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MY reasons for joining this forum...

.....Just like my reasons for quitting and the reasons I come up with that trigger me to want to smoke again are very diff from yours. I understand if some people read my posts and roll their eyes. That's on you .

The truth is I quit for reasons that are most likely less important than yours. I do not suffer from any underlying health probs. I have never had a smokers cough in my life and didnt have one even after I quit. I quit for vanitys sake and I know that pisses off the best of them. MY reason for joining this forum was not to make friends, hold hands, and rub your back ...it is because I had joined previous forums which is frequented by mostly americans and they all say the same thing .. " don't watch your weight , just quit first and battle the weight later." Then I realized that later to them meant never.. they all suffer from 50 lb weight gain and have this forum that is strictly for weight loss after quitting. Thing is , alot of them have been there 2 years and havent lost a lb! The claim things like " my metabolism is broken" .. " i exercise every day and eat 1200 cals and i havent lost anything!" ... This makes me run straight to the store to get my skinny fix. i don't need a bunch of fatties telling me to just ignore it because I dont have a choice, because that will never ever happen. So yes , I joined this forum in hopes of finding a diff take on smoking and I was right ..this forum is very diff. less obesity .. more whinging ahaha :P

anyway .. I'm Elisa .. I'm 33 y/o from Canada and VERY sarcastic .. I'm an addict and an ex-ani ... I suffer from body dismorphia and that is my smoking trigger. quitting smoking for me is fairly easy and if I can battle the fat gut syndrom that comes with this gift of fresh air ,i'll be forever quit. *curtsies*

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A frank and refreshing post...but yeah it must be very frustrating for you to give up smoking and then have the body dysmorphia kick in when you slightly put on weight. I can only suggest that you're one of those people that will have to work on what you eat/exercise and giving up fags together like me (but hey you already know that :rolleyes:).

I too have started to put on weight, like I always do when I quit smoking. It gets to me too but this time I'm gonna do something about the weight before it threatens my quit (I've worked out being a fatty is one of the factors of why I start smoking again). So I'm booking myself on a body combat course (you never know I might make more friends in the process), getting my dusty exercise bike out from the garage and regularly taking my son swimming. Do your thang cos as you've found out from the american website...for too many people tomorrow never comes in respect to getting off you fat ass and doing something about it.

BTW the British invented sarcasm so you'll be right at home here.

P.S. I've heard a few ex-smokers on here say the "wanting to stuff your face silly syndrome" peters off a bit after a month quit.

Lisa x

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Hey Elisa

Welcome - and that was a refreshingly different post! I like honesty!

I'm a bit like you in some aspects - I too didn't give up so much for health reasons but in large part because I didn't want to get winkly before I should and also because I just can't afford the stupid things. Having said all that though - I have reaped more benefits that I thought possible.

One of the biggest things though I battling with is the weight gain - I haven't gained that much (about 4 to 5 pounds depending on the day) but I hate and loath everyone of those pounds. I was slightly underweight to begin with so those few pounds are not that bad and I realise that being a skinny smoker is just not 'on trend' anymore....I keep telling myself that anyway. Weighing myself everyday (as I do) does depress me at the moment - but at least it helps me keep off the cream do-nuts during the day. Just gotta find the time to increase excercise I guess. It's a personal battle that we've each got to face and deal with but at least we're not smoking which can only be a good thing.

Sorry - this is a stop smoking forum, and not a 'weight forum' but it is one of the side affects from giving up that does affect some of us alot and could ultimately drive someone back to smoking if it means that much to them (believe me - I have come across a few of those)....but maybe that is a subject for a different forum altogether.

Fellie

:)

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Having read your subsequent post first and then this, I wonder why you need a forum at all! :confused: Is it purely to tell us how fabulous you are, and to try and offend everybody else?

What support do you feel you can offer people in return for theirs? If their problem at the time is not one that you have experienced or can understand, do they run the risk of being ridiculed?!

I am neither 'old' or overweight (quite the opposite TBH after a lot of hard work) but I feel offended by both of your threads.

I no longer have and vices and feel damned proud of myself, not old and drab.

Like you say, I don't HAVE to read your threads, and don't believe I will read any more of them, but instead of worrying about improving your looks (your latest post refers to vanity), try working on a little compassion or empathy.

Jeez, I though the yanks were meant to be crass... ;) Oops, sorry - must be catching!!

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Hey guys

I have an amazing take on the weight gain when you stop smoking!!! Don't get weighed!!!.

I have managed to keep away from the scales so far, but undoubtedly I will have gained a few pounds. Don't they say ignorance is bliss????

Jo

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Whatever your motivation for quitting, it's a good thing. If vanity is the thing that drives you then well and good - although frankly, health should be a motivator too, since there's nothing like lung cancer and a few doses of chemo for ruining your luminous beauty.

Happy quitting,

Helen

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Hi Elisa and welcome to the forum

well your reasons are blunt and to the point some say refreshing to have such honesty yes this forum is about giving up smoking and never having another posion stick again but do you actually understand the meaning of a forum because the main reasons these are formed is to give and receive support from people that understand more about what your going through and everyone has gone through or are going through the same process and sadly gaining weight is one of them and to alot of people that is a big part of there life constantly worrying about gaining weight so its going to be an issue they need to discuss and debate and being a woman its part of the norm i agree with Jojo about not weighing yourself but some have to do that its part of there lives but helping others if it is just an encouraging message does mean alot for people and helps to keep you on track and also makes you realise that your over certain stages because your mind tends to forget about what you initially went through when you quit it glosses over it but then when you read about someone that has just stopped and what they are going it triggers a memory of how you felt at that moment in your quit and for the long term members who have been quit for a while its helpful to have these reminders and makes us realise wtf were we doing when we thought that smoking was something we enjoyed and couldnt live without

i do hope you get what you want or need out of this forum as everyone has that choice to use it but it is a support forum more then anything else and someone is always on here to offer you that

regards

Carol

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Having read your subsequent post first and then this, I wonder why you need a forum at all! :confused: Is it purely to tell us how fabulous you are, and to try and offend everybody else?

What support do you feel you can offer people in return for theirs? If their problem at the time is not one that you have experienced or can understand, do they run the risk of being ridiculed?!

I am neither 'old' or overweight (quite the opposite TBH after a lot of hard work) but I feel offended by both of your threads.

I no longer have and vices and feel damned proud of myself, not old and drab.

Like you say, I don't HAVE to read your threads, and don't believe I will read any more of them, but instead of worrying about improving your looks (your latest post refers to vanity), try working on a little compassion or empathy.

Jeez, I though the yanks were meant to be crass... ;) Oops, sorry - must be catching!!

PFFFFFFT ! Still here and still fkn fabulous ! lol If your mad and offended your clearly insecure. That's not my prob .

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Old, and fat

Elisa, I too am from Canada, and, I too am cynical and sarcastic (and they thought us Canadians were all nice).

Here's my advice. I'm 45, fit, strong, healthy male. I quit 6 weeks ago and put on 10lbs. If I quit at your age (33), I would have put on MAYBE, 1 lb.

So, quit now if you want to avoid future weight gain. It gets much harder to lose the lbs as the years go by.

So, there.

And, JitteryQuitter, ease up.

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.. I'm an addict and an ex-ani ... I suffer from body dismorphia and that is my smoking trigger. quitting smoking for me is fairly easy and if I can battle the fat gut syndrom that comes with this gift of fresh air ,i'll be forever quit. *curtsies*

Yep, I'm definitely the insecure one! ;)

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I stopped because of my health, but if Im totally honest the wrinkling that was starting to form around my mouth really peed me off.

I think most of us women are hoping to see some improvement in our skin when we stop.

Yes I put on weight, I put on 8lbs and that was in the 1st 3 weeks. I was gutted! I have always had to watch my weight. I had friends and family telling me not to worry I could work on the weight later, only I know that losing weight is hard too.

Once I thought the MAJOR cravings were over I started to eat more healthily and that 8lbs is starting to come back off and Im only at 7 weeks now.

This will be offensive to any Americans on here, but obesity is a major health problem in the USA, and I mean major! They like their food, ask for a steak sandwich and you get a whole steak meal with a bit of bread, not really healthy eating is it. Nearly every reality program you see from there is full of obese people.....if you are American and are health consious then I apologise.

So yes I worry about my looks, at 52 who doesnt, yes I worry about my weight, anyone over 50 will tell you the same and yes they were both major factors when I wanted to stop.

Am I vain? No, I just care about how I look.

And jitteryquitter insecure? I think not.

Best wishes

Lillie x

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Sorry feel i need to have my say too.

Being blunt and honest dosnt mean you can be rude an offensive, seems like being closer companions to the states you have picked up their manners too!

Please learn the words tact and subtle, i feel they will help you alot more in life than insults and blatant disregard for others feelings.

One of my main worries of giving up smoking is weight gain, to have someone come on a forum and complain that ex smokers are whining about weight gain but do nothing about it, then sit there and waffle on about your own vanity is beyond sickening.

Grow up.

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Why feed the beast ? haha

Sorry feel i need to have my say too.

Being blunt and honest dosnt mean you can be rude an offensive, seems like being closer companions to the states you have picked up their manners too!

Please learn the words tact and subtle, i feel they will help you alot more in life than insults and blatant disregard for others feelings.

One of my main worries of giving up smoking is weight gain, to have someone come on a forum and complain that ex smokers are whining about weight gain but do nothing about it, then sit there and waffle on about your own vanity is beyond sickening.

Grow up.

Why would me bitching about people who bitch about weight gain and do nothing about it offend you ? .. if you're worried , just don't eat yourself to death. lol

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Why would me bitching about people who bitch about weight gain and do nothing about it offend you ? .. if you're worried , just don't eat yourself to death. lol

Elisa, let me also be blunt.......are you trolling?

If not, you ought to take it up as a career, you are extremely good at getting a reaction from members of this forum ;)

On the other hand, if you were trolling, it's hilarious how many people have still tried to be nice to you despite the cutting comments.

Haha, just occurred to me, only this forum would welcome a full on Internet Troll and run with it...........just goes to show how anyone is welcomed and help offered here :D

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Elisa, let me also be blunt.......are you trolling?

DO NOT FEED THE TROLLS (they might get fat) :D

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Haha, just occurred to me, only this forum would welcome a full on Internet Troll and run with it...........just goes to show how anyone is welcomed and help offered here :D

ha ha lol hear hear :D

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DO NOT FEED THE TROLLS (they might get fat) :D

And we wouldnt want that or she might have to give up smoking.... again :p

Tbh, she sits moaning about smokers who gain weight an moan about it (yet do nothing about it) If you read her other self indulgent/aggressive half topic she explains how she gave up last time because she gained a few pounds, then goes on about gaining weight through not being bothered.....

Iv actualy lost weight through quitting..... So i wont eat myself to death love... but then again nor will i have to pick up a ciggy just cause iv gained a few.;)

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Tropical stopped to preserve his fish like beauty as well

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Hmmm maybe that's why she never answered my question :confused:

Im 5'6 and now 125 lbs. No I'm not fat and don't plan on getting fat. My weight is stable now and I only gained about 5 lbs, Thats right ladies.. its not the quitting that gave u an extra ass.

As for being a "troll" , I offended people my first day here and I hadnt even said anything cutting. Oh that's right .. the 50 year olds didnt like being called 50 year olds and were offended when i said i felt 50 which is near 20 years older than I am now. The nerve of me ! lol.

This bleeding hearts party isnt everyones cup of tea .. and last I checked , the 5 nosey cows who were offended don't own the board. to each their own, yeah ?

It's about time someone posted something positive about quitting and not this "oh woe is me" crap. Its all mind over matter .. "if it dont matter you dont mind"

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I'm mystified as to why everyone is getting so riled up on this thread. Doesn't seem worth the effort really...

Unless stirring things up burns calories, of course :D

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Modern toss

Is anyone on here familiar with said tv show, books or strip cartoons?

"This bleeding hearts party isnt everyones cup of tea .. and last I checked , the 5 nosey cows who were offended don't own the board. to each their own, yeah ? "

Suely if you have you must realise that line was a blatant attempt to paraphrase the character 'Drive by abuser'

I like a moan even when I'm not quitting smoking, but come on!

Good people on here but you ain't one of 'em girl

:eek:

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Yep

Sorry feel i need to have my say too.

Being blunt and honest dosnt mean you can be rude an offensive, seems like being closer companions to the states you have picked up their manners too!

Please learn the words tact and subtle, i feel they will help you alot more in life than insults and blatant disregard for others feelings.

One of my main worries of giving up smoking is weight gain, to have someone come on a forum and complain that ex smokers are whining about weight gain but do nothing about it, then sit there and waffle on about your own vanity is beyond sickening.

Grow up. :rolleyes::D

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drama lovers

I'm mystified as to why everyone is getting so riled up on this thread. Doesn't seem worth the effort really...

Unless stirring things up burns calories, of course :D

ahaha .. i went from 630 views to 713 in roughly 5 hrs. As much as they hate me , they can't help but love the drama.

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Blimey I only asked your height and weight :eek:

yes , and then jumped in on the hen party ,clucking about why I didnt answer you. :rolleyes:

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No, I made a simple statement. PMSL - I can't believe you spend your evenings checking how many views your thread gets. No-one is enjoying your dramatics - they are just laughing ... But not with you ;)

Its noon you dense bitch. I can't believe you sepnd your evenings hugging fake friends on a quit smoking msg board. The funny thing is , not many of you will ever truly quit .. because then you won't have a crutch and something to cry about ... you people need friends .. REAL life, warm blooded friends.

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Elisa,

I thought your original post was refreshingly different, and it was, but your later posts have been downright nasty. I think you believe that you are being sarcastic when in actual fact you are being extremely rude. I am very "straight talking" myself (I have also been told this by others). People like us have to monitor how blunt we are as this can really cause some people offence. Yes we could have the attitude of "it's their problem" but there is also another thing we have to consider and that is respect for others. Which I think you could maybe spend some time practising.

What do you want from this forum anyhow? Maybe you should ask yourself this before insulting other forum members? Ok you're not a bleeding heart and don't want to moan about giving up smoking. This is just a couple of themes of posts that prevail on this forum but there are plenty of positive ones too. If positive posts are what you're after why not concentrate on them and post some positive ones of you own rather than this depressing thread.

I'm hoping you're not always like this...and maybe some of it's anger through wanting a fag. Cos if you're this blunt all the time I have to wonder if you do in fact have any warm bloodied friends. ANyway....you're probably thinking I don't give a crap what you think...fair enough. But I must give a crap about you to spend the last 10 minutes or so writing this message so good luck with you quit. Hope you get what you want from this forum, if not then I hope you find it somewhere else.

Lisa x

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you have obviously used alot of self control in your past so why not put that effort into this quit, if you can control what u eat with great precision do the exact same thing with the fags and you should be fine

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Elisa,

You initially asked for advise on weight loss in your other posts, to which myself, and a number of other people offered advise on exercise etc.

You're clearly now just attention seeking, and winding up a lot of people who are currently already agitated enough by quitting smoking.

I think the mods here should consider if you are contributing anything positive, and take it from there.

Good luck quitting smoking though.

/Nigel

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Do not feed the troll

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Elisa

As you are an honest person - I am going to be too.

I think you've got problems - that are manifesting themselves in body issues (were you telling Karrie you're not fat - or were you trying to convince yourself) and feeling the need to strike out at people who are just trying to help each other.

You seem to have major insecurity issues. You're exceptionally critical about other people, and in my experience - people like that are actually being critical about themselves. I don't think you like yourself very much do you.

You love this attention that you're getting - and it doesn't matter that it is negative attention - it is still attention. By being contentious and rude and silly - you're getting a response....which is what you are craving.

You have been brutally honest on here - and somewhat nasty - so do you have the guts and the courage to be honest to yourself and admit that you have problems that are better taken to a professional than pushed out onto ordinary people trying to achieve the extra-ordinary (ie.breaking an addiciton to one of the most addictive drugs out there!). I wonder how low you have to sink before you can do that?

Good luck Elisa - I hope that one day you will be able to be happy with yourself.

Fellie

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Thread now closed, we do not tolerate name calling.

We require that members treat each other with courtesy and respect, anyone that does not do that will be warned and asked to change their behaviour, if they persist their privileges to use the forum will be withdrawn.

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