my sense of humour!! yes, on day 14 it came back to me life without it had been difficult, for others as well as myself i fear but now it has returned like a lost sheep, the prodigal son of a misspent youth
it is only with its return that i discover what a coping strategy humour is, i often use it to put others at ease, but it really helps settle my smokers nerves too. bless this day (lmao) and a monday as well, who would'a' thought it :rolleyes:
this isn't to say today has been easy, oh no! but just when i was out on a limb and feeling awkward from somewhere i found the resources to laugh at the awkwardness.
laughter is a way of taking time out, i suppose in the same way smoking is (was!). so if your stressed, and then make a joke, others will take the hint that you need to relax? then too laughter is infectious, like if one person needs a break then everybody has to take a break! hmm, i'll stop now while i'm ahead!
congrats all week 3'ers, shall we keep going? oh yes!!
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I hope I get to this point soon! I'm so miserable at the moment that I just think 'why should I make the effort?!"
I even went to the gym yesterday and it all seemed so pointless!
I was very close to lighting up but I won't - People are just gonna have to live with Moody Sofia until I reach your point (I'm on day 10 now so should be getting there soon!)
aww, it went again, but it was great to have it back even briefly!! today was *very* different, but amazingly i didn't cave - perhaps because i knew today would be difficult and was prepared for it? maybe just because yesterday was nice enough....
BUT!!! with every difficult situation we face we lern a little more about how to deal with being a non-smoker - there are millions of non-smokers out there all literally falling over each other to teach us 'saved from the nicodemon' souls how to deal with life. we need to engage with the non-smokers, the old enemy! they have a lot to teach us about being strong...
SLB, don't lose faith, day ten is still very early, look for smaller signs that you are getting better - from tiny acorns mighty oaks do grow! benny if i could parcel up some humour for you you know i would! i was with someone today who was distressed and crying, but even in the middle of such a bad time they were still able to laugh at the right funny comment - why? why would they laugh when crying? the only reason can be because we *need* to laugh... let us become laugh detectives, dedicated to hunting down the things we need to laugh at
i remember on day 10 lying in bed with the shakes from the nicotine withdrwal (it only lasted about 3 minutes) and just laughing at how ridiculous it felt to be feeling so poorly - and then laughing at myself for laughing! i think that's true again today - i need to laugh at myself *walks off cackleing....*
quitting smoking always makes me think back over my life - in fact nicodemon likes me to face up to my past mistakes as often as possible :/ amongst my many temporal wanderings i came across the town i lived in when i started smoking. of course, i immediately started to beat myself up about starting smoking, what a fool i had been, as weak then as i am now.
but today my memory is not completly under nicodemons control, i can see the negatives he want me to see, but i can also look around and remember the context. i was nineteen when i lived in this town, by chance (and a great deal of naivety) i had moved into a house which i shared with alcoholics and intravenous heroin addicts, and the latter became my friends.
there was a certain amount of stress in this house, but our 'family' was happier than you would perhaps expect. external forces were outside our control however.
anyway, this house was where i started smoking, i can see that there was a fairly good reason for smoking, and so i can now forgive myself better nicotine than heroin - i was offered heroin on many occasions, but remember thinking i'd better not because i might become addicted. i remember no such thoughts about nicotine, perhaps because nicotine is (or was) a socially accepted drug, but i have heard of non smokers who have had that thought after a couple of youthful cigarrettes and so never started.
that can be my new mantra, along with 'i will not smoke today' i'll have 'better not, i might get addicted'. i also have a new mantra in my sig - i found it on an early post of one of this forums many inspirational quitters, so it may just have a powerful anti nicodemon effect.
Humour, the best medicine ever, and if we allow ourselves, we can always find something to laugh, or at least smile about. I can remember in the first couple of weeks laughing at myself for moping around for something so ridiculous as a cigarette, the fact that this thing could have such an impact was bizarre, and it made me even more determined to keep pushing forward. I reflected back on things I had found difficult in the past ie. bereavement etc., and how I came through, it really made me put the way I was feeling regarding nicotine withdrawal in perspective and kind of gave me a kick up the backside and stop feeling sorry for myself.
You're doing a great job with this quit, if you can take the time out to think about how you're feeling and think about it calmly, it makes a huge difference. Keep at it and keep smiling.
hi jane and benny, thanks for your comments hope things are going good with your quits, its so encourageing to know others are facing the same battles, some good days, some not so good!
lorraine, thanks for those thoughts, i think i have been moping a bit, gonna give myself a bit of a kick today like you say and see how it goes, feeling quite strong and motivated now,
OVE THE MANTRA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm going to have to use it to (hpe you don't mind) ewith me. Emotion has always been a challenge I've never been good at controlling them good or bad. BTW I found my humour this morning. My BF just moved to Da Nang Veit Nam and we where on Skype.... I put on a stuffed animal pupet show. I may have been rediculous but we sure did laugh... Keep up all the good work guys!
benny that's great, and that show sounds so good it's making me smile just hearing about it! glad you like the mantra, pass it on if it helps you 5mol<er
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life without it had been difficult, for others as well as myself i fear 
but now it has returned like a lost sheep, the prodigal son of a misspent youth 
