Letting Go...

I've decide to start packing my babies clothes and items today. It's funny 6months ago I heard this voice saying "start packing his things" Of course I ignored it. I knew what it meant but still i ignored it. I did do a small box of his colognes etc. I just feel I'm ok to do it now. Every piece will bring a memory and I think I need that. I want to remember rather than feel numb. I am to be back to work tm as I've used all my sick days and holiday time being with my husband. I dont know if I'm ready for work yet. Idk who created the 3 days allowed for bereavement rule. Someone who hasnt experienced a loss, doesnt have a life. Its ridiculous.

Have others started putting away their loved ones things 10 days later? How did you manage?

[GrandmaDylan]

It does seem heartless to give you such a short time to grieve and arrange everything you need to. I'm so sorry for your loss 💔

[Allystar]

Hi this is maybe not the same but when my eldest son died from suicide it took me years but i felt relieved. Yes lots of memories with many different items. He wore Hugo Boss and sometimes i pass someone walk past wearing it. Fill a box at a time dont rush yourself. Do it at your own pace and if you feel its too much stop and go back to it. Good luck

[Grank]

Do what your brain allows you to. Sometimes the tears dry up and we wonder why. The brain is telling us ‘enough’ and switching off is a measure of protection.

[Hidden]

You do what you want to when you want to, there are no rules.

Compationate leave is nowhere near long enough, when you think how long you get for maternity leave its rediculous.

I wanted forever off when my husband died but 6 weeks maternity leave was long enough for me!

Take care,

Love and hugs. Laura x

[lauriefontaine67]

Do take your time. My mother died after dyalisis for 6 years. I still have things around the house (including her on my piano) in places that are tiny reminders of her. My best reminder is in my heart and when I go to sleep at night. I am so sorry for your loss. I think you can work up to getting rid of material things. As for work , they don't understand. Maybe you can talk to Human Resourses or Public relations if your company has such a thing. Most companies have something along the lines. God Bless and let memories of good times ease your pain.

[mncold]

Do what you feel up to doing.

When a loved one dies it feels as though the world should stop. I think that it goes on is to remind us that our life will go on, not the same, but it goes on anyway.

Thinking of you,

Mary