Sugartaffy update on my fiance

[Sugartafffy]

Hello Everyone, I hope some of you remember me a few years back .I was taking care of my fiance for he had cirrhosis of the Liver, I am doing ok but he passed away on July 2019. We did all we could but he could not stop his alcohol .he kept fighting till the very end but unfortunately his liver just died. I knew his time was near cause his ascites just kept filling up and he did have a bacteria infection in his ascites but they did give him antibiotics and got it contained but his ascites just kept at it and they could not drain him anymore due to him having another bacteria infection. He had severe back pain and he was very uncomfortable till he passed away. Funny part was he was going under Hospice care and they came to visit him in Hospital and told me he was going to live thru the night but he didn't he passed away 2hrs after Hospice visit. I know he is at peace with no more suffering..I was blessed to have him for 10years. So please do not have alcohol with cirrhosis of liver...its terrible to see someone die from Alcohol...that's my advice to take seriously ...if I can be of any help I will be here for all of you.

[sallyjohnson]

So sorry to hear that Sugartaffy. We were talking to each other a couple of years back, then I relapsed and didn't keep up with things. So sorry! You must've been a tremendous support for him 🧡🌻

[Laura009]

This is such sad news, there seems to be more and more of us on here with similar stories and those still going through the hell and misery of watching their wives, husbands, partners gradually kill themselves in this way. I am sure your experience will also be welcomed by those people here feeling desperate for support.

Thankyou for sharing .... it's not easy.

Best wishes

Laura xx

[Sugartafffy in reply to Laura009]

Thankyou, I only have wished he had stopped ..he probably would be alive today. the sad part he had just turn 53 in June and died July 22..

[Laura009 in reply to Sugartafffy]

I know just how you feel.I am so sorry for your loss. As you know, when we spoke 2 years ago my hubby died at the same sort of age. I too have gone through the" if onlys" . If l had thrown him out sooner would have got the help he needed sooner? Could l have done more? Etc etc. I could let it torture me forever but what would it achieve? I refuse to let that part of our lives define me. It happened, l learnt from it, realised time isn't the great healer it's supposed to be, you just learn how to live with the loss and remember the happy memories before the poison took over and wrecked his body and our lives hell for 4 years. Always here if you want to talk.

Huge hug

Laura x

[Kingsleybones]

So sorry for your loss. Remember that you were always there for him and be proud of that. Well done. It must have been so hard as it is not easy to watch someone you love slowly killing themselves with the booze. But we can not save other people and sometimes we can barely save ourselves. You loved him and, because of that, in spite of your loss, you will carry him with you always, through the dark days and into the light. Missing him is hard, I know, especially in these difficult times, as he was so much more than just his illness. I wish you peace and love and light. Xxx

[Sugartafffy in reply to Kingsleybones]

Thankyou, it's hard to lose him, but I know his pain that he endure. I find myself going to the cemetery put his favorite flowers on his grave.He was a good kind man and everyday I miss his presence. I ask God for strength so that I can go on with life but its difficult at times ,I just take it one day at a time.