Should I report this?

[parasiticworm]

I go around my friends house for a few beers regularly, He lives in another suppered living but without 24/7 staff and he lives with somebody with an intellectual disability. He himself has a MH issue. He plays online games and speaks to his friends online through is speaker, and they basically take the piss out of this person with a intellectual disability he lives with asking him questions he doesn’t understand with gay sexual Innuendos and then laughing about him. Because I really think its wrong how do I report it without me being a snitch?

[SpeedyH]

Firstly, a snitch is someone who reports something with the motivation of getting someone else into trouble and this isn't you - your motivation is that someone is being treated cruelly and therefore could be in danger. This must be reported as the person with the intellectual disability is not safe.

If your supported living is run by the same organisation, it might be better to report it to someone else, as they have placed the person in the unsafe environment.

You could either phone the Mencap helpline and ask for their support in reporting this or you could Google 'how do I report an adult safeguarding concern in [your adult social care area]'. This should give you a phone number to call or an online report form. Tell whoever you contact exactly what you have written in this post as it clearly describes the situation.

You are a good person, please make sure that you are safe from this person as well. It is nice to get the chance to get out and have a few beers with a mate, but as you have identified, he is cruel which means he is dangerous.

[Pogul44]

I completely agree with SpeedyH.Your desire to help a vulnerable person is admirable and could save this person a lot of stress and anxiety if the situation develops into something physical.

The sooner these people are reported the better.

[Lindypops56]

I think you could report this to Adult social services as a safeguarding issue concerning a vulnerable adult. They will have oversight of both of these clients and their suitability to be housed together.

It’s probably also worth discussing this with your friend in the first instance to see what he thinks about this online bullying of his friend.

I have a son who has experienced this in the past and it’s a particularly nasty and cowardly form of bullying.

it’s great that you recognise the inappropriate nature of this and are willing to flag it up.

[Picklebum in reply to Lindypops56]

O have been in this similar situation and have given info to safeguarding as I am very concerned about someone they said do I have their consent !! I replied that this is to safeguard her and consent is not required they then said I see your point !!!!

[Spud-u-Like1982]

You're definitely not a snitch. You're concerned about someone who's being bullied and mocked and it isn't right. I hate bullies, regardless of what it is, from jibes about someone's appearance, to physical assault and mental cruelty.I actually befriended someone at school because he was being bullied and I wanted to stick up for him and try to help put an end to it. Definitely best to report it and don't think of yourself as a snitch or grass, as you're merely looking out for someone who's being mistreated and taken advantage of. Anyone who thinks you're snitching for doing that, isn't worth knowing.

[DrSarahmac]

I read this to mean that you r friend is being asked questions about the other person he lives with from online gamers. That makes it a bit different as you can’t really get anyone to stop them doing that as they could be anywhere. If that’s the situation I’d talk to your friend first and explain that these aren’t nice people and maybe help him ways to play online more safely. If that doesn’t help maybe speak to his carers as he shouldn’t be getting used to this sort of cruelty it will make him more vulnerable to others who may ve closer to home.

[Tottenhamhotspurs]

Definitely report this bullying, it’s not fair & not right.

[Scrutineer]

Tell your friend that having a MH condition is no excuse for his involvement in bullying his housemate who has LD. You know your friend is enabling the abuse to happen, it is him who should be reported, if that is whats happening?

[natalievbailey]

Yes I would to the police!!