Thought this was the one place I could talk about how I'm feeling. Clearly not. Good luck to you all ❤😭
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Thought this was the one place...
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What's wrong? This is completely a place where we can all talk about how we are feeling xxx
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My post was deleted 😥 doesnt matter
It said you’d replied to me but I wasn’t able to read it as it had been deleted 🙁
Happened to me not long ago too niki. It’s hard not to take it personally.. I didn’t see your post but I’m sure you wouldn’t have meant any offence! Mine was reported as abusive lol xx
Yeah Im pretty upset tbh I didnt think I was being offensive 😥
It was probably just one petty minded person. Whatever it was in regards to, I hope you’re ok.. Don’t let one person drag you down like I did xx
Definitely not offensive and you’d made a point to try and not offend too and you made an important point. Just try to brush it off xxx
I didn’t see your post but just wanted to say hope you’re ok. I’ve only ever reported really obvious spam posts and on one occasion a bit back when someone was being deliberately quite verbally aggressive towards another person. Otherwise I’d just scroll past tbh.
Obviously I don’t know the nature of your post but even if it was of a sensitive nature & might upset someone, I think that’s different from being offensive which I’m sure you never wanted to be. Hope you feel you can keep getting support from here x
I think I read your post (did it have the word "bone" in the title?) and I must say I somehow agree with you. However, sometimes people do not accept confrontation. Yet, please do not take it personally. Overall this is a great place, and yourself had been a great support when needed 
Yes it did..my title was exactly...I have a bone to pick 😬😬 but I really tried to make out i wasnt trying to hurt anyone..and I wasnt I would never do that! I shouldnt even have to explain myself I'm not a bad person or have a nasty bone in my body...sometimes i wish I did! 😭😥 I was just being real and letting my heart talk really. Gosh cant do anything right 😥xxx
Sadly, it does not matter how long your disclaimer is (and yours was pretty long). If someone feels upset, it will simply ignore the reasons you nicely listed (and this is true not only for your specific post). I will make Dante's suggestion mine: "Let us not Speak of them: look and pass on" 
Thanks hun, your making me feel better as you seen my post, so you know I wasnt being cruel. Was just speaking from the heart and and being the realist I am. Thanks doll you've made me stop crying 😁😁😘😍💕
I didn’t read but I don’t like how people’s posts get deleted I think a pm should be sent by admin if it’s offensive or not allowed and the poster should delete it or at least a reason why then deleted. It leaves people feeling pretty shit thinking others have reported. Just my opinion lol let’s hopes it’s not deleted 😂
Hi I didn't see your post but sorry you weren't offered an explanation
However just a thought - as you may have wanted to vent or felt particularly fragile at this time possibly the person who reported it might have just had the worst time/moment of upset and your post triggered them. They may have seen it differently if they were in a different headspace but might have overreacted for their own reasons
You know lots of lovely ladies on here are very supportive but I think we're all so fragile at diff times that it might be worth just making some allowances even if it's just to reassure yourself x
DianeArnoldPartnerNurseFertility Network UK
Hi nikib. Just read this, and I hate when it happens, as I feel people point a finger at me! I rarely delete a post and didn't see yours. Why don't you look at what you did post, if you have a copy and read through it. If you honestly feel it isn't offensive then re post it. If you feel something might be offensive then reword it or delete it. Post again and we will see how it goes. Read on and see how the others have surrounded you with support, so try and "keep your pecker up" as my mother would have said. Thinking of you. Diane xx
I didn’t see your post I was at work. But I can’t imagine you being offensive. I had my post reported & deleted for asking for advice over chickenpox risk with pregnancy. Tugsgirl also had a post deleted over a poorly puppy like how is that offensive? 🤦🏽♀️ Try not to take it personally , it seems a lot of us are having our posts deleted. Please know we are all here for & don’t let this person make you feel bad. It’s probably a troll designed to upset others. Sick. Lots of love to you xoxo
Sorry to read this and that it caused you so much upset. Please don't let it put you off sharing how you feel. I've found this forum so helpful and there are lots of amazing supportive people here. Don't be put off by this 😘
Hi hope you are feeling abit better. Dont let it get to you. Its sad why anyone would do this. We are all here to support each other at the end of the day and that's what matters. Look at all the supportive responses you have received xx
I'm so sorry you are feeling low,like a few others I didn't see your post because I was at work. Please don't let this take away what you have to offer a lot of us. Your life experiences might just inform, change & better someone else's life. I hope you stick around as long you like and share whatever you like without any fear of judgement! Happy Christmas ✨✨✨
I’m pretty sure I saw your post and I didn’t think it was offensive. Please try not to let it get to you. What you said came from a good and totally realistic place but everyone on here is going through a really hard time so I guess maybe there’s some natural sensitivity.
Hope your ok. I know the feeling. I got blocked because they thought I was a fake account it knocked my confidence so I don’t post or hardly comment due to that . Sending my love 😘😘
Hi Niki, apologies but not sure if I read it it not as head all over the place but if I did I definitely didn't find it offensive, we are all here to support you so please try not to be upset. Sending hugs xx
Thanks so much for all your support ladies it really means alot. I think I might just have a break from here for awhile. I wish you all a very merry xmas and happy new year....and I pray you all get your bfp's!! Thanks again. Much love 💕❤💗😘 xxx
I didn’t see your post but sad you think you can’t talk on here. We are all here for each other xxx
I’ve had a post deleted too. It wasn’t until I realised that no one had responded that I found out someone had deleted it. I also agree that it would be better to get a little message saying that someone had been upset by it and at least be given the chance to reword it if necessary before just deleting it. It upset me too! I’m sure no one on here ever sets out to offend anyone. The whole point of the forum is about sensitivity to others! Don’t take it to heart xx
