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[Sarahen]

Hi I'm a nan who has took on 6 children I have a 5 year old who has toilet problems and the others have issues but nothing I can't sort but the 19 month old all he does is scream no tears just screams he won t listen to me he goes to nursery 3 days a week because I can't stand it he was no the dummy in the day but I took it off him 5 weeks off it someone please help

[Luella19]

Hi there, what kind of toilet problems are you dealing with? There are lots of people in this forum dealing with all different toilet issues that maybe able to offer advice.

Your 19 month old, is the steaming due to toilet problems or just screams generally? Do you have a health visitor supporting you? I found my health visitors a great source of help when my two daughters were younger.

[Littlecabbage]

Can you be more specific about the 5 year old's toileting issues? There are probably lots of people here who can offer advice, but we need to know what's happening. Has the 5 year old always had toiletting issues, or has this started since they moved in with you? Could it be related to the emotional upheaval?

With the 19 month old, I would concentrate on getting him in as stable a routine as possible (nice early, regular bedtime, same nap time every day), lots of cuddles and one-on-one time with him if possible. He is probably feeling very insecure at his change in home-life and the only way he can show it is to scream. Perhaps he should be allowed his dummy just at nap time and at night, to give him so emotional security during this difficult time for him.

Have you tried asking for more support from your health visitor/social worker etc? 6 kids is a lot for anyone to take on. Also, maybe the charity HomeStart can help you? Good Luck xx

[Sarahen in reply to Littlecabbage]

Hi the 5 year old has a constipation overflow problem I have it under control the 19 month old goes to bed everynight at 7.30 with dummy and his rabbit and 2 oz of milk and never has a problem he's in nursery 3 days a week the only bit I haven't got is dinner time on time as I have clubs and other commitments he just screams for everything

[Littlecabbage]

So are you asking for advice with the constipation/overflow issue? I'm afraid I can't help because my son only has problems with daytime and night time wetting, but I'm sure many others on here will be able to offer advice.

[SallyandPaul]

Hi Sarahen sorry to hear life is so tough right now. You sound like a super hero!! I have had my own children and fostered lots and certainly don't know it all. It sounds as though this screaming is the main issue. You've already been given some good advice and it is not going to be easy with so many newly traumatised children to look after. Maybe try giving him as many cuddles as is possible with so much to do. Even maybe sit him on a chair near you when he kicks off and say calmly that when he stops the noise you will speak to him, otherwise ignore him. This situation is going to take a lot of time and patience and hopefully you will get some support. I really feel for you and feel sure that in time he will improve with consistency and patience. Good luck