*Sensitive post* Anxiety, does it go away?

[Becksdk]

So I got my BFP on Saturday after a 3dt through IVF. I was on top of the world, I couldn’t believe it actually happened as the chances of it working first time we’re low.

However, its only Wednesday and I’m already feeling very anxious and just want to pee on a stick every day to check I’m still pregnant! I know that’ll just get silly and expensive.

I’ve never been pregnant before so don’t really know what to expect in regards to any pains or other signs to be concerned about. I’m guessing if I have a bleed it’s all over, but if I have a few cramps that’s normal??

Cause I had some cramping last night that wasn’t overly painful and didn’t last long but I knew it was there.

I wish I could just relax, I guess I won’t until the first scan! 😰😰😰

Anyone else just found out about their BFP and it’s their first baby?

Becks x

[Hidden]

I had got my first bfp on my 4th cycle my little boy is now 3 but I remember my anxiety very clearly it’s does get easier it doesn’t go away till they are born but I was a mess the first few months I would of had a scan every week if my husband let me! It got a lot easier when I felt him move but I was still a crazy women drinking coke at 3 am to wake him up so I could feel him 🙈 I know it’s so hard but try to relax I also found my “all day” sickness very reassuring congratulations try to enjoy it as much as you can xxx

[Becksdk in reply to Hidden]

I’m so glad I’m not alone on this! Great news that your 4th cycle worked! Bet the time has gone quick for you !

I had nausea all day yesterday and it strangely felt good! 😂 cause I know things are happening as they should.

Thank you for your reassurance xx

[Hidden in reply to Becksdk]

It goes so quickly so try to enjoy it! It really is true what they say pregnancy symptoms don’t really kick in till about 6-8 weeks as soon as I hit 8 weeks that’s it I was sick constantly till the day I had him I think as we have ivf we look for “symptoms” so early Just take everything a day at a time I still laugh now I remember at 20 weeks I was massive but when I laid down by bump went away(no one tells you that happens) I seriously thought my baby had fallen out 🙈😂x

[CLDxxx]

Hey Becks,

Congratulations on your BFP 🥰

I felt exactly the same but then thought if this has happened naturally I wouldn’t even know I was pregnant yet so why am I expecting to feel so much already? It’s very early to feel any different.

Cramping and spotting is normal in the first trimester - I was told this when I got my positive. Your body is starting to make room for the bubba for a start 😍

Try not to test but maybe do one in a week or so, that’s what I did and I felt better ☺️

I read The Bump website and you’ll see how you’re feeling now is normal so have a read.

Sending lots of positive vibes to you. Xxx

[Becksdk in reply to CLDxxx]

Thank you for your reply, it’s good to know what I’m feeling is normal, I feel so much better! It helps talking to others who have been through it instead of reading on google.

ll be retesting again on Saturday as the clinic have asked me to do a 2nd one so I can book in my scan! Feels weird saying that 😂🤣

Thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[CLDxxx in reply to Becksdk]

Ahh roll on Saturday and booking the scan ☺️ so exciting! Xxx

[RhinoCat]

I feel exactly the same 🤣 I’ve tested every morning and doing clear blue digital until I reach the max on it. According to it I’m 4-5 weeks

Which is correct. This gave me a little reassurance. I think if , like me, you have only seen empty tests then it doesn’t feel real that it’s a positive. Hopefully scan and passing of time our worries will ease . So nice to share on this wall and get the reassurance 😘🙏🏻💐💖 wishing you the best 💐

[Peanutchips]

Hi lovely. I could’ve written this post myself, I totally understand how you feel. I’m 6 + 5 weeks pregnant and have been so anxious - constantly googling symptoms and convincing myself something is wrong. Yesterday I did loads of cleaning (couldn’t sit still) and then cried for ages afterwards because I was worried I had harmed the pregnancy. I can only assume this is normal after trying for so long? I’m sorry I can’t offer advice, can only let you know you’re not alone 💕 Hope your anxiety starts to ease soon xxx

[Peanutchips in reply to Peanutchips]

Ps I’m also testing every 3 days to check 🤦🏻‍♀️😆 Symptoms only really hit this week (sickness etc) plus some women don’t ever get them

so don’t worry if you don’t feel anything yet xxx 😘

[Hidden]

Hey ,

Im 6 weeks but no scan til 19 aug, Im 42 and an obsessive pee on a sticker too.

[Luna_79]

Congratulations on your BFP 💕😊 x

[JenRoy]

The anxiety doesn’t really go away but does get easier. We had our little girl after IVF. I had a scan at 7 weeks and then our NHS one wasn’t until 13 weeks! So we paid for private ones at 9 and 11 weeks. Those 2 weeks between each scan was torture. I had very little pregnancy symptoms. Almost none! I didn’t relax until 20 weeks when I could feel her but was still pretty nervous. These IVF babies are so hard fought for and super precious! Best thing to do is keep reaching out to those who understand. Good luck x

[Becksdk in reply to JenRoy]

I’m already anxious waiting for my first scan! It’s horrible, and I haven’t even got a date yet! I’m worried they’ll find nothing or just an empty sac. Although they transferred a 10 cell embryo, Could it possibly start developing backwards after implantation or is that not possible if it’s been in the lab being monitored?

Thank you for your reply xx

[JenRoy in reply to Becksdk]

It can’t develop backwards. But sadly it can stop developing if things aren’t quite right. A missed miscarriage can occur. This was what I was so worried about too. There’s literally nothing you can do now. Try and plan each day to keep busy. It’s so crap. Honestly, I know it’s just so stressful! Xx

[Becksdk in reply to JenRoy]

Ok thank you for the clarification! Fingers crossed that doesn’t happen. I actually found the treatment side of things so much easier than this anxiety! I would take that any day over this. Roll on Saturday xx

[DC5867]

Anxiety is perfectly normal. I say if it helps you to test then just do it. You can get a whole bunch of the little hcg dip tests on amazon for next to nothing. Hopefully all will go well for you and as your pregnancy continues it’s perfectly normal to still feel anxious, but it will get better, especially when you get to the stage you can feel your baby move. Time just goes so slowly at this stage unfortunately. Hang on in there and try to take one day at a time. I had a bleed with my first one at around 5-6 weeks and he was fine, so it’s never over until it’s over. Wishing you all the best for a happy and healthy pregnancy x

[Hidden]

Congratulations on your positive. You hit such a high getting a positive then come crashing down with fear & anxiety. Probably not what you want to hear but I suffered high anxiety throughout my whole pregnancy with my daughter ( she followed a chemical pregnancy)After such a long journey it was sad I couldn’t “relax”more. My advice is to try to enjoy each day & take it one day at a time fearing wont change the outcome either way & you may spend time wasted worrying over something that hopefully won’t happen. Early weeks are really tough but you will get through it xxx ps I’ve bled in every pregnancy I’ve had (4) & most apart from one have been ok tho it is disturbing( my first- my grown up son, my 14 month old daughter & this one 5 weeks 3 days) the difference between full term pregnancies vs my chemical pregnancy was I had severe abdominal pain with heavy bleeding whereas the others was no pain with spotting ( ie when you wipe) & slowed down ( instead getting heavier) also test went negative straight away on my chemical pregnancy whereas the others have stayed strong positives. xxx

[Becksdk in reply to Hidden]

Sounds like you’ve had a rough time of it bless you. I’m scared of a bleed I must admit, wish I could just be happy and excited and not be worried cause like you say, every woman is different! Xx

[Hartley1]

Yup...i had the same emotions as you...its natural...i did loads of pregnancy tests esp on the days I thought it was a dream or felt negative that something maybe wrong...no harm in it...test away 🤣🤣. I'm now 27 wks pregnant on thurs...just getting more real...but early morning had to look at my bump in the mirror...my husband was like are you ok...I said just seeing if I'm still pregnant...sometimes I still think it's a dream...i prob sound crazy now...but it's our coping mechanisms after our long journeys...xxx Huge congrats xxx

[Becksdk in reply to Hartley1]

You are so right, it’s a coping mechanism! At £10 per test il have to remortgage my house at this rate 🤣🤣🤣🤣 xx

[Hartley1 in reply to Becksdk]

Even a cheap one will do the honours...🤣🤣...expensive ones are ridiculous but the ones we all go to for reassurance xx