Migraine and being a carer

[Katya3]

Hi all, Do any older migraineurs have experience of having migraine and being a carer? First with my mother and now with my partner I am finding that they are expecting support with minor medical conditions (dressings changed, ferrying to hospital appointments) which I am simply not able to commit reliably to because i tend to get a migraine at the most inconvenient moment. I am sure stress plays a part in this along with interference with regular meals but whatever the reason I am not a reliable carer. I have tried saying, look we know this won't work, take a taxi or ask for the community nurse to change your dressings - I don't live with either of them - but they simply hear I am being uncaring and then there is an argument. I do care but I don't have the energy and day to day stamina to do a regular caring role as well as my own job (which pays the bills). How have others handled this?

[1stgls]

I am in the same boat...my'people' come across as selfish, I know they have needs and to them it is very important but they never notice that I am very, very pale, looking ill and have to dash off to upchuck. I feel very guilty but I am no use to them in that state.