Update

[Carla90x]

Not been on here for a while. I was all on track for losing weight 4 weeks ago... my auntie passed away and I cant seem to get back on track... pfftt feeling fed up and even more jealous of my sister who is nearly 5 months pg now why is it soo hard!?

[Sarah_a_2018]

Know how you feel, it's hard to stay motivated, especially when it feels like everyone around you can get pregnant so easily. Have a good cry, eat some chocolate, take a bath, do anything that will take your mind off everything and makes you feel good and get back on it tomorrow. Focus on keeping yourself well, healthy body, healthy mind = fertile body, fertile mind 🤞🙏 you'll get there x

[Carla90x in reply to Sarah_a_2018]

Thanks hun means alot x just feel like theres an enormous amount of pressure as hospital said I need a BMI of 30 xx does my head in x

[Hopeandhell in reply to Carla90x]

You will do it. Don’t give up. Xxx

[Hopeandhell]

Hardest thing in the world having to get to 30 as a BMI and when you actually look around there as some very very large women who have managed to get pregnant naturally. Keep focussed. It’s your journey to your baby. I’m having to get back to 30 as a BMI after the premature birth of my baby. We are hoping to have another go but BMI (plus fear lots of it) is holding me back. You will do it. You deserve to xxx

[Carla90x in reply to Hopeandhell]

I know right? And no offence but some women dont deserve kids in my opinion dont mean to sound harsh but as a woman that really wants a child of my own, I feel I would be soo happy when the the day finally comes that I have a little one to call me mummy and alot of women out there dont seem to have the appreciation I feel I will have.

[Hopeandhell in reply to Carla90x]

I know what you mean I’m a school teacher! See so so many kids and “oh he was an accident!” It’s so hard. I’ve not been back to work since my daughter was born, she was 23 days old when she died and I honestly can’t face it. Working to get my BMI down again too. Although, we are now having to go private the doc said 33 max but I’m going to get it down further to give myself the best chance. Think of it as making your home nice and safe and comfortable. Like huh are getting ready for baby. Oh and pregnacare conception worked for me. I was successful with the first round but sadly gave birth at 24 weeks and 6 days to a little girl who fought so so hard. And again people who don’t deserve them! My best friend had two babies within two and a half years (her son was born a month before my daughter should come) she told me “it took a lot longer, like five months this time!” Wanted to slap her silly! 😂

[Carla90x in reply to Hopeandhell]

Aww bless sorry to hear hun xxx mist of been soo hard to lose your little one you'll get there ❤ xxxxx

[Hopeandhell in reply to Carla90x]

Its the most upsetting and difficult thing. I remember leaving the hospital when she died and seeing a pregnant woman smoking. It’s just nonsensical isn’t it!

[Carla90x in reply to Hopeandhell]

Weve been trying nearly 2 years and like you say so many women get pregnant by accident! Not fair xx

[Hopeandhell in reply to Carla90x]

We were trying naturally for almost 9 years before ivf.

[Carla90x in reply to Hopeandhell]

Justvdoenst seem right the world is so unfair x and wow we have sort of relaxed about the whole thing as I was getting obsessed and taking the fun out of sex which is never a good thing x

[Hopeandhell in reply to Carla90x]

I know what you mean x

[Carla90x in reply to Hopeandhell]

My sister is 5 months pregnant so I have a niece or nephew to look forward to I suppose. Sounds awful but I cant help but feel jealous of her xx

[Hopeandhell in reply to Carla90x]

It’s completely normal. My bestie had two kids in two years. Her boy was born a month before my daughter was due. My little girl died and I haven’t been to see my friend’s boy. Completely normal to feel jealous. Just wish her a happy and healthy pregnancy. I went into labour early a week after someone at work said “oh a promotion and a new baby, God some people are lucky”. When I lost my baby I also lost a friend as I hated her for the comments she’d made. Your sister is growing her baby. Yours will come and will be so worth it. Plus, there will be a cousin. Start being positive xxx

[Carla90x in reply to Hopeandhell]

Oh God I can imagine hun x and yh your right there my child will be definitely worth it when they decide to make an appearance lol x cannot wait to be an auntie tbh exciting times xxxx baby dust to us both xxx