Man, I miss the good old days. This sucks, I wish I could smoke. I miss my fags. I used to be able to deal with this. This is too hard. Why should I struggle. This will never get easy. I’m getting fat. I want my old life back.
This is what gets most of us, thoughts of defeat.... it’s nicotine monster whispering, it’s your old addiction wanting to be fed. It’s the psychological triggers that mess us up. Add a physical trigger such as an event, a death, an illness, a lay-off, or maybe just a bit of sun-shine on a vacation, and we’re back to smoking.
I learned that reprograming your thinking is everything to a quit and the only way to maintain it. Those negative thinking patterns and associations to smoking have to be broken or changed. That takes time and the willingness to confront craves as they are opportunities to work on the reprograming. Each time you succeed the craves lose some of their hold over you. After a good year of practicing, thoughts of smoking will have mostly disappeared from your life and not smoking becomes ridiculously easy.
I’m a firm believer of hypnosis to reprogram your thinking. That can come in many forms though. You can get an actual hypnosis cd and listen to it every time you struggle, or you can go see a hypnotherapist. There are other ways, too, reading a book like ‘Allen Carr’ can hypnotize you and change your thinking, or you can follow this forums lovely rule of ‘read, read, read, and self-educate. Helping others, posting encouragement, sharing your journey all helps with the reprograming. Some may need more help than others. I was a stubborn one. I had to read Allen Carr not once but probably 10 times, I listened to my cd probably more than 100 times, and lets not talk about how many hours I spend on here. The point is, some just quit and move on and that’s it..... some have to put some work and even suffering into it. It can be done though, have NO doubt about it.
So if you lost your quit, take heart, it may be next time you quit will be a different experience. All it takes is time and reprograming, and every stumble you have will be your reminder that there is still some reprograming to be done. The thoughts triggered by addiction are strong but so are you.