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Hello,

I would like to know how I can start stopping when in addition to the all the usual mental blocks (too hard, don't want to, enjoy it, too addicted, have tried everything, etc) I can stop when I live with two other people who smoke, one of whom doesn't really want to stop at all and the other won't or can't smoke outside so the house permanently smells of smoke upstairs and downstairs. I'm afraid that any suggestions about asking them or reasoning with them won't be helpful - elderly mother in law with the start of dementia who really doesn't care. I'm fed up and the kids are fed up with the smoking. My husband and I went away for a week and gave up for about 10 days nearly a year ago but it became almost impossible as soon as we came home.

Thanks.

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  • Hi and welcome to the forum

    :( sorry to read your finding it hard to stop smoking and it is a nightmare when you live with smokers but it is possible to do it read some of the threads about helping to quit

    do you really want to carry on being an addict to a white poisonous stick that controls your every waking breathe :eek:

    it is hard to find reasons to quit especially when a part of your brain is making excuses for you to carry on

    you might find using nrt to help you with the first step

    joining this forum is one step in the right direction

    onwards and upwards is the only way to go

    Carol

  • Hello,

    I would like to know how I can start stopping when in addition to the all the usual mental blocks (too hard, don't want to, enjoy it, too addicted, have tried everything, etc) I can stop when I live with two other people who smoke, one of whom doesn't really want to stop at all and the other won't or can't smoke outside so the house permanently smells of smoke upstairs and downstairs. I'm afraid that any suggestions about asking them or reasoning with them won't be helpful - elderly mother in law with the start of dementia who really doesn't care. I'm fed up and the kids are fed up with the smoking. My husband and I went away for a week and gave up for about 10 days nearly a year ago but it became almost impossible as soon as we came home.

    Thanks.

    Hi Samkam and welcome to the forum :)

    Possibly what you could do is research into the various quit methods going around. Try to figure out what would best work for you and your situation.

    Many of us bang on about changing routines when first starting on a quit. Avoiding the regular habitual smoking occasions that trigger you off will get you past the danger times and hopefully set in place a healthier day to day.

    We've all been caught in the mistaken belief that stopping smoking was beyond us. But the sheer number of successful quitters here at every stage of the journey means that you also will be able to take those steps.

  • Hi. I turned that negative to a positive and silently called my husband a loser. I have been quit 3 years and live a smug life next to my smoking husband. It comes down to the fact that once you work out you need to quit for yourself, others smoking will not get your way x .

  • It comes down to the fact that once you work out you need to quit for yourself, others smoking will not get your way x .

    I said the same, years ago, but in not such a neat fashion. :D

    "The horrible thing about the whole process is that the easiest ride is achieved with the most determined mind. Stopping smoking, if you don't really want to, is going to be a painfully drawn out process with no guarantee of success. Hiding ash-trays, burning fags, avoiding smokers, setting dates, avoiding forums and "not thinking about fags" is no guarantee of success.

    If you want to stop, you'll stop. Even if you work in a cigarette factory and get company fags.

    If you don't want to stop, don't bother trying because you will fail and you'll hate every day until you do.

    The trick is wanting to stop. Not just saying that you want to stop, not just telling your partner or GP or kids that you want to stop, that is not enough."

  • Hi Samkam, My OH smokes outside deep in the garden. You really need to want to do this, as austinlegro states is very true. Only you can decide to quit. But my Oh smokes in the garden. Their have to be rules in your home. I dont allow anybody in our home to smoke. But anyway keep strong and keep reading posts on here, everyone will help and advise you. Good luck. Jacqui. :D

  • you can do it!

    Hi Samkam.

    I havent had one puff on a cigarette since 15/02 and both my mum and my OH smoke in the house. I have a work coleague that sits opposite me that humms of smoke so i'm surrounded by it pretty much all the time.

    Its not impossible, its a challenge.

    I secretly think of these people as "weak" because they cant give up smoking and YOU can!

    Stay positive, keep on this forum, smile and think of all the money you will save - (i saw on one post that someone put the money they spent on cigs in a seperate account!).. GREAT IDEA!

    Hope this helps! xxx

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