I'm trying to say. We would have but one opinion and we all know that one opinion may suit one individual but not others...therefore the others would probably continue to smoke....ahh mind boggling.

    See above to see what pettifogging is (sounds rude to me and it sure isn't a brummie term LOL!)

  • Lets all take a chill pill! hugs to you all come on guys.We are all trying to do the same thing here.BUT I must agree with Zoe,life is too short for such pettyness.Who cares day 1 day 8,we have stopped,end of. x x

  • Huh...I'm not being petty....I'm just saying there's lots of opinions on the forum...we just have to filter through it and decide what's best for us. That's all. I ain't getting arsey...in fact I'm here chillin with my beer...XXXXXX The welsh won in the rugby...my welsh husband is jubilant...his english wife has had two beers! :)

    Peace to all

    Lisa x

  • Zoemac....

    There is no such thing...there are opinions that is all. It is up to the individual to read and evaluate such opinions and decide what the best course of action is for themselves. 9 January has done this and decided what is best to do for her on her quit. If all opinions were the same we would be chuffin away on 60 a day.

    With all the best intentions Lisa x

    Have to agree, if we all had the same opinions then a forum would be pretty boring. Its nice to have someone with a different view. Being scared to voice an opinion because people will accuse us of putting people down is not very nice. I think we should all voice our own thoughts. After all, people post threads looking for different views.

    If 9january didn't want to be told a different opinion than he wanted to hear then he shouldn't have asked.

    But hey, at least he got back on it, that's my view :)

  • Lets all take a chill pill! hugs to you all come on guys.We are all trying to do the same thing here.BUT I must agree with Zoe,life is too short for such pettyness.Who cares day 1 day 8,we have stopped,end of. x x

    i totally agree, this place is not a finger pointing exercise, its a place to feel wanted, a place to be when you really need a warm hand when you feel low and fed up. We are all going through the same thing, we have all taken the very hard decision to pack in smoking. we do not need all this argueing.

    Ive been stopped just short of a month, and in the early days i used the strenght from this place, namely a few good friends (who to me are real, Unlike someone claimed they weren't) Gary(capitan) Polly777, Rochelle and Bec81. they were my strenght in my hour of need. please dont ruin a very good forum by being total idiots. so what if the forum is split in to days, hell they give you something to aim towards.

    If for a few people smoking between your quit days is how you find strenght and your happy within yourself then that is your choice.

    Others choose different ways.

    This is a shame that im having to write like this as i really did rely upon this place now i find im turning my back. tough i know but its just not the same.

    Im considering going alone and not posting any more.

    Shame, thanks forever thing people, you know who you are, you help me so much. i wouldnt be on day 27 without you.

    I will decide whether or not to post, only when people change their ways and stop being so petty as someone so righly said.

    Si

  • Gary now Si, I'm losing my quit buddies :( lol just do like me and only post on the threads you have something to contribute on. I've never rubbished anybodys ways, just gave advice and shared my own experiences

  • Wot do you mean Rochelle???? Come and talk to me now in our office, u no where I mean :D

    Don't get upset chick xxxx

    Zoe :)

  • Si & Rochelle, I'm still here and am staying on the forum.

    I just needed to take a break before I said something I regretted.

    Dolly's Mixtures is a strong team and nothing is going to break it up.

    Don't leave, all this will blow over soon :)

    Gary

  • Holy camoley this is like a soap opera...capitan comes in from the aisles....hiya Gary......I'm gonna faint or puke...or end up in a skip!

  • Wot do you mean Rochelle???? Come and talk to me now in our office, u no where I mean :D

    Don't get upset chick xxxx

    Zoe :)

    I'm not upset just everyone seems to be dropping lol ahhh the quick links thing at the top has buggered up, I can't get to the office :( lol I'm gonna go to bed. Hope everyones cheered up by tomorrow, its sunday and I get bored on sundays xx

  • Know quick links thingy don't work but you can get to groups from CP. Don't go to bed upset Rochelle please my friend :(

    Zoe xxxx

  • Meant control panel at top left if I wasn't clear. Soz if I being thick lol :rolleyes:

  • Know quick links thingy don't work but you can get to groups from CP. Don't go to bed upset Rochelle please my friend :(

    Zoe xxxx

    Meant control panel at top left if I wasn't clear. Soz if I being thick lol :rolleyes:

    I'm not going to bed upset man silly billy!! I'm fine lol ill try to get to it that way when I log on tomorrow. The thing is I hate getting the laptop out and mostly use my phone for this so not much room to explore on a blackberry screen lol xx

  • Ok Rochelle,

    Tc xxxx

  • I'm still here folks I just think this place has changed in such a short space of time. I don't know why? It may be me that's changed I don't know. But all I know is that its not a very welcoming place any more. I feel sad that we are all at each other in one way or another. Hell we are stopping smoking trying to help each other along the way. We are not judge and jury . We all have opinions. Its how we use them that makes us who we are. Welcome back Gary I've missed you matie

  • I've just posted this comment on Lisa's thread.

    On here we have testosterone, hormones and people trying to quit smoking, all of whom have varying opinions and ideas on how things should be approached and handled.

    It's not surprising that, every now and again, things boil over.

    Now my approach is typically male a la "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" in that I go into my cave.

    I do this to prevent me saying or doing things I would regret later.

    Sometimes people need to think about what they type before hitting the submit button, me included!

    Let's get back to normal folks, any more of this stress and we'll all back on Day 1! :D :D :D

  • Ha ha ha wise words my friend, wise words.

  • Just been reading through this and the *you smoked so get back to day one brigade* are still here and vocal I see. I had 1 smoke after over two months, the situation was that I had been made homeless and had been on the recieving end of threats of physical violence from my brother. I caved, I had one!

    I gave i to the *you smoked go back to months, do not pass go, do not collect your £200 brigade*

    The day after I smoked that one I didnt smoke, I didnt even feel like I wanted or needed one. I was honest, I posted about my slip and some of the comments made me feel so shite I stopped writing so often. I went back to day one, felt like shit, felt like I couldnt so this and started to smoke again. It took me many attempts to get back on track, 9 weeks actually.

    Now I dont post very often, I dont ask for advise, I pretty much ignore most of it. The days of support and help are gtting fewer and fewer on here and I hope that all of you *Im so perfect* crew get over yourselves and see that one slip need not the end be! Oh and I hope that if and when you have a bad day you dont need to ask for help.

    Ive waited months to be able to say that!!

  • Just been reading through this and the *you smoked so get back to day one brigade* are still here and vocal I see. I had 1 smoke after over two months, the situation was that I had been made homeless and had been on the recieving end of threats of physical violence from my brother. I caved, I had one!

    I gave i to the *you smoked go back to months, do not pass go, do not collect your £200 brigade*

    The day after I smoked that one I didnt smoke, I didnt even feel like I wanted or needed one. I was honest, I posted about my slip and some of the comments made me feel so shite I stopped writing so often. I went back to day one, felt like shit, felt like I couldnt so this and started to smoke again. It took me many attempts to get back on track, 9 weeks actually.

    Now I dont post very often, I dont ask for advise, I pretty much ignore most of it. The days of support and help are gtting fewer and fewer on here and I hope that all of you *Im so perfect* crew get over yourselves and see that one slip need not the end be! Oh and I hope that if and when you have a bad day you dont need to ask for help.

    Ive waited months to be able to say that!!

    Mmm, an interesting read Lillie and just in the interests of balance, I took a look through your old threads.

    The picture you have painted above does not seem to tally with the posts in those threads at all, in fact everyone seemed to be really supportive of you and you said as much yourself many times.

    Here is your "I slipped" thread where you say some of the comments made you feel "so shite I stopped writing so often".

    forum.nosmokingday.org.uk/s...

    I don't see them, I see everyone being really supportive.

    In all the threads you started after your slip, people are nothing but supportive in those too so I don't see why you feel the way you have described in this latest post.

    Just saying, as I think this forum is really supportive and I feel your comments are a little unfair.

  • the thing is peeps if you allow one slip up to discounted it gives permission for other discounts to sneak in. i personally would have to go back to day one but i would be reticent about it. no one but moi would know, at the end of the day im rubbish at kidding myself.

    mash x

    I agree with mash. Next thing you know, it's ok for everyone to have just a couple of slips (3 packs after 6 weeks quit, and 4 packs after 3 months quit) :eek: At the end of the day, you're fooling yourself. Besides, one year down the road it will seem trivial to have clung on to the few extra days.

    Having said that, I do understand the 1 or 2 fags which one immediately regrets and moves on... But, I'm not too sure where to drawn the line... difficult debate.

    Alex.

  • I think this is one of those threads that will divide us. Each to their own I say. My quit has to be all or nothing I'm afraid, but that is me.

    At the end of the day, we are accountable to ourselves. If you have had a blip, it's up to you wether you go back to day one, but if you post on here you will get other quitters opinions, that is why we are all here after all.

    We will all get advice/opinions that we may not agree with, but surely then it is up to you wether you act upon or accept it. If you do not accept it, then that is that, put it to bed and get on with your quit. There is no point in trying to force an opinion onto someone who doesn't agree with you.

    My view, don't post if you are not willing to accept different opinions. If you decide to post, then you will get comments, take them for what they are.......opinions. Happy quitting everyone :D

  • Oh Im sorry capitan did you also have access to my private mails? Oh and as someone esle said I dont need you to give links or quotes to my previous posts as I read them all the time to help me get through.

  • Oh Im sorry capitan did you also have access to my private mails? Oh and as someone esle said I dont need you to give links or quotes to my previous posts as I read them all the time to help me get through.

    Unfortunately you didnt say it was through private emails. Obviously your post made some of us look at what was said to you and instead of reading what you described, we read very supportive messages and it makes me wonder how those ppl would feel if they read the above post. I am sorry you feel you have been forced to do something you didnt want to, that should never happen. I will say it again, this forum is full of advice and opinions,m it is up to the individual wether they accept that.

  • Si22

    Si22 saidI'm still here folks I just think this place has changed in such a short space of time. I don't know why? It may be me that's changed I don't know. But all I know is that its not a very welcoming place any more. I feel sad that we are all at each other in one way or another. Hell we are stopping smoking trying to help each other along the way. We are not judge and jury . We all have opinions. Its how we use them that makes us who we are. Welcome back Gary I've missed you matie

    NAIL RIGHT ON THE HEAD

  • I've come to this one rather late but still want to put my two pence worth in.

    I'm really shocked by some of the comments but so pleased to see there were several offering support and encouragement. We all know what a hard and difficult journey this is. I'm beginning to feel as if it's the most difficult thing I'll ever do. We come onto the forum and do lay ourselves open to comments but we are all looking for support. Ultimately we have to decide for ourselves what numbers (and that's all they are) we follow. The important thing is to stop smoking recognise the blip and why it happened and keep going.

    Personally I think it shows immense strength of character to carry on. For me the easiest thing in the world would be to say 'ah well' smoke a pack of 20 and decide to try again in a few months time. Phew I'd think, I'm off the hook. Don't have to go through week 1 again!! But to pick yourself up, dust yourself off and say I'm going to carry on.... WELL DONE YOU!!!! I wish you all the luck in the world.

    x

  • It's really odd. Never met or spoken to the person who wrote the original post but I feel really upset by this thread. I posted a comment but still can't get it out of my mind. I joined a NHS group which finished a couple of weeks ago. We all quit on same date. A couple of members smoked on a night out when drunk. Our advisor warned us to beware of alcohol and drinking. They weren't castigated or banished from the group. I'm not suggesting this happened here BUT the last thing any of us need is sanctimony. We all need kindness though because this is hard and difficult journey.

    Fortunately, this forum is not my 'go to' in times of trouble. I've popped on intermittently to try and offer help and share experiences. But there's an 'air' and cliquey-ness here. Is this really what it's all about?!?! :(

  • It's really odd. Never met or spoken to the person who wrote the original post but I feel really upset by this thread. I posted a comment but still can't get it out of my mind. I joined a NHS group which finished a couple of weeks ago. We all quit on same date. A couple of members smoked on a night out when drunk. Our advisor warned us to beware of alcohol and drinking. They weren't castigated or banished from the group. I'm not suggesting this happened here BUT the last thing any of us need is sanctimony. We all need kindness though because this is hard and difficult journey.

    Fortunately, this forum is not my 'go to' in times of trouble. I've popped on intermittently to try and offer help and share experiences. But there's an 'air' and cliquey-ness here. Is this really what it's all about?!?! :(

    I disagree Pinkinc. I think there is lots of support on here. You will always get different opinions on things but I don't believe anyone has been banished. Everyone will deal with their quit as they see fit and they will not be thought any the less of. What you are reading is people's opinions and advice, we are in no way suggesting that any individual HAS to follow it. I am sorry you feel this way about the forum, I have found it and the ppl on it a great source of encouragement in my quit. I hope your quit is going well, and please post whenever you want, I can assure you that you will be treated the same way as everyone else :D

  • Like I said, it's peoples opinions and they all differ as the two very different posts above prove. But I would never dream of forcing mine onto Karri as she seems to have had different experiences from me. But to say she will be banished for having a different opinion to me is untrue, that's all I am saying :D

  • If anything, certain people should be banished for constantly referring to the forum going to the dogs because of a minority of members not liking the fact that some members constantly refer to the forum going to the dogs because of a minority of members :rolleyes:

    I hate martyrs with a passion, unless they are truly altruistic and fighting for the right cause... It rarely ever happens :p

    What I actually LIKE VERY MUCH about NSD is the fact that people can express their opinions without feeling opressed, or squeezed into a mold.

    Let's hope it stays that way.

    Alex.

  • Your first paragraph contradicts your third

    In what way?

  • I agree Felic, each to there own and well done on your 38days.

    Well for me i dont really mind how people quit.. or how they post! if they smoke quit, smoke quit...for the next 10 years! so long as it worth it and they get to that goal in the end..... However the layout of the forum is to support the days,week,months years..to give you that boost if you feel you needed to log that time to look back at! ....so of course an element of seriousness is going to happen ...like that person hasnt earned the right to be in eg 1 year..because they smoked on x,y,z occasions! I sort of understand that a little bit! and at the same time the person posting perhaps dosnt feel theyve earned the right either but are encouraged by other members to do so! i too understand that too!

    But everyone is different, just like every quit is different! if your happy and content inside about it and not smoking. Then post wherever you want too!

    on the other side how many members dont admit they have smoked! or dragged, blipped! but that is an untold story i suppose.

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