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I'm not at all sure how to use this website but I'm desperate for some help with this quitting. I live alone and have been doing it by myself so far. I started stopping on the 25th Feb 09, but have had a couple of slip ups! Just got back from the cessation clinic that is run at my doctors surgery, and I was dissapointed to hear that there are no group sessions in my area. Hope someone out there can help me through encouragement. I'm using gum at the moment and it is helpful but just sometimes I would love someone to say "Well done" Is that pathetic of me? I hope not.

I have been a heavy smoker for 30 years and this is the first time I've tried to stop. Most of the time I'm fine but would really appreciate some encouragement during one of the difficult days that come along from time to time. Hopeful

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  • Hi hopeful (love the name)

    this is a great forum and you have come to the right place for lots of

    encouragement during your quit.

    I know what you mean about no group sessions they had none in my area just one to one with the nurse which was crap as i know for sure she had never smoked . just didnt have a clue and i felt like i was banging my head against a wall.

    but magic happened and i came across this forum, i was a heavy smoker and had many failed quits. but with lots of reading from links and re -educatin my way of thinking i am on day 4 and still positive and find just having this forum to log onto helps even if im just reading.

    You have done amazing so far please stay strong and you will get loads of encouragement off everyone here.

    lots of love ali xx

  • hopeful junior member

    thanks alli for your reply, it made me realise that there is someone out there.

    I have been struggling for so long (or at least that's how it feels) I realy think I can do this with some encouragement from all you other quitters.

    I hope all goes well for you too.

  • Thanks hopeful,

    Help is always here come on and rant and rave ,what ever sort of day your having there is always someone to talk to and cheer you up.

    I would of been lost too without this forum.

    Just remember you have done brilliant !!!!(big pat on your back) .

    lots of love ali xx

  • Hi Hopeful :)

    Welcome to the forum and well done on the decision to quit possibly one of the most important you will ever make and you will be losing nothing but you will regain control of your life and that has to be good

    You will find all the help and support you need on here as we all help each other just like a family we are here for you every step of the way cheering the good days and sympathiseing with the bad but the good far outweigh the bad

    Read the posts on here you will find a lot of tips and advice and in the signatures of a lot you will find links to other sites just click on them Here are 2 I find very good to start you off whyquit.com and woofmang.com Read, read and then read some more as the more you read and learn about why you smoked and about your addiction the easier your quit will be

    Well done on your quit so far even with a slip up lots of us on here have had many failed quits before so you're not alone

    Of course it's not pathetic to want someone to say well done we all need that especially if we live alone [so do I]

    Post often for whatever reason, to have a rant, moan even for a laugh yes we even have them on here it's a great place to be

    Anything you don't understand just ask and someone on here will know the answer OK

    Best Wishes


  • thanks to all who replied

    I'm very grateful to all who have replied to me.

    I can see how this can be helpful. Allready I don't feel so alone!

    What a great thing this is. I've never even sent an email before and I'm feeling rather proud of myself.

    Can someone tell me if I'm doing this right. Do I post my reply to my messages here, as I have done this time.

    Give it a couple of days and I'll be running with this.

    Just to let anyone who reads this know how helpful I'm finding this......

    Earlier I was craving and now, just knowing we are all in the same boat I feel a real comfort.


  • Hi Hopeful :D

    I am glad you no longer feel so alone and yes this is a great place for easing the cravings

    Yes you reply to your messages on your own threads OK you'll soon get the hang of it

    For someone who has never sent a E-Mail before you're doing great


    Marg xxxxx

  • Hi Hopeful and welcome to the forum. Post often and let us know how you are doing. The best way to quit and stay quit is through education. Read as much as you can so that you understand what nicotine does to the body. Marge has given you 2 good links. I have them at my signature also as well as another one. The more you know, the easier it will be. Keep smiling and remember, you choose not to smoke.

  • just had a nice suprise

    I've been using gum to help me quit. I bought a new packet 3 days ago and I've been doing fine. I just went to get one from the packet and I noticed that I had accidently bought the 2mg pack instead of my usuall 4mg.

    That gave me such a boost to see that I had cut my gum down without noticing any difference.

    What a happy accident! I had been dreading cutting down to the weaker one, thinking that it would be really hard.

    I'm really beginning to think I can do this, and can start to see a future without smoking.

    Can I just say that I feel a bit of a fraud for being in the two month section of this programe as I've had a few slips during this time. I feel that I should be in the four day section of this program but I don't know how to reprogram myself back to day four. Can anyone tell me how to do that?

  • Hi Hopeful

    You are doing great, keep it up. This forum is good for getting things off your chest:)

    If you want to start a new thread in another week or month just click on that week/month then click on new thread. Dont think you should feel a fraud, you post wherever you want!! Its a bit confusing cos ive just finished my 28th day/4 weeks so do i post in 1 month or cos im starting my 2nd month do i post in month 2:confused: I dont think it matters cos wherever you post you'll always get some support and good advice.

    Keep strong:)

  • Welcome Hopefull

    You are in the right place for support I too was a smoker for 35 years 40 a day in the later years so it can be done. just take one day at a time and read the links in peoples posts. We are all doing the same thing here so know how your feeling. xxxxxxxxxxxxx


    Well done hunnie on your 28 days thats great work. I see you started your quit on 11/3 so on the 11/4 just post in month 2 cos you are starting your second month. So well done xxxxxxxx

  • Hi Hopeful and welcome!

    This site is so supportive and helpful you'll never feel alone again! :)

    Post wherever you like, the headings are only a guide because week 1 is actually week 2 and sweek 2 is week 3 and so on - confuses the heck out of me!

    Congratulations on what you've achieved so far!


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