My son is now 10, but ever since the age of 3 I have known that something was not right with his behaviour and general emotional state. He has struggled for the past 6 years at school and on several occasions has nearly been expelled (only me fighting his corner that has kept him in). We received a diagnosis of ADHD 18 months ago after a 30 min appointment and my son was medicated - this helped but only a little so 6 months later they decided to swap his medication - again this helped for a short while but school is horrendous for him and now I fear they have given up on him. I am not convinced that ADHD is the correct diagnosis - his problems are:
Cannot establish or keep friendships / cannot cope in large group situations / unless he is being spoken to directly will be disruptive and make silly noises / cannot make eye contact with anyone when speaking to / has obsessions over various random things / when watching tv the other kids do not get a choice and he will watch the same programme for hours / needs something to fiddle with constantly / when he makes a decision that he wants to do something i.e an interest will talk about it to anyone and everyone for weeks and months / does not have regard for anyone else's feeling etc / cannot empathise with people / does not realise when he has done wrong.
Above are just some of the things he does, we have tried so many avenues through the school but just get palmed off and I am at my wits end as he is a very bright and loving kid who is just being labelled as a "naughty kid" and is currently 3 years behind at school - he is nearing the end of junior school and I worry that if he goes into secondary school unsupported then they will just write him off also...
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.