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Getting thru taxeol

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Just told a month a go it's back for the 4th time. Now to my liver. Partner an I of 24yrs seems like strangers. I feel so alone. Kinda lost. Chemo brain an other emotions this time. Don't know what to say to her. Bored as hell. She doesn't want to go anywhere or do anything.

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I want you to know you are not alone. I can't give you advice on your relationship, but you have friends and support here. Eat right, stay away from all dairy, eat very little meat. Try to eat veggies and a little bit of fruit. Maybe you two can prepare meals together, go for walks. I've been eating raw garlic in my salads. Hope this helps and I hope you feel better.

I'm so sorry to hear this Bebe4. Please hang in there.

Hi Bebe4 I'm Michele, my wife Masha was on taxeol all last summer for stage 1 breast cancer. Her side effects mainly were fatigue, and body aches. Now we're facing side effects of hormone replacement treatments. No matter the treatment type or side effects, the toll it can take on a relationship is disheartening. We're working our way back to each other, now that cancer and treatment aren't our lives on a daily, meaning, going to doctors appts and chemo. The recovery and fear of re occurrence is ALWAYS there. We're finding that taking the time to speak our true feelings without judgment, creates a safe space to share more.... This isn't an easy task, especially if you/your wife doesn't express her feelings easily. Try in press through to reach each other maybe over dinner or a relaxed atmosphere..... Not during a chemo or doctor setting. Really hope this helps some. Bebe, you and your wife are in our thoughts and many prayers

Hi Bebe4. My partner and I have been similarly distanced from each other because of my chemo. My advice is that she find someone she can receive support from that is or has been in a similar situation. Caregivers and loved ones need as much and sometimes more support than us patients. Open communication is best. Good luck to you.