This happens to me everyday - looking for something, not seeing it even though it’s there. Does this happen to anyone else? What do you do about it?
Phyllis Stein
This happens to me everyday - looking for something, not seeing it even though it’s there. Does this happen to anyone else? What do you do about it?
Phyllis Stein
I always make a habit of putting everything where it belongs. Fine until someone else moves it.🙈
Others in the house will set keys everywhere & anywhere then panic. Last minute screams of where's my keys. Add to that Junior could put a cup of tea on the roof and still knock it over. 🙄
But then this isn't the answer your looking for. Read that too quickly. Doh. Junior would do that regular.
One holiday in the middle of the night heard calls for water, water. Junior at the Hotel fridge couldn't see it. Got me up, I was tempted to pour the bottle over his head.
OCD👍
I'm untidy and not overly organised but I know where things are mostly because there's no one else to move them. I've started to wear a key round my neck! The locksmith offered me a discount because I locked myself out that many times in a few weeks.
I'd like to see a cup of tea on the roof though.
Seriously hands like feet. No matter where ya put it he'll knock it over.🍼
I've got one like that, constantly bumping into things, stubbing his toes all the time. He has to turn his jumper inside out when he eats otherwise he'd always have food down his front. Anyway, we were constantly taking the micky, only to discover he has dysbraxia!!
I love that boy! what a great idea with the jumper. I'm going to try that.
Yes, I love him too, he's turned into a wonderful man, I'm very proud of him. He really looks after me, just like his dad. I'm very lucky!!
Clumsy, uncoordinated, poor at ball or team sports; difficulties with fine and/or gross motor skills and tasks; prone to motion-sickness.
Can be ambidextrous, and often confuses left/right, over/under.
The above is a snippet from a list of 37 common traits of Dyslexia. It was picked up by his teacher in P2 Junior school. He was privately tutored for the three R's. however I don't recall the clumsy coordination connection.
Thanks for that. 👍
You could be talking about me, although my dyslexia wasn't picked up at all at school, in the early 50's......they just thought I was thick😢😢😢
Dyspraxia, not. Dyslexia..... Although my youngest does have dyslexia. Dyspraxia (I notice in my previous post I'd misspelt it), in his case associated with Aspergers. All these conditions are closely linked, and have a lot of crossover.
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Yip I noticed the difference. However it was lexia with his vocabulary. I never associated clumsy with dyslexia. At least I don't remember it mentioned. Tutoring always seemed to be about 3 R's & money.
Brilliant jumper idea! Bit late for my son but good idea for his son
Good idea for me. Some foods go very hard. They may become scratchy. I'll need to take notes and see what's to reverse, and what's better thrown toward the washing machine...
My lovely wife is the same. A regular game is "hunt the car keys" or mobile.
I get fed up phoning her mobile at home, so she can hear it. She sometimes loses her mobile when out running, and then I constantly have to call it while she is retracing her route through the fields and woods. Drives me to distraction😠😠😠
I phone my mobile frequently. Did last night and I was sitting on it - duh. 😀
Careful how you answer VainDane
No, that was to Davianne not Airmiles - I need more sleep
I like that you know where everything belongs. I keep changing my mind.
Me too, I don't have a place for everything and everything in its place, but on a good day I can find what I want in a tangled pile of all sorts. On a bad day I don't want to find anything anyway!!
I like that others are different. It just shows how much better we are when we have each other?
Hi Filistines, I think it relates to how tired your brain is too. Don’t beat yourself up until you’ve put your handbag in the fridge and the milk in the coat cupboard my lovely.
I did this 🤦♀️. Jane xxx
I recall a colleague Bongo using similar to bump up a claim. "Woke up to find my slippers in the fridge."
Better off not going out - bongo
🙄
Ha! Not too wise Bongo... "o, so you have slippers and a fridge which you can find by yourself and open, and you know that slippers aren't normally kept in fridges! Fit for work!"
😂😂
A bout of HE saw me put my mobile in the fridge.......3 weeks later, after spilling tomato juice in the fridge, I was cleaning up the mess, and found my mobile covered in said tomato juice.
About 30 years ago I put my son's entire school uniform in the freezer at end of term. I had to buy a whole new lot and didn't discover the old lot til he'd well grown out of it!! I don't have a freezer now.
Ha Ha, That's priceless🤣🤣🤣
Ketchup with all your cold calls?😁
This will be my luck at the hearing next month. 😕
How so? Do you mean saying something outrageous to predjudice your case?
Nooo... I meant what you said above to Ofeckman about Bongo, despite putting slippers in fridge, just being able to find and open fridge, knowing slippers don't belong in fridge. Fit for work!
Ah well.. you are fit for work. You could be President, or if you came here, Prime Minister. You'd get my vote for sure. You'd be bangin' good at it.
That's funny Jane. I don't beat myself up, I laugh. My neighbour used to give me veg he'd grown. I asked him not to. I'd lay them down somewhere and forget where until they'd gone very ugly.
What do I do about it? Ask the wife......simples. Simples to get shouted at........and then shouted at some more and......
Do you like being shouted at then? Is that why you keep asking her?
Nooo -I only ask once and get shouted at at least three times 3:1 🙃
Dear Miles, can we all come to your pity-party?
It’s OK thanks I have learnt the solution.... keep looking and keep mouth closed 👍
Or, don't look and see if you can cause your wife to need to look for it.
She might or she might not - depending on what I’ve lost!
Look I am going to get in trouble again on the forum for going off topic again. Aha aha Oh no I won’t it’s your thread filly 😁😁😁😁😁 - I forgot!
The topic is about being off-topic so I think you are bang-on anyway!
Ah! but do you find?
Of course not. I have lost for nearly a year now a box with Scalextric motors in it worth about £250. I mean how can I do that? And we only have a small house 😫
maybe you sold them, and forgot????
I think I gave my LPs to charity because I can’t find thos either ☹️. Trouble is whenever I’m in Hospital my daughter feels the need to tidy up for me 😞. I reckon that maybe that’s where the motors where have gone 🗑 and possibly LPs as well - but I prefer my idea that I may, just may, have given them to charity 😇😇. Not so much of the halo though!
That's a kind way of thinking about it, for everyone's sake. I'd ask now that nothing of mine be given away without my permission in return for an amnesty on past mis-behaviours, not just mine, all the family's....
I think that’s a whole new conversation that needs to be analysed 3 smiles 😜 xx
Oh nooooooooooo 😀
I bet it's in the garage. 😁
Or under the kitchen sink! Lots of things end up under the kitchen sink that don't belong there! I've been banned from putting spanners, screwdrivers etc in any kitchen cupboard or draw
Oh crikey Alf, I'm not the only one who is banned from a kitchen drawer. Our drawer is a dedicated junk draw full of stuff wifey collects, and never uses, like used batteries, rubber bands and the ribbon off flower bouquets.
Meanwhile I have to search in my man cave for a screwdriver or pliers.......It can be a cruel world for the DIY'er😁😁😁
David
A very cruel world, especially in winter when it's cold in the man cave.
It's much pleasanter to be able to fetch a spanner, screwdriver,electric drill or oil can from a kitchen cupboard or draw. I personally can't see a problem with it
Man caves rather chilly on the whole when you've no drawers, or when you can't find them.
Our washing machine and airing cupboard must eat them. That's pants. Never seems to stomach both socks though, just the one. 🤔
Ah! Now that's another story
Our wee dog Teddy pinches our socks, but I've never seen him wearing them. I do find evidence when clearing up the garden though💩💩💩
Ha ha bro in law's dogs called Socks. We've just added a 9 week old Yorkie. Pinching everything, Teething & Hunt the parcel. 👃🎁💩
Give Anne flowers every week then she won't get attached to the ribbons and it'll make her very happy. You may even be allowed in the drawers!
Hi Fili,
It's not that she doesn't get many bouquets, she's Scottish, and a wee bit careful wie 'er brass 🤣🤣🤣
David
Well blow me down.. you are meant to buy them..
I don't think that he's quite got the hang of it yet!!
Fili, it's very frustrating and I do it all the time also I put things in a 'safe place' and then when I try to find whatever it is that I've put in a safe place I usually give up in frustration and go and buy another of whatever it is. Then some weeks or months later I find the item all safe in it's safe place
I think that the answer to my problem is to only have one safe place and then put everything in it! LOL.
Well it does prove that the places are indeed safe doesn’t it! 😀
Oh yes! Very safe. In fact some are so safe that I haven't found them yet!
😂👍
Have you ever finally found something, put it in your pocket so it didn't get lost (again), forget you did that, and turn the house upside down til you're practically crying tears of frustration, only to discover it right there safe and sound, when you're changing your clothes for bed? By then your exhausted and don't want to have anything to do with it. 😕
I put the side gate keys in my pocket for safe keeping because I was going to spend the next couple of hours in the garden before going back inside.
They were then lost for a couple of days or so until my wife fished them out of the washing machine
A great excuse to buy a metal detector, methinks😊😊😊
I've dug up all kinds of 17th century pottery shards, and there might be a Saxon hoard just waiting for me🤞🤞🤞
I have one David. I use it every spring to find the post that the rotary clothes line slots into in the lawn
That's a great reply Alf 😁😁😁, I have to use a long screwdriver😢😢😢. I've been watching "The Detectorists" on BBC IPlayer, and it's sparked my interest. If I bought one, I'd have to hide it from wifey though🤣🤣🤣
David
Brilliant. I used mine to check how deep the cracks in the lawn were in summer. I doubt I'll need it to stir paint before the flooded garden goes back to cracked...
Bin there an'all. In fact, I've started rooting stuff out of it's safe place and giving it away. I'm going for the one chair, one table, one bed look. I think if I can pare down my stuff to 10 things, provided I don't lose a finger, I'll be able to count them up and life will be simple.
LOL. Much easier to do cleaning too
Then you can say "I put it over there on the chair" and nobody will say "Which chair?
I'm glad to admit it happens to me almost weekly! Replace the jam in your drawing with salad cream and that's me🤣
Has anyone seen the film 'Sleeping with the Enermy' freaky or what? 👎I'd rather hunt through my fridge .......
Keep the towels straight and you'll be ok
Ha! Ha! Alf, that's so spooky as my dad drummed it into me to fold towels all the time! Does this mean I have OCD 👎👎👎👎
Spooky!!
At least I don't line my cupboard tins up ! 👎
I lined mine up this morning when they were delivered. It was the only way to get them in a small space. Then I found no space for the packets of Ellie's Kitchen Organic Prune (beats movical) and threw 10 packs over the back of all the tins. I found a jar of mini finger of fudges that I'd stashed for emergency low blood sugar times.
It’s when I find TINS that are 5 years out of date I think that perhaps I don’t do enough around the house....
Tut tut. I'm cured now. I used to line up all the change on the bar heads up and all 🗣️ facing in correct order.
On the bar - speaks a thousand words.... ☹️
Respectful of you O'man, placing the crown head up!
only if you fold them into swans..
Did they have to be in thirds? Welcome to my world.
..with the left side to the middle and the right side to the left?
I took the idea from you, putting the pic up. My son sent me this card because he has seen me at this caper a few times. He likes it more than the other thing that happens a lot - mouth opens and out comes the last thing I'd want to say. Very embarrassing. Do you get that as well?
I haven't seen it. Tell me about it.
It's a must watch ! Freaky obsessed husband........
She runs away from her husband to another town, how does she know he's found her? She comes home and all her cans in the cupboard are sorted neatly, lined up just so on the edge, the casually draped towels are completely straight. 😲
Well written!
Do I still need to see it? Did she realise she'd missed his tidiness and take him back.... and live happily ever after... for a few minutes?
You still need to see it!
No. You must see it! It's creepy. Not telling you the end!
Blummin heck , when I replied there were only 2 replies and now lots have appeared from knowhere! What's going on ......cyberspace having a wobble .....
I don't get notififications in my inbox - I just tune in when I can! I always hope I don't miss anything...
I used to do the "what have I come into this room for*, leave room only to remember what it was. That's not so much of a problem as usually I'm just planning on lying down wherever I go, other than the bathroom or the kitchen, and those rooms are about injestion and evacuations, luckily I haven't got the two confused yet x
Now you mention it, lie down is just what I do when I can't remember what I was going to do! And when I wake up, I can't remember that I couldn't remember. I think this is called CRAFT isn't it - (can't-remember- a- ******-thing.)
Yes wouldn’t want you to injest your evacuations....
you'd be glad not to have to say that in a hurry?
Thank you all my lovely friends for making me feel so much better about my derangement. You are the very best of people. x
Do you know I had to check on “derangement “ in this context - and you are so right it is a perfect description- funny (or not) but perfect. I’m impressed 😃👍 and being very naughtilyI’m condescending - sorry!
Milo
A hazelnut in every bite.😁
Deranged is a fairly common word isn't it but maybe not one we usually use to describe ourselves! That's what's odd about this stuff for me is knowing you're getting it wrong, but not being able to get it right all the while you know that you are capable of doing it?
Exactly! That’s why I had to look up the precise meaning because of how you have used the word 🙂
It's another sign of my age. We were taught grammar at school 60 years ago like our lives would depend on it. My brain flipped that verb to a noun without my thinking about it. And I couldn't have found a current word for it if I tried.
I knew it was Thursday yesterday but thought it was Saturday today and will go on thinking it no matter how often I get reminded. I have burned my toast and fed the dog twice in the past 30 minutes.
Happy 🐕 at least 👌
yes and fit to burst
Looks like your post is challenging my coffee cake post record. It's lovely how something which is a horrid symptom of liver disease can bring such a lovely joyous bunch of replies. I think we might all get a great deal from these sort of posts!! Sharing funny tales and generally cheering each other.
I'm glad it has helped cheer you up dearest Fili,
Big hugs
Wass x
Thank you Wassy. We need it so much, to have a laugh and care about each other. I loved your cake party - And I appreciate it must have been very tiring for you but it was a big relief to us all after some difficult days.
Yesterday we were reminded that it is annoying for some people when they post and we reply to them but then get laughing among ourselves.
That made me think we can post stuff to enjoy, like Shropshire Lass does, and like you did. Miles told me how to load a pic. "joint enterprise" innit?
WHO WILL POST A PIC TOMORROW? Some say it'll be Saturday.
BTW, I turned off my inbox to notifications first....
Ditto.
Solution: My husband points out that the missing item, like that great big honking carton of milk, is usually staring me straight in the face.
.... And his vision is considerably worse than mine. Go figure.
On the flip side, I don't make my coffee with the coffee mug turned upside down.
On a more serious note, the item is often found in the last place you check.
Or in the first...
It is beyond annoying when you are trying to say something and the wrong word comes out. I usually gesture helplessly and my husband knows me well enough to figure it out. I have no idea why, but the other day at the grocery store l wanted to say the word for bread cooked sausage is served on and ended up saying burk instead of bun and l knew it was wrong so l drew a square in the air and he knew what l meant lol.
Sometimes it's exciting waiting to see what word will come out? Some times a bit scary... I had a few shockers... have you?
Oh yes. More often with typos, but both.
Long after typing and printing, possibly distributing - that I forget, multiple copies of an important document, I realized that I had omitted a rather important consonant in "public" relations.
🤭
I missed the "L"
🤣🤣 Yes, l figured that out!
lol. I see question marks at my end.
Signed Miss Communication.
🤣🤣
Or reading a word the wrong way all of your life. Like uniformed as uninformed.
I do that!! So annoying, my brain just always dupes me!!
Penelope?
Another one I had some trouble with back when.
Read the entire book whose main character was named this before realizing I was pronouncing it incorrectly in my head.
Canteloupe. Antelope. Pen-Elope.
Makes some cents/scents at least.
Or sense?? Yes that sounds like the sort of thing I'd do. I now think if I'd been at school now, instead of the 70's and 80's I would be dyslexic. I can't read phonetically, so new words unless I hear them are a mystery. Drug names are hard because of that. My reading out loud is terrible!! X
We all have our quirks. And, I think that you might be hard on yourself. So many of us are.
If I was of school age now I wouldn't likely know how to spell. Spell check does the work for you. And I've noticed that plenty don't use cursive writing these days. Printing instead of writing seems common.
Oh well. We all seem to get buy/bye/by - lol. The English language is tricky.
I hope that you're enjoying your day, Wass, and each new one brings you considerably more sunshine!
I still dunno what a burk is!
Well it’s like a pratt....
Not to be picky, but isn't that a berk? And are there two t's in Prat?
Ha ha, you 'owned'Milo then. (as my teenager would say)!!!
what does "owned" mean then? Ask your son so I can say it tomorrow to someone!!!!
To be made a fool of; To make a fool of; To confound or prove wrong; embarrasing someone: Being embarrased.🤡
Originally a term used by Hackers taking control of your system defining it as now owned by them.🖥️
thanks for the hedzup!
Thanks for that Ofeck! Saved me from trying to explain it. I didn't know the thing about Hackers. X
Burk or berk either way. Pratt either way. It all depend tbh which dictionary you use.I’m sticking with burk and pratt - that’s the way I’ve always spelt them 😁.
Miles, these aren't words I use so I couldn't be sure of the spelling....owned
Owned was to Wass - was just reciprocating the accolade 😁 - not for your eyes filly!
I did once try to find some Noilly Pratt. When i typed it into ASDAonline it could only offer Noisy P. I had to try Waitrose. Sorry for my error. My inbox has been busy and I'm tired. My wife hasn't toasted my crumpets and made me a pot of tea. O, I haven't got a wife. I'll have to make my own tea as always...
I’m always like that 😂😂😂 from early childhood. One time I was talking on my phone and in hurry to go out of the house, and I struggled where my phone is 😂😂looking for it everywhere
It's good to know that it isn't just about age! I do try to use the remote control of my tv to make phone calls. I tap a few buttons before I realise it's not working and why!
Hi Fili,
I'm a bit, well, quite a lot, OCD, so I can normally find things I'm looking for if they are in their right place. The problem comes when my wife puts things in a different location, and then, I can look at what I'm after, but not see it, so the answer is yes. I do try to get everything placed where it should be, but my wife is very untidy......opposites attract?????......so I tidy up after her😊😊😊.
David
What you described could be ‘brain fog’ (mild encephalopathy) due to liver and kidney damage although there are other possible causes. I gave up alcohol years ago after experiencing brain function lapses like you described and for a few years things improved but then the ‘brain fog’ returned after a period of heavy use of painkillers. Fearing that I had major liver damage I lived totally clean for a couple of years & my brain function improved but then the bouts of brain fog returned with a vengeance.
It turned out that I had ‘hypertensive encephalopathy’ caused by my blood pressure rising to as high as 250/120 for no apparent reason. Blood pressure that high can result in severe encephalopathy that clears up after a night's sleep (because the blood pressure drops with sleep) as well as a high risk of suffering a major stroke. I was lucky in that I only had a couple of minor strokes before I realised what was going on. Now I take blood pressure lowering medication daily & I no longer suffer from serious ‘brain fog’ however my brain no longer works as well as it used to.
The cardiologist I saw found no evidence of clogged arteries or heart disease with my severe hypertension being due to an as yet undetermined reason (the most likely cause in my case being a condition called amyloidosis).
Encephalopathy caused by liver and/or kidney damage can range in severity from mild where you look for something & don't see it despite it being right in front of you to serious as happens in people with decompensated cirrhosis.
It can also be caused by other conditions e.g. in my case uncontrolled high blood pressure. On the other hand it might just be brain function deterioration due to aging which many of you probably put it down to! In conjunction with medical treatment for any specific condition (e.g. liver damage, hypertension, clogged arteries etc.) that might be causing it the best insurance for minimising the frequency & severity of brain fog regardless of the cause & helping to prevent it from getting worse is a healthy lifestyle.
Dr. Melissa Palmer's Guide To Hepatitis and Liver Disease :
‘For some people, the first clue that something is wrong may be encephalopathy—altered mental status. A person experiencing a mild, chronic form of encephalopathy may constantly forget simple things, such as where he placed his glasses or whether he already took his medication. Or he may get irritable over insignificant things or experience other behavioral changes. A person experiencing a more severe, acute form of encephalopathy may forget major information, such as what year it is or even his own name and address.’
Thanks for that Captain Obvious. 😜😅
Sorry, I realize that you were only trying to help. See "irritable over insignificant things" above.
Shut up shuttin' up, as we say down here.
And that was me telling me to shut up, not you! 😁
Thank you Edward!
Your not on your own in my case its too many birthdays, last week my wife asked me if i wanted a mug of coffee then she asked me where the coffee jar was, eventually we found it in the fridge, i have to admit i was last to use it as she was in town 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Thank you for your very revealing reply Ian. Are you saying that you made yourself coffee because your wife was in town?
Lol I get this.....it happens to me a lot even though I put things back where they came from.
It's really curious? It's there in front of us, we don't see it so we don't try to pick it up. Do you also sometimes think it's a different day to what it actually is? Maybe that's something that happens more after we stop work? I hope you are feeling a bit better with less work-related stress?
What a difference a day makes.
Too busy on the outside looking in that one cant see the forest for the trees.
Remembering things, like names, dates, and other fine details is a skill—one that you can sharpen and hone.
Better: Just write shit down or look it up later unless there’s a really good reason to memorize it.
Unfortunately, our memory deteriorates as we get older. Taking care of our basic health, though, can go a long way towards optimizing our health. That means reducing the stress in your life, exercising and staying fit, and keeping your brain healthy too by learning new skills.
Like Shut off Your 🧠's
Thinking I've been cut off. Major issues at this end. Just wanted to say that I read Filistines as Flintstones and I came close to throwing a handful of laundry in to my toilet the other day. We all seem to have our moments.
Don't worry, here we understand! I once saw Raymond (Everyone loves raymond?) put the Thanksgiving salmon in the dishwasher, then try to serve it up to his family. I wish I could forget that. One day....
For syre, having issues at this end. Can't even edit last response to add......there was a poll a million years ago about who you would like to date more (or similar) Wilma Flintstone or Betty Rubble. ... It was a stupid poll, really. But fun.
I'd have gone for Dino the transport