The IVF struggles..

[1993x]

None of my family or friends know that I’m going through ivf and I plan to keep it that way. I never want to be seen as the couple that can’t conceive naturally or I don’t want that pity look from people who says it’ll happen when it happens.

The struggles are getting to me - at first the needles were petrifying. I overcame my phobia eventually and got the egg collection. I had hyper stimulation which resulted in too much egg produced which was good in a way as I had 22 collected. This meaning I had to wait four periods before the transfer. The collection for me was brutal - I had to be on morphine, I was screaming and crying when I was out of surgery. I don’t remember it much.

The first frozen transfer was a fail. I’m now on medication for my second transfer a year later. I’m worried it’s going to fail again!

I feel a tiny bit angry about all this - it’s my partners sperm that has us in this position and to see him be fine about it all not getting any needles or surgery makes me angry. I don’t want to be angry I just want him to feel my pain - for him to help me and not get angry over my mood swings.

I’ve tried to see a counsellor but I’ve had so much going on I just came out more angry at him. I love him so much - how do we get round this!?

[Rose1214]

Hey, don't lose hope. Remember difficulty in your journey makes your destination beautiful. If it's not this time then it will be next time. So don't let your moral down. You are strong women. Hope for the best. Believe in Yourself. Till then best of luck dear Freind.

[Rose1214]

Hi, there I hope you may be fine. It's a great effort by you. You are doing great. My sister was suffering through the same situation. She visited a clinic in the UK. Her IVF cycle was failed. They recommended her surrogacy. She had twins through it. Don't worry if it failed. Surrogacy will be best for you after that.

[angellllll]

Hey, it is totally fine that you’re feeling that way. IVF cycles can be very painful and can cause discomfort. The human body works in a weird manner, therefore, you alone have to go through all of this. 10 days of constant shots are definitely not that pleasing. Also since you were able to stimulate too many eggs I have heard that is although good but again uneasy. As the patient feels bloated and a lot heavier which makes the whole journey a lot more difficult. I think you should talk about your feelings with your husband. The problem is that since you’re on so many medications which are directly affecting your hormones you are very sensitive at this time. Therefore, talk to your husband about how you need his support. He probably is there for you but maybe isn't expressive so you really don’t know what is going on inside his mind. You both are just bottling up inside and not expressing your feelings which isn’t going to be helpful at all. It is a good decision that you decided to visit the counselor I think you should make that regular. However, it certainly is true that during your IVF cycle you are caught up in so many things that you are unable to manage time. Best of luck for your second cycle I hope things go fine this time. Stay positive and don’t let negative thoughts come to your mind.