Starting again on here after upsetting someone before. I was on here to hear and get advice from people who have been through something similar or the same as me, and it helped me a lot. Yes I would have days where I would complain, moan, rant on here to get things off my chest but it wasn't what I should have done. I had people following me and sending messages which helped a lot and to get back on here had to change my name. My name before was Sshh.
I don't even know if anyone would still help if I needed it but I came back on as it did help me out when I needed it most.
There are some names I remember that followed or helped me, Cat, Pax, Leaf and a few others I have forgotten. So I'm sorry for that.
Thank you for realising its me! Honestly the people who had replied to posts before meant a lot, so I was a bit worried I would lose everyone on here. Thank you. 😊
Hello and welcome back. I too am an infrequent visitor here nowadays, but it's OK to pop in and out rather than not at all. I know exactly what you're going through even though it's almost thirty years ago for myself. I ranted and raved and people moved on because of it, but you know what? I wouldn't change a thing. It needed to happen and I needed the release. Really, it's fine.
Thank you for that. I just feel alone at times when I really just need to get stuff out and then I feel better once I have ranted. Not always pn here, just to people who are not expecting the new Lisa to be like this. Its me though amd I'm trying to take my mind off being frustrated with other things, rather than upsetting some people, but we see how that goes. At least 12 months later I'm still trying 🙂
Thank you Baron for that. My lovely hubby has recently returned to his care facility after a month In hospital fighting a bad chest infection. In the busy/noisy hospital he was pretty much unresponsive and kept his eyes shut. Immediately back at the usual calm, ordered, setting he is engaged and using eye communication again. He must have been so overwhelmed... I feel you spoke for him in that first video.And Lion welcome back..! That is a really good name you have chosen too!
No problem here, you can rant all you feel necessary as far as I am concerned. Your mental stuff is most important and nobody should get in the way of that.
Just my little pretty worthless opinion but nobody should get upset by words here, not worth the effort. Obviously there must be limits to what we should say e.g. personal nastiness is off limits but none of us should overdo something of nothing.
Best wishes
Michael
Thank you for your honest reply. Everyone with TBI, BI is different on so many ways but you all give good advice. Its when I'm trying to explain something to someone to stop me feeling angry, frustrated or upset that there is always someone who doesn't " understand how you're feeling, but you're ok"..... well I'd I was I wouldn't be ranting at them!. Funny but not funny what I said but thanknyou for being honest. Lisa x
Lion, Shhh or Lisa 😂 poor Baron will now have options to recall you by😃
(tip…write down even things you cant remember in the best way you can.
eg (Lost my red pen”)
Then congratulate yourself when four or more days later the level of recall returns and you remember where you had put it).
My take on the memory thing is slightly different to Barons.
I think of the info being like driving into a vast multistorey car park but after shopping forgetting what colour or make the car is or if I can recall that, which level or space the car is parked in.
Additionally, to remember names or things, associate them with something ridiculous. Its easier for your mind to recall something totaly stupid and bizarre. You have to train your brain to work at its highest level rather than at an automaton level.
That was a technique we used to use when lectutering at uni.
Also to recall someones name, look them in the eye and again associate something with them.
And it not just BI that this affects . Years ago at school, a fellow pupil was late for class and was struggling to explain why and could only recall what us kids called the teacher who had delayed him. Eventually he blurted out the nickname to which the teacher quizzing him said, oh you mean Mr. Xxxx. We thought they didnt know the nicknames we called them, but clearly they did.
So in that case it was not BI but panic and bring overwhelmed was blocking his thought processes.
Anyway welcome back….. use us as your punchbag and come here when ever you want to.
Its your safe place. ❤️
Thank you. Its just a lot easier for me to talk on here, or get off my.mind what's wrong or what I have done. Feeling a failure is usually how I feel, but I have learned that its because people will say. "Oh Lisa, any chance you could......" and I would always say yeah sure. Don't matter if its staying extra at work, cancelling something I have planned to do something else someone wants to do, I always put them first instead if how I'm feeling. A few people make me feel a failure a few times a month an md even though I want to swear at them I don't! I realise I shouldn't, so I just smile. One day I might swear at them 😆 . Anyone on here can call me Lisa as that is my name, it is I promise haha. Thank you though you are a good help with your information 😊 x
Lisa learning to say no and remembering to put yourself first is not something that is necessarily BI related.
(Many people who provide help, information and care services may be the same. I know some and its too easy to not look after your own mental and physical health).
But like many things it takes practice.
I know what you mean when you say you want to always do your best for others and that is definitely not a bad thing. In fact it is great, but if it puts you under unnecessary pressure that can damage your recovery as stress and anxiety are to be avoided.
On top of that you are definitely NOT a failure by trying to help others, but do try to pace yourself and read up about learning how to politely say no. It will pay you dividends and keep you away from situations that are in conflict with your health and wellbeing .
Living with anything BI related makes you a survivor and that you should celebrated. So keep going, continue to call in here and do not be afraid to ask awkward questions.
You are one of the few people I have responded to and you wrote such appreciative replies. It was lovely. ❤️
Please don’t take my lack of responding to your posts as someone who had changed their mind about helping you! I only visit here occasionally because I struggle so much to read and write that I’d get nothing else done. Post head injury was like putting my dyslexia on speed which combined with the brain injury is a real challenge 😂. Funnily enough, I responded to you in another post just yesterday. Seems your posts stand out to me no matter what name you write under.
I’m sorry you felt the need to remove yourself from this site especially as you have found solace here. Sometimes reading someone else’s rant can be very cathartic. Guess it depends who you are and what you are going through at the time. Anyway, I for one am very glad to see you back here.
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Art as therapy, drawing again, etc. Good news!!
Anyone need any help in anyway?
PIP, cancelled again!!!!!!!
