Im a Prawn

[CarlCharlie]

Hi people, im the one who was doing well for over a year.... but things have gone a little sh#t tbh. I Had some Family stuff to cope with and to cut a long story short I started drinking again but this time on the sly, about 35cl to 70cl a day of vodka for the past 4 weeks, well 2 weeks then I had a week off as I did somthing stupid took all my meds and attempted to play it down as a moment of weakness and told family I was coming down of the meds I took, was a good excuse for the drink. Im ok but im drinking on the sly with the odd day off pretending im ill. I know im a dic% head. Suppose the question im asking should I come clean and tell my folks or any other suggestions. My dads canny but my mum has only just lost her sister ( Mothers is quite emotionaly motivated, Spanish blood and quite emotionally motivated at times lol ( not rasist im 1/4 Spanish lol) its true though.

[MLB_77]

I would do what would make YOU feel better. If telling them would help YOU then do it. If not telling them would help YOU then do it.

Just think it as “field research”. You did it, realized it was a bad idea, and now time to give yourself some grace and move forward.

[CarlCharlie in reply to MLB_77]

You sound like I think lol ie, "field research" im a bit of a over thinker

[MLB_77 in reply to CarlCharlie]

Can’t take the credit… I listen to a lot of recovery podcasts 😁

[Worrysome1]

Oh don’t drink please. You come across as a lovely person, don’t go back to being so ill again. Get some support to keep you on the straight and narrow! Your mum would be so worried, treat it as a blip and kick the dreaded booze to the kerb! Ask your GP for help but don’t drink! Think of that little kitten! 😿

[CarlCharlie in reply to Worrysome1]

Im trying 🙂 and Big lad is fine, he's quite large now lol.

[Worrysome1 in reply to CarlCharlie]

Aw, he’s cute. Yes, don’t give in. Think about how poorly you were. You’ve a lot of living to do yet! Go and get help! I remember your story and you’ve done fantastic. Don’t go putting that horrible poison down your neck, you’re better than that! I bet Millie would like to see photo of Charlie all grown now.

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Hi Carl,

Can you reach out for some support from your doctor, or if you are under the care of local alcohol services maybe them?

Here is the NHS alcohol support webpage;

nhs.uk/live-well/alcohol-su...

You obviously have insight into your drinking and need some support.

Keep us posted.

Warm wishes.

[deanw41]

Prawns and vodka never did mix well. Stay off both.

[Richard-Allen]

Hello Carl,

The first thing I’d want to do is to congratulate you for being honest with yourself.

Whatever is going on with you is your problem, and only you can sort it out and deal with it. I often say this, but basically what you are saying is, “This is the problem, now what am I going to do to make it right?” By asking that question as to whether you should own up and talk about this, you are already dealing with this, and wanting to make things right. This can be part of the emotional healing process.

Firstly you are being honest with yourself, now you have to be honest to others. This may seem hard, but if you don’t, you’ll have other emotions like guilt and deception eating away at you, These, for some people may add to them wanting to drink, so it could also make the problem worse.

Once you’ve been honest with others, you’ll hopefully be at peace with yourself, and your conscience will be clear.

What you’ll also need to do, is to learn from this relapse. You can try to have something or someone in place who you can confide in and talk openly about problems as and when they happen. Life is full of ups and downs, sometimes we are emotionally hurt and even abused. Having an action plan for when these dark days happen is a must. Anything is better than the alcohol route, but then you know this.

Talk to your family, be honest with them, explain why you have relapsed and ask for their help. It is far better to do this, rather than have them go through life blaming themselves and asking, “If only he’d asked for help”?

These are only my opinions.

Good luck friend, and don’t go beating yourself up, tomorrow is a new day.

Richard

[CarlCharlie in reply to Richard-Allen]

Thank you Richard, I do agree completely and I am the sort of person who shouldn't keep things in and I do eventually tell it as it is, I can't lie, im rubbish at it and don't like it. I know if I was asked outright I would say. Its quite difficult at the moment and I have told my GP, adult social worker. However I need my mother to keep her distance she has made a complaint to my support services and I really don't want her too continue with it. I do have some things that have happened in my past that unfortunately have lingered and also their is a history of mental illness on my mothers side of the family however if it is ever mentioned or even hinted at my mother blames herself and it becomes all about her, not in anyway do I want to suggests she is not a lovely mother ive had a lovely childhood with my parents but its her way (the Spanish side of her lol). Thank you for your words and others on hear, they help a lot.

[ZeldaGodoy]

I think telling them would help you face the reality and the fact you are asking means you know that you need their support and are admitting your mistake. My partner is South American and his family are emotional so I understand where you are coming from when you say your mother is emotionally motivated. I think you may need that though. You know what you've done is damaging to you. It shows a certain maturity albeit a little after the horse has bolted. Never give up on giving up. When you do that you've lost the battle. We all have our demons just some hide them better. Think of something you want more than drink and aim for that regardless of how selfish it may be, if you can find that then you can work towards sobriety. All the best.