I have someone in my life who is in his early 60's who has been diagnosed with Cirrhosis a few years ago, he remains under the care of a dr at the local hospital.
He is also being monitored for the last 18months with the expectation to go onto a transplant list.
My issue is that he secretly drinks; anything from 2 cans a day to half a bottle of Brandy.
He doesn't drink in front of anyone, we find the remnants and there is categorically nobody else in the house that drinks so it can only be him. he is a true alcoholic and 'works from home' so at least he isn't out driving to endanger anyone else. He drinks to the point of drunk daily.
He tells anyone who will listen, including the Drs that he quit drinking 2/3 years ago on Cirrhosis diagnosis, nobody seems to challenge him although last time the paramedics came to see him as he was vomiting blood, they did say 'that's not true now is it' and he didn't respond
He will not allow anyone to accompany him to Dr Appointments.
He seems to either elude the medical profession as he stops drinking a few days before each blood test and they don't do hair strand tests, his medication has not been adjusted which is why I believe him to be eluding the Drs or, more likely he is lying about the outcome of the appointments.
I would be utterly devastated if he made it to the transplant list as he is so undeserving of another liver as he cannot control his addiction.
How would I intervene in this to prevent it? we have different drs
He has had the banding redone several times now
He is weak, barely eats, unstable on his feet, has had several falls in the home too which he blames on heatstroke or food poisoning, there has been more than one occasion where he has dropped his dinner on the carpet when taking to the table as he cannot either hold the plate because of weakness or drunk.
His eyes are yellow, his skin ranges from grey to yellow with blotches of red.
He sleeps a lot.
He has a supportive network to reach out to however he has boxed himself into a corner with asking for help as he thinks we all believe he doesn't drink.
We do not confront him as the person he exists with would be verbally abused by him and at the moment I would rather protect them as they put up with enough just existing with him.
Any suggestions on how to move forward?
Any life expectancy experience?
Anyone been in this position themselves and had a lightbulb moment?
It is so very sad, addiction has gripped him and all we seem to be able to do is watch while he kills himself and wastes valuable resources doing it