Is this a cause for concern?

[MissS_Zebra9]

Its been a while since my last post but 2025 so far has been difficult and is about to get more difficult I think. My partner has had previous problems with drinking and has been hospitalised twice with Alcoholic Hepatitis. This hasn't give him the wake up call he needs and has continued to drink since his last hospital admission in June 2023.

Unfortunately his Dad passed away shortly after Christmas and the funeral is on 13 Feb, since then my partner hasn't eaten much at all, very tired and no energy and has now turned yellow, dark urine etc. He's not been to work since 23 Dec and is refusing to get medical attention until after the funeral (by which time he will have been jaundiced for 2 weeks).

Just wondered what your thoughts are on this as I have been trying to get info as to how long you can be jaundiced for before it becomes urgent or is it already urgent therefore I just don't know what to do, really worried!

[BritishLiverTrust14 Moderator]

Dear MissS_Zebra9,

Use NHS 111 if you think your partner needs medical help right now. They can direct you to the best place to get help if you cannot contact your GP during the day, or when your GP is closed (out of hours).

Call 111 if you have complex problems caused by an existing medical condition, have a care plan from your doctor for your current health, or need to get end-of-life care.

Best wishes,

British Liver Trust

[Ubwa]

The moment they turn yellow they should be on the way to the doctors.

[MissS_Zebra9 in reply to Ubwa]

Yes what I thought, it’s getting him there that’s the problem

[Smileyfaces]

Are you in contact with his consultant? In the past I have emailed their secretary with my concerns and they've invited him in. It's such a worry

[MissS_Zebra9 in reply to Smileyfaces]

That’s the other issue, he didn’t go to appointments and the consultant referred him back to his GP, it’s so frustrating trying to deal with someone who doesn’t want to help themselves, that’s what I find most difficult 😞

[Smileyfaces in reply to MissS_Zebra9]

My partner isn't proactive either (head in sand). I hope you can get him the help he needs. This page is a lovely forum with lots of advice. Good luck x

[MissS_Zebra9 in reply to Smileyfaces]

Thank you, I have read some of your other posts and it makes you realise you are not alone in this struggle , hope your partner is ok? 🩷

[Ewife]

I guess he might be worried he can't get through the funeral without the "prop" of alcohol?? Im sure you already have tried everything but he does need urgent care. Maybe he can be reassured that you are aware how difficult his Dads funeral will be, that you and professionals can help him through this?? I don't know. I feel desperately sorry for both him and you. Sending lots of love to you both xxEwife

[MissS_Zebra9 in reply to Ewife]

Thank you Ewife. I think he knows what's coming to be honest. He went yellow when my Dad passed away 2023 and was admitted for over a week with liver failure and unable to attend my Dads funeral so the last thing he wants to do is miss his own Dads funeral next week. I have spelled it out to him what could potentially happen but its all falling on deaf ears I'm afraid. Apart from the yellow skin and eyes he seems ok although sleeps quite a bit, dark urine but no other symptoms.