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Hello everyone I haven’t been on for a while, on April 14th my husband Charles past away, he had MSA but it was covid 19 that would take him from us. I’m trying to figure out how to be me with out him.

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Derkie54

Hello, So sorry to hear your news. When you've spent some time caring for someone I would think you must feel strangely adrift. I'm sure you have nice memories and hopefully with time things will be easier for you.

Take care

Derek

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Hellebelle

Hello, so sorry to hear your news. I lost my dad to MSA at the end on January so I send my sincere condolences knowing how devastating it can be.

My mum was lost as she they been married for 63 years. She was in a dream like trance for a few weeks as she struggled to come to terms with it. It just didn't seem real.

All I would say is be kind to yourself and give yourself all the time you need. We are starting to remember the good times and how lucky we were to have him in our lives.

The picture shows a happy family which must be a comfort to you.

Sending lots of love

Helen xx

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Marg52 in reply to Hellebelle

Thank you belle I’m so sorry to about your dad too, I was married for 46 years, I know how your mum feels I feel like im in a dream

God bless you both

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Kiwimagic

Morning Marg52

I’m sorry to hear about your husband, may he RIP.

Take each moment, minute as it comes don’t think too far into the future it will feel daunting without your soulmate.

My parents were married 51 years when my dad died in November so it’s still early days for us too.

Think of all the happy memories you made and surround yourself with your beautiful family and friends.

Times are strange at the moment so it must be more difficult.

Sending you a virtual hug

God bless x

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IvyRose64

I'm sorry to hear your sad newest is an awful time. My thoughts and prayers are with you, take care of yourself and accept any help offered. Remember the good times you had and try to focus on them, that's what I'm doing. Stay safe and be strong.

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Madauntie

So sorry to hear this news. I lost my hubby 2 years ago and you must allow yourself time. Think about you, do whatever it takes to get through each day. My only advise is don’t make hasty decisions. God Bless xx

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phamwales

hi Marg

im so sorry to hear the news.. it was only last November i lost my Gill but it seems like yesterday.

you will be lost for some time but you will adapt and you will start to look after yourself.

wishing you all the best and glad you are on this site and able to connect with others who really do know what you are going through

Pete

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ChocolatePot

Sorry to hear that. My dad died one year ago yesterday and my parents were married for 54 years, so she feels a tad lost and yesterday was hard for her. But just give yourself time, remember the good times and be grateful that he no longer has to suffer. My hubby currently is struggling badly and everyday is a new struggle. So be kind to yourself and take all the time you need, no rush at all. <<<hugs>>>

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Diane831

I look back to my life with Geoff and am comforted to know that I am a much better person for all he was in my life. I wouldn’t be who I am without him, and he carries on Living in and with me. I realise that your situation is not so straightforward when he was snatched by the Covid, not coming to the end of his journey with the MSA and that is so hard. I am grateful that we got to the end of Geoff’s journey in November before all this happened.

God bless

Diane

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Tommytoothpaste

I am so sorry for your loss. It must be very difficult for you but please take care of yourself. Sending much love. Xx. Fiona

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chester2107

so sorry to hear this , and that it was covid that took him , I also lost my dad in March on Mother’s day , fortunately not from covid , he had been in hospital for 3 weeks

my mum is struggling, she is 84 and they had been married for 61 years

it is so hard at the moment as well with all the restrictions, not being able to see people properly,

i’m sure when we get back to proper normality you will be able to be yourself

and find new things to do etc

sending lots of virtual hugs and love 💕

elaine x

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heysunshine

Sorry to hear of your husband's passing - especially to Covid and suddenly.

I know that the days ahead will be hard and lonely.

As everyone has stated, focus on all the memories as they will see you through.

God Bless!

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