Lonely and shy.

[joeyroe]

I am a lonely person and find it hard to open up to people. Family always busy and hard to contact. most of my close friend have died and i miss them very much.

[SusieJo1948]

You are not alone I'm here for you and I'm kind of shy myself. I will be here for you.any time you need me you are a wonder ful woman. I won't let you be alone. You also have a guardian angel beside you who is always beside you. and comfort you. The others will be here for you too. So don't be shy you can post us . you can talk about anything and we'll be here.Love susie jo1948

[Yogamama72]

Sometimes it is much easier to talk to strangers than it is to talk to family or friends. Most people are here for the same reasons, knowledge and comfort. I have found this site great for both. Don’t be afraid to seek out what you are looking for here. People are eager to help.

[janiceowens1957]

Sent a prayer up for you this morning. Please voice how you feel we all have a listening ear and will be here for you. Please know that you are not by yourself, you have us.

[Steph60]

I am also shy around new people or people I don’t know that well, so please realize you are not alone. As others have already stated we are here for you- any time you want or need someone to talk to just contact any of us. Just remember people care about you.

[FtB_Peggy]

As the others have said, you are not alone, you are a very important part of this community, and we enjoy hearing from you. Please keep talking to us and know that we sincerely care, and want to know how you are feeling. Thank you for sharing.

[Getoutofme1239]

Hello there Joeyroe , please know you are not alone .there is a big difference from being lonely and being alone. Due to family’s work schedule and school , I’m alone most of the time . This has been the norm for me for quite sometime, and I’m 100% fine with it. We all have some family, friends , friend of s friend etc who communicate their experiences with cancer and it’s reprucussiins through a 3 rd party both good and bad. I am not at all shy however, I’d rather hear first hand from a person like yourself who is actually going through the SAME fight I’ve been fighting than a story from my sister who has a friend who went through treatments with and without surgery . The people on here seem genuine ion their approach to keep each of us informed both good and bad . Without asking for anything except to maybe share your journey with others on here who are going through it. I will Pray for you and I’m here if you wanna talk, vent, or just ask questions which may help you -, God Bless You 🙏🙏🙏🌈🌈🌈😇😇😇🤗

[Ncpoet]

Joeyroe, it is easier to open up to people who understand what you are going through. It took me awhile to figure out when people ask how you are doing, they don’t really want to know. They just want you to say “fine” and family members are sometimes in denial because they are afraid of losing you. I, like you, have lost my best friends and they were the ones I could truly open up to. I miss their presence and their phone calls.

Please let the people here help you feel free to talk about how your health affects your life. I have found this most beneficial. Even though we don’t know each other personally, the people here make you feel connected and we have become extended family. There is no judgement and it OK to not feel good at times.

But what is most important to help with this is that you do get out and involved in activities such as church or hobbies to help you get beyond the sense of constant loneliness. It is hard sometimes to make the effort and you can still feel lonely in a crowd, but if you keep doing it, it gets easier. And there is the chance of forming new friendships. I know I have pushed myself because I know good mental health is important to maintaining good physical health.

If the loneliness begins to feel overwhelming talk to a doctor or therapist. I have certainly done this in the past and glad I did.

I care about what you are going through and want you to feel better.

All the best,

Judy

[joeyroe in reply to Ncpoet]

Hi Judy, thanks for your kind message and i understand what you are saying but i don't have any hobbies now and as for my church it's so big no one knows anyone else. because my Husband has cancer and waiting on surgery i try and spend most of my time with him.he is very stressed and in a very bad place as he is waiting six months for treatment. i only wish some of the People on this page lived near me or in Ireland.

Regards,

Margaret.

[Ncpoet]

Margaret, with your husband having cancer is definitely a big stress for both of you and he is your priority right now. With his stress, it could be hard to discuss your true feelings.

Believe it or not, my husband was diagnosed with a soft tissue sarcoma in 1993. He underwent two surgeries, radiation, chemotherapy and had to have one of his kidneys removed due to the cancer. He was given five years to live but he is still alive in 2018.

I am an only child, have an only child, and two grandchildren. Our parents are no longer living. Three of them had serious cancers but only one actually died from their cancer. We helped with their care.

Our family unit is now quite small. So I understand how lonely it can get especially after going through my own cancer diagnosis in 2013. I went through almost three years of treatment for stage 4 lung cancer and am now in remission. I still have many health problems and the mind is often willing when the body is not.

I am truly sorry you husband is having to wait on treatment. Is it the medical system in your country or because there is another health issue holding him back? He must feel so frustrated and overwhelmed.

You can always message me or the group when you need to vent or just need to talk to someone. The people here really do care.

Will pray for you both. Consider yourself hugged by me.

Judy

[joeyroe]

Hi Judy, the medical system is very bad in Ireland and the waiting list is so long, we are stuck in limbo and cant go anywhere as we are waiting on a letter telling us when he is having another biopsy as they think he could also have cancer at the bottom of the lung as well as the top, it is now six months since he was told he has lung cancer.

his form is very bad and gets angry but not with me. he spends most of his time in bed so that leaves me on my own most of the day and night.

thankyou for your help.

God bless.

Joeyroe. (margaret)

[Ncpoet]

Margaret, I just saw that you had responded to my message. Usually it shows up right away, but for some reason, it didn’t this time.

So sorry to hear this about the medical system there. Is he in bed because of fatigue and pain or because he is depressed over his diagnosis? Either way, it is so hard on you not being able to help him or having someone there to talk to about this. Glad you are sharing here.

I will pray you get that letter soon. Wish he were able to get out and about some to help him think beyond himself right now.

After receiving my diagnosis, it was important to me to do something about it right away. I can’t imagine having to wait while also imagining the cancer growing whether it was or not. No wonder he feels angry. Let him know there are people here who are pulling for him. I was told that my cancer had been slow growing for possibly years and if that is the case for him, waiting on treatment should not prevent his eventual treatments from working.

Stay strong. Whether he is able to tell you or not, you are his anchor and he needs you to help him weather this storm.

All the best,

Judy