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Anxiety & denial

One week to go until my first scan and my head is all over the place.

I feel excited, protective and happy one minute then scared to death the next. I've never been particularly maternal or fussed about other people's babies so now I'm stressing that I won't like my own. Or I'll be terrible at all of this... My dreams are totally mad, last night I was just left to it once I gave birth and I was terrible at everything and no-one cared! I know this is very unrealistic as my partner is amazing!!

When I'm not stressing about that, I'm sure that there's nothing actually there and it's all in my head.... 

Agh! I'm hoping that my scan will sort my head out a bit. 

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Hi, it's totally normal. With my first I used to have crazy dreams, that I forgot i had him and then would remember and he would have bed sores because i had left him there for so long. All completely normal and shows you're gonna make a good mum as you're already fretting and that never stops (unfortunately haha!). Good luck. Xx 

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Thanks :) felt so emotional this morning! Love these forums as we're not telling anyone til after the scan so it's nice to have people to talk to about it all!

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From my perspective this is 100% normal,  my lo is 3 months now and was totally unplanned.  I didn't know what to do at first , but as soon as I saw my baby on that screen I fell in love instantly and I'm sure you'll be the same. If your still struggling speak to the samaratains they provide impartial advice and sometimes just nice to moan at somebody who doesn't know you!! 


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