Its been a month now and my best friend is still in hospital because of Bacterial Menigitis

[MaynC]

Yesterday was her 21st birthday, and that is the first time I visited her, cause i can't see her laying in the hospital bed with those hose in her mouth,nose everywhere. My other friend and bffs also came for the first time. My other bff wasn't able to come inside the room because she started crying after we open the door room. I don't know what her meningitis is, but im really worried cause I've read some of post here that some of them got released to the hospital after a weeks or so, and my bff still in the hospital, she's not kinda in a coma anymore, i said kinda because im not really sure? Cause we will talk to her but she will not look at you straight but sometimes she did, and we talk about her and she cried 2 times. And its really hurt me because i thought maybe she's hurting when the nurse is cleaning/suctioning her mouth, i saw her head moved left and right its like she is saying that she cant take it. Idk, she had a TB/tuberculosis last year and the doctor told them that it somehow cameback, and there's also a water in her lungs and heart. I'm just confused if she can really hear us and why does the medication is taking too long? And i heard a lot of negative comments arround me that she might can't walk when she recovered etc. and its really bothers and irritates me like i wanna told them , are you a doctor? Are you GOD to judge what will happen? Cause they're like predicting that there's bad thing will happen. And there's me who is praying for her and believing that she'll be okay. Yes im also thinking that there will be chances.So yah, i just wanna know if she can hear us? Or will she can speak after?. I don't know if i'm being rude if you're reading this and its like im talking to you rudely. I'm sorry, im not good in english. Hehe. And thank you for those people who will answer this. Thank you so much.

[Hidden]

No one can say what is going to happen.

Your friend may seem confused due to sedation, and her body has been through trauma. Her mood may seem different, even her personality.

If she's been in hospital a long while her muscles may have become weaker, she will need to take her time when she comes out of hospital. I had to learn to walk again, at about the same age, when I had meningitis. It was the most scary thing. And I was very confused and with mood swings afterwards.

I am sure the doctors will be doing their best to fight the infection and reduce the stress on your friends heart.

Talk to your friend, hold her hand, maybe play a little of her favourite music.

Wishing you both much love and love.

J

[kelpie25 in reply to Hidden]

What a lovely kind person you are. Keep visiting your friend as and when you can and as already suggested, talk to her, hold her hand,perhaps rub a little hand cream into them, or her feet. We all react differently so don't berate ffriends who find it difficult to enter her room, just try to gently encourage them to come with you to see her. Although it was different circumstances when I visited my elderly mother who rarely respinded, it was always easier with someone else being with me, so we could talk to each other. When on my own, i did basic (so it took little thought to complete) embroidery and that helped me get through the lengthy difficult sessions at her bedside. You are doing great, you are not rude. Good luck to you and your friend.

[MaynC in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much for the respond! But she died yesterday, and i keep my mind busy thinking other stuff because whenever i think about her i started crying and i dont want to my relatives to see me crying. Its actually funny whenever i think about what i used to say to her:

Me: hey! When you die don't you ever ever ever try to visit me!! (Because she know i am scared of ghost)

Her: No, ill visit you and pull you in your bed while sleeping.

And we start laughing.😔😔😔😭

Thank you so much for the respond. I hope you, your loveone and your family are healthy.

[MaynC in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much for the respond! But she died yesterday, and i keep my mind busy thinking other stuff because whenever i think about her i started crying and i dont want to my relatives to see me crying. Its actually funny whenever i think about what i used to say to her:

Me: hey! When you die don't you ever ever ever try to visit me!! (Because she know i am scared of ghost)

Her: No, ill visit you and pull you in your bed while sleeping.

And we start laughing.😔😔😔😭

Thank you so much for the respond. I hope you, your loveone and your family are healthy.