Don’t leave it too late

[Blank77]

hi, my dad sadly died last month after receiving a diagnosis of alcohol-related cirrhosis less than 4 weeks before his death. He didn’t really have symptoms beforehand that we are aware of other than being tired and breathless, but typically he wouldn’t see his GP. His decline was sudden and horrendous, and he died of multi-organ failure. We perhaps naively didn’t consider his drinking a problem - wine with dinner, a whisky or two before bed, but clearly it was. We are so full of regret at not spotting symptoms sooner, not pushing him harder to visit GP, not calling out drinking that actually wasn’t normal. Please be brave and push out of your comfort zone to ask for help, as we desperately wish we had.

[redpoint72]

My deepest condolences on the passing of your father. Take one day at a time,certainly some difficult days ahead. That can often be the case with the liver,no symptoms until things are getting very serious.

Best wishes. Chris

[Millie09]

So very sorry to hear the sad news on your dad's passing Please take care of yourself at this difficult time,.

Thoughts and prayers 🙏

Linda

[Dinah48]

I’m very sorry for your loss. This awful disease is often - as in our case too - not visible until progressed. Please be kind to yourselves, and take care at this difficult time.

[Rshc]

am so sorry about your dad. I think everyone with a relative that has ARLD has some form of regret and it’s easy in hindsight. Hopefully sharing your story with help others who are struggling to stop drinking. I wish you and your family strength and peace x

[Nip1]

Please accept my Deepest sympathy for the loss of your father. Take care and God bless 🙏

[BritishLiverTrust8 Moderator British Liver Trust]

Dear Blank77

We're so sad to read this, and very sorry for your loss

With best wishes from all at the British Liver Trust

[AnxiousPete]

So sorry for your loss

[Jesue]

So sorry to hear about your loss. My husband died 9 months ago and like you we didn't know how ill he was until it was too late. As you say the signs are invisible until too late but trying to get my daughter to stop drinking is not succeeding. She thinks she is fine to drink wine every night.

There should be more awareness of the evils of alcohol as there are over smoking!

Sending hugs as I know how you're feeling.

[teletonetapper]

My heart and sincere thoughts are with you at such a very sad time in your life. How sudden this was is beyond comprehension and, hopefully, your touching post will leave a "deep thought and reminder" to those who need it. You must take time to let this shock sink in but you will have very treasured memories of happy times and life with your dear Father which can be kept in your heart always. Best wishes and condolences.

[Charlie15melissaabb]

I no you don’t want to hear it but sorry for your lose I have decompensted liver cirrhosis some times it’s your turn I no my time’s are short here but I to hat be pushed to go to the doctors at the beginning but they could not stop the scaring it’s about trying to managing the time l have left please don’t blame you self it was not your fault be happy of your memories of your dad’s when he was with you please for the rest of your life be happy so sorry about your dad

[RnayStro]

please accept my condolences. Reading your experience has brought me clarity - recently I found a huge cache of empty liquor bottles in my 23 yr old son’s room. 1/2 pints and airline bottles hidden - discovered by accident. I am beside myself as he says he doesn’t have a problem. My dad died of a massive bleed due to alcohol. I have to try my hardest to make my son see what he’s doing to himself.

[Millie09 in reply to RnayStro]

I'm sorry for your loss, besides the issues with your son .I hope that he may turn things around, have you called the liver nurses team on this forum? .maybe they can point you in the right direction

My very best.. Linda

[Charlie15melissaabb in reply to RnayStro]

l no it hard I did that same thing with hiding my empty bottles all over the house they no want there doing but want they don’t no is want they are doing to there self I speak from experience it’s a evil illness because l got no signs of it to but the worse thing I did not think I had a problem hopefully you will get better day by day like I hope to do

[teletonetapper in reply to RnayStro]

So sorry to read your post. May your son realise his "problem" before it is too late. My husband and I have experienced a devastating problem with, who was once, a close member of our family but sadly they continue to drink. It seems it is their priority before parents, children, jobs and being honest. I wish you all the very best. Please talk to the professionals.

[normanbyrott]

Hello there, condolences snd curiosity, did he ever have routine blood tests and if so what were the AST/ALT figures.4 weeks from diagnosis to death from cirrhosis with minimal symptoms and causes is a shocker.

[normanbyrott]

Don't mean to be intrusive but when you say "wine with dinner" how much wine.? Half a bottle would be roughly 6 units, 2 whiskies another 2. If every day for a long period well that is a lot but many drink more. If only a few days a week it would be unfortunate to get cirrhosis from that.