Anxious about early pregnancy

[Pippa2202]

Hi there, I’m 5 weeks + 2 and I’ve been getting a lot of twinges and aches and pains. I’m working from home so I have little distraction and am fast becoming obsessed with whether this is normal (as I keep reading) or not. I think it’s harder not being able to discuss this with anyone other than my husband because we don’t want to share until we are at least past 8 weeks if not 12. I’m 35 and this is my longed for first baby and pretty much everything scares me! Anyone have any advice?

[Seb9]

My only survival tactic is to tell a best friends. I knew I would want their support if anything went wrong and when I had a missed miscarriage in my first pregnancy I was so glad they knew and I didn't have to pretend I was ok when I wasn't and they drank wine with me and we talked about how rubbish it was.I went on to have a healthy pregnancy and am now pregnant again with my second and my best friends and my sister know already again this time too x

[Hidden]

Hey, im going for my 12 week scan tomorrow. I've not had much in the way of symptoms all the way through but i did get lots of weird aches and pains in the early weeks, up until a few days before my 8 week scan. Strong muscle type pains low down if i moved too quickly and i remember spending a day in bed a few days before my scan, aching all down my right hand side which I'd been having for a few days. I was petrified but looking back I think it was just my body getting ready for big changes, there's a lot going on in there. I dont get them now, random achey legs or hips in bed and the odd twinge in my groin.Try and stay positive, and all the best for your scan xx

[Mammyoftwolove]

I am in the same boat hun now, only 4 weeks and bloating is such a big thing at the minute, overall I just feel generally achy am exhausted I know it’s so hard not to worry but just every week is a new mile stone... soo good luck ❤️ Oo and congratulations ❤️

[Pippa2202]

Thank you everyone, I keep thinking about telling my mum/sister/BFF but I don’t want to jinx it and I’m almost scared to say it out loud! I’ve done like 8 tests just to make sure it’s still a BFP!!! Just trying to take it day by day and stay positive!!! Thanks again! xx

[Prettygurrly in reply to Pippa2202]

Telling them won't jinx it. Like someone else said, I told people that I would want to know if I miscarried. I think your three nominations sound perfect. My mother was the second person I told after my positive test. The only hesitation I would have is with her living on her own due to COVID that SHE wouldn't have anyone if I miscarried but she went through 3 herself and then had me so she's a strong lady.

[Supergirl87]

Aww Pippa, didn’t want to read and run! From what I remember of early pregnancy there are lots of aches and pains. Hormones going on, plus your body is getting ready to grow a tiny human and things are moving. Have you been assigned a midwife yet? Would it be worth contacting them, just to put your mind at rest? I think there should be far more support than there is for early pregnancy, especially first time mums or even 2nd time mum’s who just forget from the first time! I don’t think I’ll remember next time and i only had baby 14 1/2 months ago! Hope you are ok, and feeling reassured xx

[AMFB]

Hello Pippa! I'm 35 years old and 4 weeks 5 days today working from home too. I told my parents and 3 best friends but made it clear that we need to wait to 12 weeks to celebrate. They were very supportive and I feel less stressed and worried now after I told them. They don't keep asking questions but I know they are there for me. It helps with the moods and not feeling well without the need to explain myself. When I'm too nervous I go for an hour walk (no matter the weather) and that helps. Take care and don't worry it will all be fine 😊 ❤️

[Ratinski]

It is definitely normal! I remember first feeling aches and cramps, even a pulling/stretching sensation early on from about 4 up to 8/10 weeks. I think its connected with your uterus expanding and organs adapting. Occasionally i also had a pain in the right groin area. But now at 20 weeks none of that is happening, just a lot of kicking! I agree with the other ladies, i also told a selected few very early on as i felt myself suffocating with this secret. It has brought me a lot of relief to be able to confide in them and share my worries, even all of us knowing that it was too soon and anything could happen..

[Pippa2202]

Thanks so much again everyone. I think I will tell my mum at the weekend but follow the advice of AMFB and tell them it’s under wraps to the rest of the world until 12 weeks have passed. I have my first Midwife appointment on 25th so just got 9 days to get through and hopefully I’ll feel a bit more reassured. I never thought I’d be so nervous but this forum and you lovely lot have reassured me so thank you!!! xx