TBI adult son driving me crazy. Can not stand it anymore

[MamaRudy]

I cannot take my 39 year old son and his TBI. I am to the point where I can not be around him or look at him. His Dad and I have had him since 2010. I am on nerves pills daily and I am at my wits in. No support at all but us two. I can not take it anymore. I needed to vent to someone

[Hidden]

Hope you're ok. Have you tried the Headway helpline?

[Hidden]

contact your local social services department and your doctor. Maybe they can provide supported lodgings for him but at the very least they could take him into respite for a few weeks whilst you have a think about where to go. I think many of us know how you feel, you need a break.

[1949liz]

You do need help and support please contact your doctor and tell him/her how you are feeling and ask for a respite from your son. There are lots of places he could go so be strong and act, and I wish you all a very peaceful Christmas Love Liz x

[Fearless_One]

My husband has a TBI. I have found that pain medications and some supplements affect him adversely. I can't take it when he is like that. He gets belligerent, hostile, argumentative, and is in complete denial that they affect him. I just thought I would mention this to you in case this may be happening to your son. I pray for you, your husband and him that you will find relief.

[cuckoosnest2018]

Hi MamaRudy - I'm married to one of those (20 years this coming May) and can say this "if possible, get some outside help, it's out there, you must pursue it" "always think before you speak, or they will turn everything into an argument" "consider the source of the irritating comments, stupid, repetitive questions" - they are coming from brain damage, their brain is shot full of holes, a very sad state of mind, on a continual basis. Be strong, and put yourself in his place - he is NOT thinking straight, you are there to think for him. I do sympathize, being in the same boat for so long - I will be praying for your situation - glad to have found this from you. P.S. the name I use on here applies to my daily life at home, not anyone on here whatsoever.....there is victory in Jesus !! He alone can heal his mind.

[steve55]

contact social services and see if theres any daycentre activities in your area and about respite care.

[steve55]

are you claiming carers allowance? if so use that to get carers in to give you a break or did you contact social services about day centres?