Finally admit i need help

[debbie36a]

I'm leaving this site now you've made me realise i need help

Thank you all xx

[Kirk5w7]

Take care xxxxxx

[cat3]

What sort of help Debbie........................& why do you need to leave ? x

[StrawberryCream]

Why don't you seek the 'help, you need but please do continue to have our understanding and support as well. It doesn't have to be one or the other you can and do deserve to have both. On here off loading or expressing distress, worries and confusion is totally ok. We all get to points of despair and emotionally rock bottom at times in our own lives too and need each other's acceptance and support so let us continue to be here for you too.

Big cyber hugs x

[Tortie14]

Same thoughts as above get help anywhere you can but post here too. You deserve all the support you can get and people here understand the BI / career aspect better than other professional support. Wishing you strength, comfort, courage to heal your wounds and create a better life. 💚

[MXman]

Hi Debbie, You don't need to leaver the site to get help, do both. Loads of help here too. Hope you find it and come back. XX N

[angelite]

Hi Debbie,

Having read your other posts it is clear that other people's demands and expectations are putting you under severe pressure, besides your own personal problems with Mark's injury. Like Strawberry, I used to be Wonderwoman, running about at beck and call to demanding neighbours with various issues, working long hours, being responsible for everything at home too. This all ground to a halt when I became ill. I think I became so run down with physical demands that my immune system was at an all time low and unable to fight off a simple virus - hence the brain infection.

Since recovery, people around me expected me to take the normal roles of constant availability, as per pre illness, back on. Well, it simply does not work like that ! I am left with both physical and cognitive issues that limit my abilities, for one thing. For another and most importantly to me, even if I had made a complete recovery, I am not willing to run myself ragged and risk my wellbeing again. So, I have had to learn to put myself first, say 'No' to requests I do not feel able to cover and make my boundaries quite clear. This has not been easy, as I am a natural helper of others but I have come to realise that I need and deserve some space too !

Debbie, you sound very much like me; a people pleaser, with many others relying on your support, possibly at risk of being taken advantage of, and with no one to support you. I am very relieved to hear that you will be getting some help. Please do not feel that you need to leaves us on here - we will always be available for you.

Take care, lovely lass,

Angela x

[Writer52 in reply to angelite]

Dear Angela

I empathise - what you have written about is my character to.

We might appear to be functioning well but we have a silent disability. Having to spend time looking after myself now and my immediate loved ones and my dog !

But I do extend my thanks to BI community for all it's support and wisdom.

Much love

Axxx

[razyheath43]

i agree with all of the above comments and i quote (from the labrtinth) ^should you need us"

[Steve49]

Hi Debbie.

What help do to need???

Why are you leaving us???

Steve.

[Writer52]

Dear Debbie

You don't have to leave sweetheart. what sort of help are you looking for.

We are all in the same boat on here and I have had wise, loving and insightful information and support from others which I have not received from professionals.

Don't be embarrassed by your feelings and problems - we are all here to help.

Big hug and wishing you well.

Axxx

[malalatete]

Debs. Stay. Get help, sure. But stay. Tx

[Hidden]

hi Debbi sometimes the best help is here where your friends are i'm Alan sorry to see you go i've only just met you take care Alan xx