My love story! 1 worn out woman, 1 House, 4 sons and a hubby with a brain injury.....

[smithysdee]

I have been advised (after 4 years in oblivion) to join headway. I then come across this site and after looking through the blogs I decided maybe this is the way to get my frustration out..... without anyone getting a poke to the eye.

I also thought I would tell our story from the start, pre brain injury to now. I will tell you our struggles, triumphs, heartaches and happy times.

It's not all bad..... Through the endless operations and personality changes I have a fella that still adores me the way he did before and we have 4 beautiful sons.

No scrap that... I have a fella that answers the door to the postman naked and 4 boisterous boys that just get encouragement off their father.

For today I will just tell you a bit about us.

I'm Dee. I am 28 and a FT carer and full time mum.

My fella Ryan is 25 (yes my toy boy) he was a doorman and was the victim of an assault in 2009 leaving him with various injuries including a bleed to the brain.

Myself and Ryan lived round the corner from each other when we were kids until I moved into my own home when I was 16. I then went on to have my son Aaron when I was 18. My relationship lasted 8 years before we split up. I then ran the local pub and Ryan was a friend of a friend that used to come in regularly and that is how we met up again.

With Ryan I have had 3 more sons. Ryan Jnr aged 3 who was born 4 months after the assault. Reggie who is 2 and Cooper who is 1 in 6 days.

So that's us and due to the fact Cooper is a nightmare and still not sleeping through I am one handing it while trying to feed ten tonne tessa on my knee so I will leave it for tonight and come back tomorrow to start our story.

The fateful night is not one to be missed and includes a shopping trolley

[iforget]

Welcome to the boards Dee...you sure do have your hands full. Look forward to getting to know you and your story.

[Dorsetcharlie]

Hello Dee. You have indeed come to the right place. Your first post has made me laugh and so I very much look forward to reading more :).

Welcome!

Charlie

[bikerlifestyle]

welcome Dee

you are in the right place and contacting headway is a good step too, as there is a lot of help and support available

Mark

[ricozoe]

welcome dee

[Lubilu01]

Hello Dee, looking forward to reading more x

[spartan300]

welcome to the brightside dee,x

[Tissue1]

You sound a very courageous woman. I too look forward to hearing more of your story.....will be thinking of you.

[Hidden]

Hi Dee, glad you've finally found somewhere to tell your story, I amoung others look forward to reading your struggles, heartaches, triumphs and happy times

[Crocus]

Nice writing. I hope you got some shut eye last night. Look forward to hearing more.

[Kirk5w7]

It's so good to hear the stories, we care so much about how other people cope, long to hear the rest, love Janetx

[karenanne]

Welcome dee.you hav come to right place x

[Hidden]

Hi Dee - looking forward to hearing more. x

[millie67]

Hi Dee, welcome, this is certainly the place to come to feel your not on your own. Looking forward to more of your story. x

[Flumptious]

Hello, Dee. Welcome to Headway.

I am a TBI survivor, but I always think my injury must have been far harder for my poor husband. Hey, being in a coma is easy, but having a young baby, and a toddler, and a wife in a coma... eek! So please, tell us your story. I want to know about the shopping trolley!

[SASSYIAM]

welcome on board dee.this is 4 sure the place to get out frustrations/rants.i am a kinda newbie coz when i was in my coma 51/2 weeks 20 odd years ago.when i can find time i feel it's really nice to make a cuppa and sit and chat .i can't speak 4 everyone but having read thru the replies here today i feel i can safely say " you r amongst friends ".i must find time to write a blog about me and my experiences.but it may send people off to sleep or myself off to sleep.i have no arms(or so my brain thinks) patchy spatial awareness,lost my first child all thanks to a ruddy cat!! i am 44 now,thankfully have 2 children.1 is 29 and lives in london with his wife the other is 2 1/2 and keeps me fit.!! oh and did i mention the youngest is an adoradoodle who i trained as my pet assistant. and i do have my PA thank goodness 4 her!but i am desperate to hear lots more of your story.take care you and until ur nxt instalment!!! X

[cat3]

Hi, dee. As you may be realising -- you're very welcome here. cat x

[smithysdee]

Aww thanks everyone! Well I didnt expect that!

I'm sure after reading a few of them you will eventually think I am just a moaning minnie ha ha. xx

[chaver]

Life is so totally not my own since my daughters ABI. Not complaining though because she is here with me and gives my life so much meaning. Nice to here from Dee I have just joined too, and you sound like your life is as crazy as mine, look forward to hearing more.