Feeling Teary Today :(

Hey everyone!

So today is............... day 24 I think.

I have been doing so well but today I feel like I am going to burst into tears for any reason :(

I feel like a ciggie will really help me and then I realise that you cannot just have one, I need to deal with moods like this and think like a non-smoker, but what do they do when they feel like this?!

Jill xxx

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  • I can honestly say that the teary phase will pass... I remember crying at EVERYTHING a few weeks in... proper sobbing for no reason! I think it's got to do with your body getting used to not receiving certain chemicals anymore and it's just sort of stabilising itself.

    Another thing could be that now that you don't have those 5 minutes of regular 'alone time' you're starting to neglect yourself and what you want. Find something that's just for you (reading a book, magazine, listening to your favourite album etc.) and once a day or every few days take the time out of the day to really enjoy whatever you choose.

    Non-smokers really don't need to deal with this as often because (I think at aleast!) their body functions better and they don't have as many fluctuating hormones and chemicals running through their veins... When it DOES happen tho they shrug it off easily as they've learnt to deal with these situations without a 'crutch'. And if they don't manage to shrug it off then they would just write it off as a bad day and move on :)

    Hope I helped, it's really just an opinion

  • You should be crying tears of joy, you're beating it!

    Everyone has good & bad days, regardless whether they smoke or not. We tend to try & convince ourselves that "just one" will make it all better, but we all know deep down it won't.

    These feelings are caused by smoking, not solved by it. A cigarette now isn't gonna make your bad day better, it'll actually make it a lot worse!

    Be proud of yourself, 24 days is an epic achievement. Don't throw it away & put yourself back to day 1 because of a bad day or a fleeting moment of weakness.

  • Thanks guys!

    I know I will not give in and this is prob the weakest moment I have had in a wee while but it is hard.

    NEWBIES if you are reading this do not let it put you off, if definatley gets easier, just having a down day!

    I think I will go and have a coffee and great suggestion about the books, I got loads of new ones for xmas and started reading "Let the Right one In" a week or so ago so I might just bury my head in that for a while!

    Thanks again for the continued support, you guys really are great!

    Jill xx

  • Awww Jill, just seen your post :(

    If it's any consolation then i feel the same way so lets all have a 'virtual' cry together :D

    ............damn, forgot i was in the office, a man crying in the office isn't good etiquette ;):D

  • Feeling down today too.... :(

    Trying to 'man it up' here, but it would seem a few of us are going through the same thing today!

  • Thanks Pete,

    Who cares what they think eh?

    I sort of feel a bit sorry for myself too. My Hubby has a wisdom tooth that isnt coming through properly and a stomach bug so I have been playing nurse all weekend, think I need some attention now lol.

    Jill xx

  • i too am having a struggling day feel low teary and generally weak

  • Aw, I'm sorry you guys are feeling low. I've had some days like that so I can certainly sympathise. I'd recommend crying, if you get the chance - get it out of your system and release some endorphins, it'll make you feel better! Although perhaps not in the office...

    Just remind yourselves you're doing fantastically well. One of these days you'll have a crap day and it won't even cross your mind to smoke. And won't that be a lovely crap day!!!

    H x

  • i know what youve been going through!! on day 21 i cried my eyes out..i was so stessed and i just couldnt take it anymore...i felt so much better after..congrats on your smober time :) now when i think of a cig i get nauseous....thats what iv been waiting for!! so hang in there..as you already know it gets better!!

  • am coming up from my downer now decided to peel,steam and liquidize a big batch of food for my little baby, now has about a week and a half supply in the freezer.

    its that initial get up and do something, rather than sit and whollow in self pity

  • Guess what, day 24 here to & I feel muxh the same :o.

    Can't really put into words what I feel but it's not good. Had a very 'down' weekend & new I should force myself to get up & do something but didn't. Sitting here at work not wanting to be at work. I don't even know if I want a cigarette, I kond of do but know I can't.

    Do I sound a little confused lol? :confused:

    Gaynor x

  • Confused?, not at all Gaynor as i can relate to what you're going through, been through something missing/bereavement phase last week and had really bad weekend cravings and irritability:(

    I could give up but i won't because i know it's something we have to initially go through (no pain, no gain eh?;)) and once i'm through it i'll never want to repeat these weeks again, once i'm quit, i'm quit for good, no compromise!!!!

  • Good for you CP,

    I probably would have felt like this quit or not and health wise I cannot afford to take any more risks so will grit my teeth and force myself to do something when I get hope & not mope on the sofa :eek:

    Gaynor x

  • Smokers & non-smokers deal with bad days the same way. Non-smokers just do it quicker because they don't have to make time to squeeze the death sticks in there!

    Would inhaling a mixture of nicotine vapour & various carcinogens & poisons from a tube of burning paper really make this crappy Monday magically better? It's Monday, it's supposed to be a rubbish day!

  • Would inhaling a mixture of nicotine vapour & various carcinogens & poisons from a tube of burning paper really make this crappy Monday magically better? It's Monday, it's supposed to be a rubbish day!

    Ummm, I didn't say it would :eek:

  • Ummm, I didn't say it would :eek:Ummm, i didn't say you did!

    It was directed at the OP. Specifically, the "I feel like a ciggie will really help me and then I realise that you cannot just have one, I need to deal with moods like this and think like a non-smoker, but what do they do when they feel like this?!" part.

  • Ummm, i didn't say you did!

    It was directed at the OP. Specifically, the "I feel like a ciggie will really help me and then I realise that you cannot just have one, I need to deal with moods like this and think like a non-smoker, but what do they do when they feel like this?!" part.

    lol, ok, misunderstood. My, I must be a feeling a little tetchy today too :p

  • Thanks everyone!

    I am starting to feel a wee bit better, hopefully it will hold off until I get home and then I can have a wee cry. Just before 1 there I had that lump in my thraot and all I wanted to do was cry, course somoene came to my desk to ask me somthing so I had to battle on. After eating i def feel better though.

    Sorry to hear that there are others having a wick day too.

    I am trying to cheer myself up with telling myself that I have a good book, bath and eastenders and cuddles from OH when I get home (bliss)

    Chin up everyone, it will only get better!

    Jill xxxx

  • You are not the first and wont be the last

    Hi,

    As the above says everyone (pretty much everyone) goes through this. It's called the terrible 3's. Have a read of this. talesfromthequit.com/the-te... Very accurate bit of reading. All of the tales are good reading actually. It does pass and get easier. just hang in there.

    Stay strong

    Sian

  • ahhh virtual hugs to all that are having a bad day :(

    just remember your bodies are still going through a change and that everyone has bad days

    dont automatically assume its because of the fact you dont smoke anymore

    but the nicorette demon latches on to anything that is negative and lets it be known that you need a ciggy :eek:

    because it will make you feel better it will try and get you most when your feeling really down

    but stay strong you can get through it :)

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