Well after all your kind comments madam (my wife) and I sat down and discussed what we will do when the end game starts. We decided that as far as possible I'll stay at home.
We also decided that we should talk to the boys and tell them.
Isn't it odd how we still call our sons boys when one is 31 and the other 28.
My youngest son, who is in the army and based in Germany, is coming over for Easter so we're hoping to all meet up with our elder son, a publican in Wiltshire, so we can discuss the same with them.
Cant say I'm looking forward to it but it's only fair.
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All the best working out the next stage of your life, as you say you are still here even after the
Drs told you 2yrs, you are obviously a fighter Baldy and I love the idea of you off in the caravan. you enjoy yourself we,ll most likely still be chatting in another couple of yrs.!!
you have great support from your wife take care and both enjoy, these Drs ar,nt always right you know.!! the power of mind over body,
Take care....Mary
Good man Baldie. For what it's worth my wife Ann and I agree.
A three week stay in ICU three years ago means the family know and I too have decided to stay at home. Do you have a community matron ? Ours is a godsend and takes care of everything. Knowing just about every eventuality is arranged for brings a kind of peace.
Bless you Baldie my thoughts go out to you and your family. For as long as you can............
Thank you for your kind words. I had a visit from the community nurse when I was first diagnosed and we decided that I would contact her when the need arose. I think I might contact her now for a chat. Thanks again that's very good advise.
well done baldie, this is a very wise and generous thing that your going to do, everyone knowing whats going on is so important, your boys will love you all the more for it, I remember being with a relative who 'let it slip' what he wanted to happen and it really bought us close together, bought a sort of peace and calm too. xxx
I so agree medow, richards illness has brought our family so much closer, we have had so many memory making occasions all of us together, and there are a lot of us, we are of course right now all holding together because of the support of the rest and we have each other and our memories.xx
For what its worth I agree with your decision baldie. But hope you have years and years yet.
I tend to 'hide my head in the sand' so does Dennis my husband, it's because I don't look ill. Need to do what you have done baldie, it's the right approach, but I know we won't. All the best to you, take care.
Good to hear from you again amagran, you are a very brave lady.
Lib x
Good luck and best wishes to you all. You are being so very sensible about it. I have had to discuss my husbands end of life details with my two sons who are in their 40's as my husband refuses to talk about it. I am 70 years old and my husbands carer 24/7 and needed some back-up if anything happened to my husband.
I have put together a file (unbeknown to my husband) listing everything that I have to do in the event of his death. I have put all the insurance, pensions and bank details etc. down and put them in a very safe place so if I was taken ill or died before him my two sons would know exactly where to find them and what to do.
I have told him what I want when I die, hoping he would talk about what he wants, but he clams up and just ignores me so I have had to write it down for my sons to carry out my wishes.
It must be really lovely for you both to be able to sit down and discuss things as a family and make decisions together, I wish my husband would do the same.
I wish you all the best when you tell your sons, but I am sure they have thought about this too and will be relieved you are discussing it with them so they can be more involved, as being a parent myself, you tend to keep your ups and downs away from them as you don't want them to worry.
Good luck.
my heart gos out to u both.i am a 63female late diagonised with moderate. thanks to gp ignoring xray from2012 june.i ave 3grown daughters 1 son.11 grandchildren.an 1 special grandaughter aged 2.i am living my life as i have done and will carry on duing so for as long.take care and keep faith .
Once again thank you all for your kindness and advise, it's very helpful to know there others in the same boat ready and able to share their knowledge and advise so freely.
I'm off to a Breathe Easy meeting this afternoon I shall definitely recommend this forum.
Thinking of you and your lovely wife at this time. Hope all goes well when you get to chat to your lads (we have a son age 35, daughter 32 and another son 30 and still think of them as kids). It will be good to get everything out into the open and be honest. Good luck to you and stay as well as you can. Enjoy your meeting. xxxxx
Good luck with the boys, you know, my sister had leaukimia and was told that she would die within a very short while. Well, they were wrong, she lasted another 10yrs. she was a fighter thats for sure and had a very strong will to live, so doctors are not always right.
Take care Baldie, regards to your wife and family x
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