being more disabled by loss?

[RogerCMerriman]

was much more frequent on here years ago, but around 11 years ago didn’t quite make it to work.

Had a few days in hospital following a skull fracture and some brain bleeds, my work luckily where more aware than I was and I got phased return to work, I did try full time for a while but it crushed me, so I’ve reduced down to two days a week over the years.

In short I’ve slowly rebuilt my and our life while I’m not the man I was, life was rebuilt.

But late last year my wife unexpectedly died, she was chronically ill which would of shorten her life but we where expecting and medical advice had been years than months.

So it’s been a brutal shock, and further to the grief has been the reality of how well I cope with looking after myself, I did suspect that Sara being the lovely home maker that she was enabled me to look and be far more able that I truly was.

photo above is point above a trip to Australia which is almost certainly beyond my capacity now.

but it’s been and is a bit of shock to the system!

[Alfie2022]

Sorry for your loss. Xx

[moo196]

So sorry for your loss🙏

[MaryH75]

So sorry for your loss x

[cat3]

So sorry Roger ; how dreadfully sad. Nothing can compensate for the loss of your soulmate, but please stay in touch if talking helps.

Wishing you strength m'love . . . Cat. X

...lovely photo. x

[RogerCMerriman in reply to cat3]

Thank you Cat and others, I’ve had better times! And in a selfish way I’ve realised how reliant on others I am!

[Graceissufficient in reply to RogerCMerriman]

A terrible shock. Do you have other family, friends who are supporting?

[RogerCMerriman in reply to Graceissufficient]

I do though from a distance, as my family is mostly a good hour away. Been a few grim days plus 6 nations has started which she loved! And was hilariously loud and passionate about!

[cat3 in reply to RogerCMerriman]

Reliance is why we're here Roger, especially at times of such heartache. 🤍 x

[James1984]

Hi Roger, welcome back to the community here.

I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. It's no doubt a big shock to you having someone you love so much pass on.

I hope we can help you if you ever need any further support.

I will pray for you tonight through Jesus Christ.

[Silkwood20]

So very sorry to hear of your loss. You are in the early stages of grief, so do be kind to yourself. You have probably got a mountain of things to sort out too. I hope you are getting some support. This is, I would think the hardest part and in time you will adapt more to the changes and find new workable routines. What a beautiful photo of you both. Try and remember the happy times and even talk to her, if that helps. (I do that myself, but not when anyone is listening) God bless. x

[Tortie14]

I remember you when I was active here after my head injury. I’m so sorry for your unexpectedly sudden loss.💔💔 It’s early days of processing another huge loss for you of your beautiful Sara. Wishing you strength as you reconstruct your life again. 💜

[RogerCMerriman]

Ah no it’s different to Grieve ie she occupies my waking and sleeping thoughts, but though I was aware and appreciated that she enabled me to do stuff, and made me look much more able than I truly was.

Even though I knew it, still been shocked by the extent of it!