Hypersexuality, and menopause

[Stevehusbandof]

My wife had a TBI 11 years ago, was in hospital and rehab for 12 weeks, no physical injuries.

This left her with some damage, no sense of smell, inapproriate language at time and hypersexual. She was very easily aroused to the point of wanting it anytime, anywhere and anyone.

We managed it for quite sometime to keep her safe and satisfied and embraced the new wife. This became our new normal. She knew what she was doing so no advantage was taken of her.

She has just/is going through menopause and doesnt want sex at all, if fact she has said I should take a lover for myself.

I am confused and frustrated, I lost my wife at the TBI and embraced/loved who she became and it feels like I'm losing her again.

I am a very physical person and sex is a much needed part of our relationship before.

Any advice is welcome

[cat3]

This is such a personal issue Steve that it's difficult to comment. I know that hypersexuality can be a direct consequence of brain injury as can olfactory disturbance and swearing.

But I gather your wife's heightened sexual appetite worked well for you both (your new normal) until the menopause came along and estrogen levels dropped causing loss of libido.

There are other symptoms of menopause which can be off-putting for women such as hot flashes (uncomfortable verging on distressing), depression and painful intercourse.

These issues can be addressed as a whole with HRT (Hormone Replacement Therapy) which can be prescribed by your wife's GP If the doctor thinks it appropriate (depending on your wife's medical history) and if your wife is happy to use it.

There are other treatments, such as talking therapies and/or specialist treatment to alleviate penetration discomfort and even mood enhancers, but all dependent on your wife's willingness to seek the necessary help.

Your GP is your first point of contact for treatment or referrals to sexual health therapists.

I hope you'll find the help you need. All best wishes, Cat..

[Stevehusbandof in reply to cat3]

Thank you, will follow up with her GP.