Sensitive post- a bit hope for recurring miscarriages viability scan done ✅

[Jess1981]

Some might know me I've been here nearly 7 years! Wish I'd found the site earlier into our journey.

We endeared a long 7 year struggle due to a huge delay in my endometriosis 3 surgeries and a chemical pregnancy. But happily we had our daughter Francesca in June 2019. The pregnancy was full of anxiety and I thought she was too good to true.

Anyway being the crazy fools we are we decided to try for a sibling! I sadly lost our second daughter Amelia at 20 weeks pregnant being told no heartbeat at scan 🥲 no cause of death was established after full post mortem just very unlucky, heartbroken we tried again had a chemical pregnancy in January, followed by another loss at 6.5 weeks pregnant in March. We got referred to a miscarriage specialist as we finally hit the criteria -3 pregnancy losses in a row. Took a month off to just give ourselves a break my poor body had gone through the ringer. All investigations came back clear which I half expected but did agree to the steroids which I'd had with Francesca and for 2 weeks with Amelia ( my most successful pregnancies is far) and I firmly believe that these steroids made a difference. I think it's no coincidence the other pregnancies didn't work out ( and Amelia was just a one off tragic)

I had my nk cells raised and my ex fertility specialist was a firm believer in the management of nk cells and agreed I could have them till 12 weeks.

They kindly offered to turn the screen off for me until they checked my hubby couldn't resist having a peep! And found the bean via abdominal scan ( much to my surprise) a good heartbeat and measuring exactly 7 weeks 5 days exactly right 😍

It was very difficult to visit maternity department after Amelia but fortunately that part of the department is being built on thank goodness making it a little easier. The staff were so kind and let my hubby wait with me ( made exception for us as men were told to wait outside goodness it is something like out of 1950s 😂) but at least the hospital are allowing partners to scans now 😊

Generally wishing everyone the very best and always have hope miracles can happen 🥰 Xx

[HollieW]

Congratulations Jess and hoping you sail through this pregnancy 🤞 xx

[Jess1981 in reply to HollieW]

Thank you so much.. I hope this is our rainbow baby,🤞🏻 How are things with you? Xx

[XOXO13]

Congratulations, that’s wonderful to hear after all you have been through 🌈🌈💜 xx

[Jess1981 in reply to XOXO13]

Thank you, I was so nervous. Good luck with your pregnancy hope all goes nice and smoothly Xx

[butterfliez]

That’s lovely news congratulations! Wishing you all the best & hope all goes well after everything you’ve gone through xx

[Jess1981 in reply to butterfliez]

Thank you, I hope your pregnancy is going well Xx

[Ellie1005]

This is so lovely to hear, you really have been through it and I can totally relate to the visits to the same place where you had such tragic losses as Ive done the same, was happy when I started at a private clinic so I didnt have to go back as much! Sounds like they were very supportive which is brilliant and that its all going well for you, its hard to persevere but you've done it which is great, sending lots of baby dust your way xxx

[Jess1981 in reply to Ellie1005]

Thank you, yeah it was pretty emotional but hopefully we will create happier memories there 🤞🏻The staff were great and that makes a huge difference. Good luck with your upcoming FET hope this is your rainbow baby. Late losses are particularly painful sorry you went through that too . Dont think I'll ever forget Amelia or would want to Xx

[Ellie1005 in reply to Jess1981]

Im sure you will and so glad you are supported it really does help with the journey. Thank you so much, we have our fingers crossed for our rainbow baby! Amelia is part of your family and always will be, we see Ellie in the same way and will always remember her and share her memory together xxx

[Hidden]

Congrats lovely!! So well deserved after everything you have been through. So happy for you xx

[Jess1981 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much. I am sorry to hear your donor has not been so reliable and hope the delays and excuses stop soon so you can start your cycle Wishing you every success with it, you've had such a hard journey and no one deserves this more than you do Xx

[Purpledoggy]

Congrats on your scan! What a massive relief. Wishing you a healthy pregnancy xx

[Jess1981 in reply to Purpledoggy]

Thank you so much. It definitely is as miscarriage risk drops after seeing a heartbeat! 😅 Hope your pregnancy is going well Xx 😘

[Purpledoggy in reply to Jess1981]

So far so good, thanks lovely. Got a scan next week alongside my NIPT at 10+6 so will be nice to have an update on how bean is doing 🙂 xx

[Cinderella5]

Great news Jess, so pleased to hear it's all going ok so far!! Wishing you all the best for the next scan.🤞🏻xxx

[Jess1981 in reply to Cinderella5]

Thank you so much. Although I find scans very scary it has offered some reassurance ( for now!) knowing the risk of miscarriage lessens after seeing heartbeat 🤞🏻The miscarriage specialist will be doing our antenatal care which is nice as she knows our history so I'm not having to repeat it . 😊 Hope the boys are doing well? Xx

[Cinderella5 in reply to Jess1981]

Yes the scans only offer a small bit of reassurance but it is nice to get it w en uf just for a short time. The boys are coming on well thanks! Smiling and giggling now.xxx

[romaluna2015]

Congratulations Jess. I was looking for an update hope you are ok xx

[Jess1981 in reply to romaluna2015]

Thank you bless you. A hurdle we got through 😅 A step closer and the miscarriage specialist will be doing the antenatal care which is nice as she knows what we've been through. It has definitely given us the reassurance we needed 🥰 hope you are feeling a bit better? Pm if you prefer Xx

[JoyfulStar]

Wow! I cannot imagine what you have been through. However really happy to hear about your new baby. Hoping and praying for the best as the weeks progress. 🙏🏾🌈

[Jess1981 in reply to JoyfulStar]

Thank you so much. Our children are worth the fight 😍 Wishing you the very best on your journey Xx

[Social-Butterfly]

Congratulations Jess!!! Wishing you an uneventful textbook pregnancy. I can‘t even imagine how hard it is for you to go back to the maternity department, but I do sincerely hope with your little miracle by your side, it turns it to be a happy place xxxx

[Jess1981 in reply to Social-Butterfly]

Thank you so much. Hopefully will create happier memories starting from today. Hope that all is well with you. Xx

[MissSaoPaulo]

Oh that's brilliant news. Hope it's all smooth sailing from here on xxx

[Jess1981 in reply to MissSaoPaulo]

Thank you, a step closer 🤞🏻🌈 All the best with with your 2ww and I truly hope this one is the one to complete your family. 🤞🏻🌈Certainly trying for a sibling hasn't been an easy journey! Xx

[MissSaoPaulo in reply to Jess1981]

Honestly Jess, it's been 3 transfers in 6 months and I'm exhausted with it and I just want it to be over one way or another. So many plans and decisions, big and small, have been on hold waiting to see if we're going to have a second baby or not and if it's negative that's sh*t but I can start to accept it, and at least we'll know - which is better than being in this limbo!!Big hugs for you and your family, hope you're feeling well xxx

[Jess1981 in reply to MissSaoPaulo]

. I meant both of us have some real crap with trying for a sibling. I'm sorry it hasn't been easier for you . I can understand wanting to move on and find happiness as a family. I really do hope this one will complete your family and you can leave on your own terms 🥰 🤞🏻 Everything crossed for a sticky embryo 🌈 Xx

[MissSaoPaulo in reply to Jess1981]

Hell, you've been through the wringer, it's been a bloody tough year for you. Hopefully all will go well this time. And who knows, maybe this is my time too and our second babies will be just a few weeks apart like Millie and Francesca!!

[Jess1981 in reply to MissSaoPaulo]

The journey is tough for sure. Very testing and trying. But yes that would be so lovely 🥰 I've got everything crossed for you , you really deserve this. 🤞🏻 I can't believe how quickly Francesca is growing up! A real diva tho 😂 Xx

[Sammy246]

Congratulations on your scan and pregnancy. I'm sorry about your loss and pray that the remaining pregnancy goes well xx

[Jess1981 in reply to Sammy246]

Thank you that is very kind of you. Hope al, is well with you? Xx

[ttcemmie]

Best wishes for your pregnancy, Jess. You are so strong and you have been through so much. Congratulations. Absolutely amazing news. xxx

[Jess1981 in reply to ttcemmie]

Thank you. I think having our Francesca was what has kept us going, she needed and deserved her mummy and daddy to be ok ( as ok as can be) hopefully this will be our rainbow baby of course Amelia will never be forgotten and our children will know they have a special sister that lives in heaven 🌈 I'm relieved I've got this far and it's going well 😅 I hope that you and the twins are ok? They must be getting quite big now?! They grow up so quickly can't believe Francesca is 2 I have no idea where that time has gone! Xx

[ttcemmie in reply to Jess1981]

You are doing wonderfully for her. Of course Amelia and your other pregnancies will never be forgotten and will always be a part of you, but you are moving forward and focussing on your family and on the future. The twins are doing well thanks.

[Core]

Congratulations brilliant news xx

[Jess1981 in reply to Core]

Thank you . I hope you are okay? I see you posted about steroids I'm absolutely convinced the steroids is what has made the difference with this pregnancy. I know they say no evidence but in my case it's the only thing I've done differently. I hope the steroids helps you too Xx

[Core in reply to Jess1981]

Thanks, sadly not the case for me just had another BFN so pretty gutted xx

[Jess1981 in reply to Core]

Oh no I am so sorry I was hoping the steroids would help you. 😞 It's absolutely devastating for you. Big hugs Xx

[Lovemylion]

Been following your story and I'm so glad your pregnant with what is hopefully another rainbow baby like your Francesca. Will be looking out for further updates. Wishing you an uneventful and smooth sailing pregnancy. You've got this 🌈💪 xxx

[Jess1981 in reply to Lovemylion]

Aww thank you. Definitely been a difficult journey but hopefully will be worth it like it was when we had Francesca 🥰 even tho she's 2 and can be challenging 😂Good luck with this cycle I hope this one completes your family 🥰 Xx

[Fertilityjourney]

Wonderful news, congratulations! Wishing you all of the best for the rest of your pregnancy. xx

[Jess1981 in reply to Fertilityjourney]

Thank you hun wasn't going to beaten 😂 all the best with your journey Xx

[PinkPanther1234]

Congratulations! So sorry to read you have had such a difficult journey. But hopefully you can relax more now, wonderful news and very happy for you xx

[Jess1981 in reply to PinkPanther1234]

Thank you . They do say anything that is worth having is worth fighting for and I believe that our children were worth the fight 🥰 I am sorry your cycle was not successful that is heartbreaking and wish you every success with your journey Xx

[Miracle43]

Congratulations Jess 💖 xx

[Jess1981 in reply to Miracle43]

Thank you and can I say sorry I am for your losses. I hope you get answers and your rainbow baby is around the corner Xx

[Miracle43 in reply to Jess1981]

Thank you so much, wishing all the best with your pregnancy xx

[Polarbearbaby]

Congrats! Did you have any of your babies using IVF or donor eggs?

[Jess1981 in reply to Polarbearbaby]

Thank you. No I didn't have IVF or donor eggs ( tho that has worked quite a few ladies) It took nearly 6 years of trying and nothing happening until I was eventually diagnosed with endometriosis. I could not conceive until my endometriosis was treated. It was the only cause of our infertility. I had 3 surgeries within about a year. After my last surgery I naturally conceived my 2 year old daughter Francesca after a 7 year struggle. I was lucky the surgery was so good as it made it possible to get pregnant again which I'm very grateful for. I took various supplements to help my endometriosis. I think being older ( 39!) was probably the likely cause of my miscarriages all the investigations were clear and I guess at my age it was a numbers game I guess a bit like IVF can be. Tho I'm convinced having the steroids has helped this pregnancy I had them with Francesca but not allowed in the pandemic but that's been eased now 😅 my ex fertility specialist was a firm believer in the treatment of nk cells and tho many say not enough evidence I think he was onto something. Good luck with everything Xx

[Polarbearbaby]

wow that’s a lot of surgeries 😞 I’ve had 2 natural miscarriages and 3 failed IVF cycles…38 years old and on a donor egg cycle now