Ok, Niamh is now seven months old, which has gone way too fast! Initially my boyfriend Paddy was amazing and occasionally he still is. He will get up through the night but only when I ask him, he'll feed or change her if I ask him, he'll do anything if I ask, but recently he's finding more things to do away from the house, helping friends fix cars, going out with his mates, etc, and he doesn't understand that I need him home a bit more. I've tried explaining that I can't do it on my own (respect to any single mums, you are amazing!) I shouldn't have to ask him to help. I get up through the night, do Niamh's breakfast, often forget my own as then I have to wash up and sort the clothes washing to be done while she has her morning nap, I might get to have a coffee after that before she wakes up, but then its play time, then lunch time which we do have together generally, then another nap where I try and hoover, tidy up the house, make the bed etc, but she only has half an hour nap here so i very rarely get anything done, then its whingey crying baby all afternoon until tea time, which she doesn't want to eat, just throws it everywhere. And paddy comes in from work and tells her off for making a mess, so she cries more until bath time, when I have a bath with her, bottle, cuddle, story and bed. He will usually help with bath time, but he makes out he's doing me a favour. And this is seven days a week I do that, he has her on his own one half day a month when I go and get my hair done or something.
Any suggestions how I can broach this with him? every time I've tried, a few weeks later its the same again.
Sorry for the whinge! 🙈 I'm meant to be back at work this week and am worrying I'll have work, studying to complete my accountancy qualification and Niamh to sort all on my own.