Trying to cope..

[JonDaws59]

My wife and I care round the clock for our bedbound disabled daughter , we are still in theory shielding although we have all had both COVID vaccinations. Three years ago we upset our next door neighbour by erecting a boundary fence to protect our Carers cars when they parked for work on our driveway. Ant social behaviour ensued , not just from them but also their friends and the police were involved but would not do a great deal to help us. Eventually when the boundary issue was settled by mediation , they decided to make malicious safeguarding allegations against us , again we had to endure an investigation but thankfully all well . Unfortunately the bad behaviour continues to this day , the same neighbours tell others in our Avenue that we still abuse our daughter and in spite of contacting the police again , sending a cease and desist letter , we are unable to get any help and support. We are unable to afford a solicitor to deal with the harassment , any written letters to these people by us is deemed anti social behaviour by us by the local police and there seems to be nowhere we can go to protect our daughter. We are retired and do not want to move home , is there nowhere to go to get help with this ?

[Sarah_Mencap]

Hello

This sounds like a very difficult situation for you all.

Do you get any help caring for your daughter? Are you and your wife able to take a break whilst a paid carer (or another family member) comes in? If you don't get any support it would be worth talking to your council (Adult Social Services) so see what help they can offer.

You and your wife are unpaid carers - have you been in touch with your local carers centre at all? It would be worth seeing what available where you live. Carers centres/resources can help you meet other carers, and also get practical advice. Try putting the name of where you live and carer into Google and seeing what it suggests near you.

The issues with your neighbour must be very stressful. Citizen's Advice have a really helpful page all about this here- citizensadvice.org.uk/housi...

You can also call Mencap's helpline on 0808 808 1111 (or email [e-mail]) and talk to one of our advisors about this.

I hope this helps a little.

Sarah

[JonDaws59 in reply to Sarah_Mencap]

Hi Sarah.Thank you for your very kind words and the good advice. We are both very upset by the lack of police support , being written off as a non criminal situation. Our daughter is unaware of any problems thank goodness , but as her dad I would like to stop the malicious gossip in its tracks. Many thanks. Jon.

[Kieran_Mencap]

Hello,

Sorry to hear about your situation. Sarah has provided some great advice. You could also contact victim support; victimsupport.org.uk/get-in....

There also a number of advocacy services that could help:

pohwer.net

voiceability.org.uk

seap.org.uk

cloverleaf-advocacy.co.uk

advocacyforall.org.uk

I hope this information helps.

Kind Regards,

Kieran

[HolisticMum]

How awful for you to have the burden of neighbours from hell when you need all your energy focussed on your daughter. I do hope they get their just desserts. Kind regards.