NEED ADVICE PLEASE

[Elizab1kay]

Good morning to you all my wonderful family yes I mean it, guys your advice on this forum has helped me to live again after my brain injury 3years ago. Huuuunn what a journey but thanks be to God almighty and I thank you guys , my special thank goes to Cat, you’re a star.

Yes my recovery journey has been very good as I listen to my body and try not to do too much,

Please I need help, my confidence has been sooo poor that I cannot say what I really want because I worry I will make someone angry or upset.

I owned a small flat in Scotland and it’s been rented long term ago while I live in A rented room in London, but now I am struggling sharing and dealing with the noise here,, I really need my own better space but I am scared of telling my tenant to move out. He has been nice and pay his rent promptly, please I need your help how can I tell this good tenants to move out, I am worried that he will be angry about that.

Please kindly advise me.

[AndrewT]

Dear Elizab1kay,

Yes a 'Tricky' problem.... However, If you simply 'Say' what you have 'Said' here, and then follow it up with 'So I'd like my Flat back please.... no rush, say by Christmas/ New Year.'

I'm sure that your, clearly 'Good' Tenant, will be happy to comply. He may even surprise you... and offer to move, straight away.

Please don't think that I don't Understand, how you feel, but, at the end of the day (so to speak) this IS Your Property. You DON'T have to 'Feel Bad' about reclaimimg 'something you own'- be it a Pencil, or a Home.

I'm, quite sure, that your Tenant will understand Elizab1kay- especially if you don't Rush him. Give him a Call, you might be pleasantly surprised.....

AndrewT

[Elizab1kay in reply to AndrewT]

Grateful to you AndrewT

Thank you very much

[Froggiefrog]

I'm sure if you explain that the situation is no reflection on the tenant and that you will be happy to provide a positive reference, if the person is as reasonable as you believe, they would understand, even if it is not the news they want to hear. Any other reaction, whilst disappointing to you, cannot distract you from what you feel needs to be done.

[Elizab1kay in reply to Froggiefrog]

Very grateful thank you so much

[cat3]

Please do what's right for you Eliza. If your welfare requires changes to your living conditions you should explain the situation to your lodger. Tell him you'll be happy to give him a good reference and allow him plenty of notice.

So long as you assure him he's been an ideal lodger and this is purely a personal health issue I'm sure he'll be understanding and gracious. It takes courage broaching difficult subjects, but set your mind to it and speak with him sooner rather than later. I'm sure it can be sorted amicably and then you can relax.

Good luck m'love ; hope all goes well..... Cat x

[Elizab1kay in reply to cat3]

Huuuunnn! What a relief thank you so much

Really appreciate you

[BaronC]

Do it officially by letter. Far from it being the coward's way out, it really is far better as you will both have written confirmation to refer to.

You could explain in the letter precisely how you feel, what you have said here and hopefully your tenant will understand. When the process has begun maybe you will then feel more comfortable if the opportunity arrives to talk to your tenant.

Good luck,

Andy

[sashaming1]

If he is a "Good" tenant, ask him to please be more quiet as the first option before asking him to move out. Let him know of his options so that he can make his own decision on his future.

[Tess99]

As Andy said, do it by letter, as you probably need to do so by law. Also, you can find out how much notice you need to give him legally and give him that amount of time (30 days, 90 days, etc) in the letter.

[Elizab1kay in reply to Tess99]

Really appreciate and thank you so much

xx