Loneliness

[Anita_1]

Hi lovelies. How do you deal with loneliness

[Epea]

Reach out anytime for a chat really nice people here who understand how isolated fibromyalgia sufferers can become. Lots of warm hugs🥰

[Yassytina FMA UK Volunteer]

Hello Anita, it can be very hard finding yourself being lonely and I am sure this time of year is not helpful , I know when It gets colder I want to hibernate indoors, for me my local radio when I actually get going in the mornings, it’s hearing a cheerful voice of the presenter ,playing some nice tunes and talking about what’s going on in the local community,I have a newspaper delivered and my favourite monthly magazine to ponder over with a lovely cuppa and look forward to the Spring, there is a local met up in my community where you can go twice a week for dinner and a chat , is there anything near where you live ? There are people that live alone and go meet up on a regular basis, the local churches do coffee mornings and things in the community too , I hope this helps xx

[041051]

Hi Anita, I have found loneliness is more of an issue for me since Covid hit us. My son lives with me and he is clinically vulnerable so I have curtailed the few interactions that I used to have. I used to volunteer locally just for a few hours a week and I have missed doing this. However, another local group were looking for people to phone other people who are isolated and so I started doing this. It does help because at least I get to talk to people and sometimes I am able to offer a bit of help or advice. Also, I interact sometimes with people via the internet so that helps me. My fibromyalgia makes it difficult to sit or stand for any length of time but I have found that the people that I speak to are happy to have shorter phone calls twice a week than a longer one once a week. I hope you find something that suits you but I'm happy to chat any time if it would help.

[Wobblygirl in reply to 041051]

I too feel alone and lonely after losing my hobby and business because of stamina, pain and fatigue. Time hangs very heavy for me as I can only think of the future and possible solutions when I am really well...

Recently viral infections have caused 2months of ill health and now the awful post viral malaise where even an hour of activity leaves me in collapse mode... No solutions on the horizon as yet...

I did think about joining a patient forum at my local Health Centre because I know an awful lot about being a patient! This is currently on Zoom so all safety measures are adhered to.

It's an infrequent activity but it's a start...

I think the telephone idea is a great one and one which I will pursue in time, if there are no deadlines?

Thank you for raising these important issues.

I am trying to answer friends via e-mail after their Christmas correspondence and it is great to be in contact but oh my, is it tiring???

Any tapping seems to really make me irritable and an awkward sort of discomfort occurs in my shoulders!

It's such a shame that even pleasant activities are a trial for us...

I hope that the forum members here recognise that every time they respond, someone somewhere feels supported and knows they are not as alone as originally thought. It is a lifeline at times and so many folk repeatedly respond with experience and kindness.

Wish you all lived in my street but this forum is just so helpful.

Thank you again, with sanitised hugs from Wxxx

[Usandthem]

Don't feel alone come on for a chat or a good old moan, we are all hear to listen and support. We can relate to your feelings which is good! You are not alone! It's hard sometimes but try to pop on when you're low. You will get there honestly, it doesn't feel like it just now but you will. Love and Peace 💕✌

[LisaSnow FMA UK Volunteer]

Develop a hobby that you enjoy spending time doing, find others in the community who.love doing the same, make friends with them.

[Oscarpops]

I feel very lonely anita but i feel better the time i take dogs out, i have made friends with other dog walkers in the area too....without this i wouldn't have seen anyone for months as i couldn't go to work either due to sheilding, its a struggle yo take themnand i often go so far in the car then pet them run around on a field but i look forward to these chats. I admit i also talk to the dogs and even to alexa , it helps. Play interactive quizzes with alexa or jokes. I have started doing hand made crafts again like wax melts and decoupage, i make these to order too which i find keeps me busy and i proud of the creative results which help.. i know these aren't massive solutions and not feasisable for everyone but they may help a bit

Good luck

[Wobblygirl]

Thank you for raising this important issue...

It's such an awful feeling to be lonely and one that can spiral out of control...

I know I've been there! xx