Keep busy or take it easy?

[Ewife]

Hello! My husband hasn't been keeping as well recently. A few signs appearing that his body isn't compensating as effectively, such as fluid starting to build up again etc. It may be co-incidence but it has happened as my husband has decided to go back to work full time. (He's had both his vaccines now so feels invincible) My gut feeling is that as he is giving his body extra work, its struggling to compensate a bit more. However, my husband is sure that the more he keeps fit, motivated and positive he will keep healthier as he waits his transplant. I'd be glad to hear from those more experienced.......

[AyrshireK]

I agree with your husband - to a degree. If he can keep fit, better motivated and postive then yes he's going to be healthier & be in a healthier place mentally. Sitting at home dwelling on what's to come, watching the phone constantly and not getting out and about will bring him down. Providing he paces himself and doesn't do too much, he needs to listen to his body. If he needs a slow day then he needs to do that but keeping himself and his mind active is good for him.My hubby has always been told not to lie down to it, ok he can't work any more, physically couldn't do the job he used to be in and wouldn't be allowed on the factory floor no doubt & sadly can't retrain because he struggles with new information etc. But he keeps himself going, going for walks, challenging himself with craft projects, helping about the house etc.

Obviously an eye needs to be kept on symptoms and whether he's working to the point of exhaustion. We've certainly had members on here who were in work at the time of their transplant call or working right up to that day.

Katie

[Ewife in reply to AyrshireK]

Thanks Katie, I guess both are right in a sense. I'm so glad my husband hasn't been overcome by depression, and has so much fight in him to beat this. He does a have a tendency to over do it though, which I guess is why I'm a bit worried. For example, he came home last night from a full days work and went straight out for a walk/jog. Later he went very pale and light headed but thought it was because he hadn't eaten enough💁

[AyrshireK in reply to Ewife]

He has to fuel if he is going to be exerting himself, my hubby was never a snacker but it's a must at this stage.

[ling in reply to Ewife]

Can he work part time?

[Ewife in reply to ling]

Its his own business, so he has been working from home until now, but feels the pressure to be there looking after things. Its been such a difficult year for businesses with Covid

[ling in reply to Ewife]

Sorry to hear that, how difficult it must be : (

Stress can be a terrible blight on the body. It can cause many terrible symptoms.

Personally I feel its way too much stress to be doing it full time under the circumstances. I hope he can find a balance, and its great he's trying hard to stay positive. Just be careful it doesn't become one step forward, two steps back.

Best wishes.