Totally new to this :-(

Hi!!

Well, this is the first time I have ever really tried to quit smoking. Im 22 and i have smoked, properly, for 6 years now. I think it is more the habit for me - knowing when im sat watching telly, now ive got my own place, i can enjoy some ciggies. and when im at work, i know the exact times that i go out for a ciggie. for the last 2 and a half years i have gone out on a weekday, from work, at 12, 2 and 5 for a fag break!

Ive got a lot of people telling me they dont think i will manage it - which doesnt help really does it :-( i have told everyone at work that i need their support not them taking the mick! i tried not to tell my parents but having just seen my dad, it appears the do know! I just dont want the pressure to be honest - i will be putting enough pressure on myself! At the end of the day - I am going to TRY!! if it doesnt happen, then forgive me and I will try again next month :)

i decided on the 4th August a few weeks ago - people asked me why then, and i said it was just the first Monday of the next month. i enjoy smoking so i wanted a few more weeks of being able to - knowing i would stop on the 4th. A very good friend of mine was diagnosed with a VERY vicious form on non-hodgkins lymphnode cancer earlier this year and he has just been given the all clear. he has a bit stem cell treatment to go through in a few weeks and then he will be able to get back on with his life - all be it a totally different life than he had, he knows he is going to live now. Its very sad because we all know it is going to get him eventually but we're hoping he's got another 10/15 years and will see his boys grow up - theyre 8 and 9 now. He never smoked, hardly drinks, is the perfect weight and is just a picture of health - so its just proves - cancer doesnt care who it gets! Anyway,. I have done race for life for him, i have spent time with him and now I am going to quit smoking for him. THAT, is what I hope is going to get me through it this time. Everytime i think about how difficult it is wanting a ciggies, i will think how it doesnt even compare to the pain he has been through.

Anyway, now you all have my life story!! Sorry if ive bored anyone, i just think it helps to get it all out somewhere where hopefully people understand.

anyway, have to shoot - good luck to everyone else, and i will come on tomorrow and update whether am suceeding or not!!!

:p

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  • Welcome to the forum, you've decided to quit which is a big step. Sadly I too had the usual 'you'll never do it' people around me, well four months and counting! Don't listen to anyone else, do it for yourself, educate yourself on nicotine addicition at whyquit.com and use this forum when you feel the urge to smoke. Once you get over the hill it gets easier. You are still so young and you can reverse the effects.

    Good luckl :D

  • good luck

    good luck with your quit, as long as you are motivated and determined then you will have an excellent chance of succeedding, i myself am 28 and smoked for 13yrs i have only been quit 12 days gone cold turkey for 9 days of it and still going strong if i can do it then anybody can.

    best wishes suzy x

  • Thank you WkdFairy79! I have to say, I have just got home and I was so happy to that someone had replied to my post. Its good to know that there are people who understand and who are offering support!

    What you have said really helps, so Thank You! x I have heard that it is the 3rd day that is the hardest - did you find that? Im just so worried about tomorrow to be honest! I have 7 cigarettes left and I am going to finish them tonight!

    I look forwrd to this time tomorrow and hopefully being able to say ive done the first day!

    Thank you aswell Suzy. the support really helps - how are you finding it only being 12 days!??! WELL DONE! I have the motivation this time - as you will have read! and I know deep down I am determined to do it this time! Got my patches!!

    Thanks for the good luck x x

  • welcome :D

    you will be fine.................good luck and read around the forum for all the advice.........theres loads!!

  • Hi there. You have made a great decision to quit. You can do this and im sure you will. There is lots of support and im sure everyone will help you.

    Good luck.

  • Thanx :-)

    Thank you Jude........

    Im just so so so nervous......... ive got so much pressure on myself to quit - but i enjoy smoking, i just dont want to.........

    I just have to keep reminding myself why im doing this!!!

    Thanks for the luck - i need it!! :(

  • Luck's handy but determination is what you need most.

    I've failed to quit or stay quit more times than I care to admit and know how it feels for people not to be willing to believe that you can do it. Prove them wrong show them you are strong.

  • Thank you WkdFairy79! I have to say, I have just got home and I was so happy to that someone had replied to my post. Its good to know that there are people who understand and who are offering support!

    What you have said really helps, so Thank You! x I have heard that it is the 3rd day that is the hardest - did you find that? Im just so worried about tomorrow to be honest! I have 7 cigarettes left and I am going to finish them tonight!

    I look forwrd to this time tomorrow and hopefully being able to say ive done the first day!

    Thank you aswell Suzy. the support really helps - how are you finding it only being 12 days!??! WELL DONE! I have the motivation this time - as you will have read! and I know deep down I am determined to do it this time! Got my patches!!

    Thanks for the good luck x x

    Glad to be of service!

    Yes FYI I did find Day 3 very intense, but the trick to that is to distract yourself - if you can't get off work to do something nice then just ... go for walks, go for lunch with a friend, have a hot bath... just generally spoil yourself and know that you will feel better on day 4. Not necessarily like a 'never smoker' but I certainly noticed that the craves had 'peaked' and were on the decline. I feel now like i've never smoked, which is weird. If you want you could read Easyway by Allen Carr, I run the risk of sounding like a spammer but it worked for me...

    All the best :D:cool:

  • Thanks Flippy - im hoping that i do get the support- not just here but at work and home too - going to be difficult if my housemate is smoking :-(

    The more people who know, the more determined I am, so I am really really going to try! x x

    NicFirth - thank you also - it means so much to me having people supporting me and telling me I can do this! Helping me believe that I can do this!! x

    Thank you again WkdFairy - i cant believe you've done 4 months! Thats great to hear! I know I can to this - surely anyone can - i just hope that I do really want to! I know if i want to i will!!!

  • good luck with your quit, as long as you are motivated and determined then you will have an excellent chance of succeedding, i myself am 28 and smoked for 13yrs i have only been quit 12 days gone cold turkey for 9 days of it and still going strong if i can do it then anybody can.

    best wishes suzy x

    Hey suzy! I'm 28 (ok, almost 29 then) and smoked for 13 years..... :eek::confused:;)

    im_going_to_try (hard name to type tsk lol), you can do anything you put your mind to. Personally for me (and my OH has figured this already) - if you want me to do something - tell me I can't do it! lol

  • :-)

    ha ha - i love that theory - and i agree. the more someone tells me i cant do something, the more i want to prove them wrong.

    Im just so so nervous i cant say. i will be so disappointed in myself if i dont do it!

  • Good Luck on your 1st day.....Everyone has one so dont worry to much about it .Write down your reasons to quit and read it when you want to have one.Make sure you get 7 or 8 replies to your posts to help you get past your craves.GOOD LUCK TOMORROW.......:eek:

  • you can do it!!

    Well done for taking this massive step and it really is a big step, but don't let that put u off coz u can so do it!!

    Ur stronger than your cravings!! U really r!!

    That's me off the fags for 2 weeks now :eek: and I'll tell ya, it hasn't been easy coz my wife, 2 year old and I live with my parents atm and they smoke, which makes me want one, but I distract myself - take the dog 4 a walk, listen 2 music, read a story 2 the wee one (if he's awake :p)

    My wife and I have had some good news this week as we've found out that she is expecting again - due on 15th january!! so that's the determination I need 2 stay quit!!

    U can do it and like it has been said before, there is SO much support on offer:)

    Good luck!!

  • Well done for taking this massive step and it really is a big step, but don't let that put u off coz u can so do it!!

    Ur stronger than your cravings!! U really r!!

    That's me off the fags for 2 weeks now :eek: and I'll tell ya, it hasn't been easy coz my wife, 2 year old and I live with my parents atm and they smoke, which makes me want one, but I distract myself - take the dog 4 a walk, listen 2 music, read a story 2 the wee one (if he's awake :p)

    My wife and I have had some good news this week as we've found out that she is expecting again - due on 15th january!! so that's the determination I need 2 stay quit!!

    U can do it and like it has been said before, there is SO much support on offer:)

    Good luck!!

    WELL DONE Phil.

    Keep it up son, you sound realy confident, i know you can do it with that attitutde, also you have 3 great reasons to quit, your kids and wife. stay strong!

  • ok, just getting ready to go to bed! having my last ciggie!! I am so nervous. enjoying every puff knowing it will be my last one.

    Still enjoying it................

    nervous about people taking the mick tomorrow - saying i cant/wont do it!?!? :mad: you know what im dreading more tho - when i give in and say - thats it, cant do it - then go and have one :mad:

    hope that doesnt happen

    Nearly there....... last puff

    Thats it....... last puff! Put the fag out! No more smoking for me!

    Still have one in the pack........ 2 secs.........

    Thats it - have been and soaked the last one under the tap... and crushed it into the bin. impossible to smoke now!

    wow - im really going to do this??! :D

    Thank you all so much for your messages - i m going to come on here when i am at work and at home tomorrow and read all the messages to spur me on!!! already getting to me that i can have one if i want one!!

    right here goes, im off to bed ready to wake up and whack on my patch!!

    see you tomorrow!!! :confused:

  • Get rid of that one in the pack and get rid of the ashtray.......Good Luck

  • Morning Im going to try

    Welcome to your first day non smoker. We are all with you just take a bit at a time drink lots to rid yourself of the nicoteen. Very good luck, Will come back after work to see how your doing. Linda xxxxx

  • Good morning,Going to do it........Hope your day goes smooth and nobody

    pss you off........drink lots of water and keep busy....:eek:

  • Hi

    So it's D day day 1, I'm sending you as much determination as I can - but some how I think you'll be fine.

    Day three for me was a complete wash out, my concentration went along with my personality! But stay strong, like the others say keep focused, distract yourself. Each of us have found different ways but one thing that we all agree on is the support you will get from this site.

    Keep us posted on how you are doing.

    Good luck

    Alison

  • Thank you Jude........

    Im just so so so nervous......... ive got so much pressure on myself to quit - but i enjoy smoking, i just dont want to.........

    I just have to keep reminding myself why im doing this!!!

    Thanks for the luck - i need it!! :(

    theres no pressure from us...................i enjoyed smoking aswell...........but NOT smoking is even better..............anyone of us from here will tell you the same!!

    hope today goes well :)

  • Thank you :-)

    There are too many of you to thank individually!! Thank you all so much for your comments since my post in the wee hours of this morning. Its half 12.30 - and ive managed without what i thought would be the hardest one - one the way to work!!! Luckily i was running late so i concentrated on driving so i didnt miss me ciggie too much!

    Im sat here now chomping on a paper clip with me patch on!

    I want to do this i really do and I have to say - i dont know if i would feel anywhere near this positive if it wasnt for this site and all of you

    Thank you so much x

    :D

  • try airways chewing gum aswell............they are good :)

    xx

  • Hello im_going_to_try

    good luck for today.

    As many of the others have said good luck for today.

    I would emphasise what wkdfairy has said about the Allen Carr book. It really is worth a try reading it as there is an amazing amount of good, positive advice in it.

    Alsoe read on the whyquit site, it is extremely helpful but be aware it is very anti NRT. But it has a huge amount of info onn there and some great vids to help you through the first few days.

    Good luck again

  • harder and harder already

    Thank you again TKDJohn and Jude...... i was kidding myself earlier when i thought this was going to be easy!!

    I really, REALLY want to go outside and have a fag! But, i dont have any and i dont have any money on me, so would be difficult for me to get one..... doesnt stop how much i really want one now.

    Ive just sat here thinking about smoking all day!

    This is mad....... I CAN DO THIS....... :(

  • YOU CAN!!!!!!!!

    WE ALL HAVE DONE IT!!!!!

    SO CAN YOU!!!!!

    ok, thats enough shouting..............keep positive......:)

  • IGTT

    A lot of "how easy" it is to stop is in the head. I have to emphasise that the more eductated about stopping you are, the "easier" it becomes.

    Read on whyquit and woofmang and you will learn a huge amount of stuff about quitting, as well as some really inspirational stories on woofmang.

    Stopping isn't easy but neither does it have to be difficult.

  • Don't do it

    I now only too well how easy it is to talk yourself back into it - BUT DON'T!

    Go for a walk, drink some water/juice, read the anti smoking sites. You will get through it honestly if us lot can anyone can :eek:

  • thank you thank you thank you

    Thank you again for everyones messages! I cant believe how much it is constantly there is my head that i want a ciggie!

    I think the patch is there, because it is more of a psychological want than a physical craving at the moment. I am getting a headache though - thats probaly the withdrawal.

    you all have no idea how much coming here every now and then is helping and im sorry i cant reply to you all individually :-(

    Many many thanks, and I plan to keep going.

    i dont want to let myself down this time.... it would just be so easy just to have one tho :-(

  • how r u doing mojo?

    my god, ur right you know! it does work sometimes!

    how are you doing - this is ur day 1 too is it not?

    A couple of times today i have forgotten ive quit and for a split second i think - oh, just going to go have a fag! lol!

    Am at work till half 8 tonight, so hopefully this will keep me busy, then when i get home im just going to have to try my best!

    Not had anyone taking the mick yet!

    Thanks again for your messages!

  • come on!!

    Thanks again Mojo. Its really getting tough now to be honest!

    This sounds really strange but its like im noticing my breathing and also - nothing major, but did you ever experience any kind of chest pain. just a bit of discomfort?

    I am working exactly as you say - just taking it minute by minute for now!!

    Im just getting agitated now - tapping my feet without realising - and getting this noticeable breathing, bit of a headache and heartburn!!

    I know this will be worth it in the end........ we just have to keep going innit!!

    :)

  • Let's do it together?

    I'm so anxious it's unreal. Took a sickie from work today as I felt awful this morning and couldn't face a Monday at work (stressful job) with withdrawal symptoms.

    Just 2 minutes ago I was doing a silly dance in my hall to keep my mind off the latest craving....

  • Let's do it together?

    I'm so anxious it's unreal. Took a sickie from work today as I felt awful this morning and couldn't face a Monday at work (stressful job) with withdrawal symptoms.

    Just 2 minutes ago I was doing a silly dance in my hall to keep my mind off the latest craving....

    Can i suggest that instead of trying to hide from your cravings that you actually embrace them.:eek:

    Study exactly h0w you feel when you have an urge to smoke. It really only lasts about 2/3 minutes (when you try to hide it feels a lot longer!!!)

    Read up on either whyquit or woofmang and you will learn more about the "cravings" and how to deal with them, and hopefully how to minimise the effects of them.

    Good Luck

  • A couple of times today i have forgotten ive quit and for a split second i think - oh, just going to go have a fag! lol!

    I often open the compartment in the car where I used to keep fags, just habit, and I have to stop and think, "Oh yeah, I don't smoke any more!"

    Know what you mean about noticing breathing, I even felt like I could feel the blood circulating, especially in my hands.

    Hang on in there, you're doing great.

    Nic

  • still going.......

    Thanks NicFirth :-) i am going to keep going!!! Im happy ive done this long to be completely honest.

    I am also glad someone agreed with me about the breathing!! lol!!

    Juney - is this your day 1 too? if so yes - lets do this together!!!

    x x

  • i and a few others made a team up when we quit , its a brill way to stay motivated (i think anyway)

    there was a few "teams" around.................not sure how many are left now but make up a daft team name and off you go!!

  • Juney - is this your day 1 too? if so yes - lets do this together!!!

    x x

    Yes, it is! Last cigarette at 9.30pm last night. :)

  • Congrats on doing so well on day 1.Look at all the cigs you did not smoke.

    Keep it up and take one day at a time.:)

  • Im going to try, Juney, Mojo

    How you all feeling not long now and day one will be over. congrats to you all. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

  • Not bad, but just ate half a (very large) bag of fruit gums......

    The wee one's in bed and my other half has gone to martial arts training and I'm BORED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • well.....

    its coming to the end of day one.... thank god i have the internet now cus i do not know what i would have done without it - would have been born sick!!!

    i really really want to have a ciggie, but the fact that i have done day one means alot to me to be honest!

    going to shoot now, but will be back online again later

    well done to everyone else who is plugging away at day 1!! its alot harder than i thought it would be!

    WE CAN DO THIS!!!

    back on later x x

  • Great going on getting through day one...........Good luck on day2...:D

  • How you three feeling this morning Day two. Stick together and you can do it. Linda xxxxxx

  • Am here, just about to post in day 2.

  • i and a few others made a team up when we quit , its a brill way to stay motivated (i think anyway)

    there was a few "teams" around.................not sure how many are left now but make up a daft team name and off you go!!

    Sounds like a plan :D

    Started a thread here

  • Yes

    sorry for not coming on again since yesterday. :(

    I cant believe Ive done day one!!! :D There were so many times last night when I just went to have one then realised i couldnt! :confused:

    Daytime is proving okay - im kinda getting used to it now. Is nice not to smell or tate it to be honest! I am so glad I have the internet tho - something to keep my hand busy!!!

    How are you others doing who were on day one?

    I suppose I need to go and post on day two now!!

    Come on, we can do this :-)

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