Just had a biopsy

[Shihtzumom]

Went to breast clinic Saturday after the tests I asked my doctor what are the chances that I’ve got cancer, he replied quit a good chance! I needed to know as husband had been diagnosed with GOJ cancer a week before, I felt more awful having to give the family more bad news than the fact I might have cancer too!

[jackearls1000]

Good Morning ....I'm so sorry about this ...but your post reminds me of the day i was told it was very likely i had breast cancer ....and on top of your husbands news i cant imagine how you must be feeling today ....my advise to you would be after going through all the treatment and two years down the line is ...please try not to panic, take one step/day at a time ...I lost so much sleep and caused so much anxiety ....for myself and family, i wish I didn't ....there is quite a long process and quite a bit of waiting in between each section of this process. ... My diagnosis happened around this time of year ..I still managed weekends away and made as many distractions as possible that did help my husband and daughter as well as myself ....My doctor told me of all the cancers to get ...this was the one that was most treatable .....so until you get all the facts and know what your dealing with try to take it easy ....I to felt awful telling my family but remember this is a treatable cancer and research has come on leaps and bounds ..there is always someone here to talk to you when needed ....they were all brilliant with me and helped me every step of the way ....so very best wishes to you and your husband .....lots of love Jane xxxx

[Shihtzumom in reply to jackearls1000]

Thanks xx

[Shhilo]

I am so terribly sorry to hear your news, which isn't really what you want to hear.

But I agree totally with jackearls reply.

This is the hardest part of the process, waiting for confirmation when your Dr has said it's likely. I hung on for that possibility of 'benign' for the two week wait. Mine was malignant. You still have hope that it's Benign 🌞

If it is malignant, every thing starts very quickly which is good. It's the unknown that's the worst to face. But after you start treatments, it all becomes normal somehow. I had a Hickman Line, due to poor veins, that I managed myself. Took my own bloods, flushed it etc. Even with 3 young children, it was normal. This was over 10 yrs ago.

You have the possibility of a double wammy, both you and your husband! Be comforted in what jackearls said about treatments for cancers, breast cancer in particular.

I pray for a Benign result and I pray for the strength for you if you must face a malignant result together with your husband. God be with you on your journey.

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[Shihtzumom in reply to Shhilo]

Thanks x

[Happyrache2]

Hi Shihtzumom,

I am so sorry to hear what you are going through at the moment, and pray for a full recovery for your husband. You must be feeling so shocked about him, and then to have this on top. Take one day at a time. Remember, you don't know for sure you have cancer yet. If it turns out that you do, take one day at a time. Deal with it in your own way. Once you start the process, it does become normal. I was called back after a routine mammogram in 2017, and told there and then they were almost 100% sure it was breast cancer. It was such a shock, and I had a fear that I would not see my sons grow up. But, a lumpectomy, radiotherapy, mastectomy and reconstruction later, and life is almost back to normal again. Of course, I still have to go for check ups etc. Nowadays, it is easily treatable, and most women fully recover.

I'm thinking of you and praying that you don't have to go through his, but if you do, try to stay strong, and take turns looking after each other with your husband.

Rachel xx

[Shihtzumom in reply to Happyrache2]

Thanks we will be strong for each other x

[carolinenailsea]

Really sorry to hear your family's awful news. It is so shocking to get a diagnosis of cancer - it throws your whole life up in the air as you come to terms with it all. I wish you all the very best over the coming months. it would be brilliant if you get a negative diagnosis - I do hope so. Best wishes and hugs. Caroline xx

[Shihtzumom in reply to carolinenailsea]

Thanks x

[PerformancePoet]

Some lovely support here ❤️

Consultants can be so clumsy worded! I clearly the remember my first one taking one look at me and saying ‘you know this is cancer don’t you?’ No, of course I bl**dy didn’t you idiot!! I had no experience of cancer and was hoping for the best!!!

When I went back 8 years later with another lump he brushed me off like a worrier ‘ women of your age always have lumps’ and he was wrong! Thank god I got transferred to another surgeon who is a woman and far more diplomatic!!!

I aspire to writing a one woman poetry show about my cancer journey and I shall have some fun with him if I ever do! Thanks for reminding me!!!

Take each day at a time, slow down and live in the present, you and your husband can take time out together and spend more nurturing time together. Make each day as beautiful an experience as you can and a celebration of being alive and with other. You’ll get through it ❤️ Fxx

[Shhilo in reply to PerformancePoet]

A Poem would be truly a gift well received and cherished.

From a fellow artist I would so enjoy it!

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[PerformancePoet in reply to Shhilo]

I would love to hear more about your art . Do tell! Do you use your cancer experience to inform it or not? If there is somewhere I can see some inline let me know! Xx

[Shhilo in reply to PerformancePoet]

I can't say they I have used cancer to influence my art. I had cancer about 10 yrs ago. For me to accept it I guess I put it in a box and never looked back. This is the first forum I've ever written on for cancer. I'm not sure why now?

I posted one of my painting on the healthunlocked lupus site. One woman wrote that she saw people a boat and people in the water needing help, I can't remember the exact quote. But I can see her thoughts in the painting.

I've only just started to go to an art group twice. I have other Illnesses that prevent a normal life. But I was physically able to go to two so that's a great start.

I hope to eventually have a site to display images or elsewhere online.

How about your poems. Do you have them anywhere for viewing?

Please post or pm anything that you would like to share! Very interesting, I wonder how much illness does connect to painting???

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[Shhilo in reply to PerformancePoet]

You've got me thinking about painting something with cancer experience in mind. It will be abstract most definitely. The first thoughts that come to mind is chaos... I can hear the music rather than see the painting. I'm not a fan of jazz but that's my first thought, probably because I'm not a fan of cancer 😉

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[Shihtzumom in reply to PerformancePoet]

Thanks and good luck with the poetry x