Dad's service

[hope132]

Well had my dad's service today.my family is Jewish me I'm nothing don't believe in any religion,but they had a Chaplin say a few words read from that book ,you know the one with the talking snake.my sister said a few words,my mom said a few words and then the Chaplin asked me I declined,I don't feel the need to tell strangers what my dad meant to me he already knew.had a military service folded up the flag real nice handed it to my mom and said accept this flag on behalf of the president of the United States.my dad hated the man with a passion it brought a smile to my face.my mom asked me if I wanted the flag I declined.i guess I think differently then alot of people.to me a flag is just a symbol and I leave symbols to the symbol minded.i just hate things that seperate one group of human beings from another.maybe someday when I'm long gone humans will have only 1 flag.they will call it the human flag my mom always cries my sister is on depression medication and I just go on to the next day.this is life what can you do,people die it's a fact of life.i have decided to put in for a transfer and stay withy Mom for awhile I don't think she can make it if I don't.anyway I pay 600 a month I have to go back tomorrow and the nutjob with the airfreshner plug in fetish is liable to have done it again and I will be sleeping in the car.i can live and help my mom and fullfil my dad's wishes and only pay 100 dollars a month here have fresh clean air save money and figure out later what or where I will go a little later iny life and help my mom cope at the same time.thats about it hope everyone is doing great I feel great health wise nothing bothers me I can do anything no breathing problems no inhaler and to me that's pretty dam good peace

[Caspiana]

Hello Hope,👋

I'm afraid I am not religious either. I believe in something greater than all of us, that perhaps resides somewhere beyond the horizon. That "something" does occasionally step in to save me from some catastrophic event, or drag me out of unconsciousness after a huge operation and every single time I thank them, sincerely. I wish I knew how to properly address them. But I don't really. I know I can't pretend to hold any credit with them . But I do respect that presence. Religion to me is man made, used to herd the masses and keep us in our places. just my opinion and mine alone. Although I was brought up a Catholic and was enrolled in a convent school, during my teen years, I was taught I could go to hell for the tiniest of digressions and had to kneel in a wooden box and tell a man in a black cassock all my deviousness which traumatised me every time. So, yes, I totally understand where you are coming from. I will always keep my counsel as to what I should believe in. But I do have so much respect for people of faith. It must be comforting to feel that every trial and tribulation is heard and remedied to a certain degree . As for the flag, your dad and I share the same sentiments on the matter. I have some choice words for your President , but I shall keep them to myself.

As for your decision to step into your mum's life, you sound resolved. You must do what you feel is best for both of you. My biggest wish on my bucket list is to care for my mother till her last breath. If that is the only thing I get to do with my life before I die, that would be it. I can't imagine not doing that for her. But again, you do what you feel is best for you. The rest will follow.

Take care of yourself Hope. Wishing you a smooth transition to your new life, with much less stress. With love and hugs.

Cas xx 🍀

[Hidden in reply to Caspiana]

Not to bore everyone or anger but......I don’t believe in symbols either. I do believe in one a God who created all things. I don’t disbelieve religion, however it seems to cause more divisions than healing. To me only, it seems man made all the divisions and fences. Worshipping flags, symbols is divisive. God made one earth and all humans. Than humans ruined the earth and fight like toddlers. Instead of being forced to stand in a corner our leaders sip on the finest wine and dine at the best set tables while they send us pawns to wars they created out of pride and power tripping. Then we vets come home a mess and forgotten. Sorry for the rant.....

[Caspiana in reply to Hidden]

Absolutely agree. "Thank you for your service" seems hollow considering what many have been through and the irreversible , life changing damage . Not just the soldiers, but civilians. Take care Hidden . xx 👋

[hope132 in reply to Caspiana]

I agree with much of what you said.however I have a disagreement on people of faith.faith by definition is the belief in something with zero proof.its to dam easy to do such a thing and requires no critical thought.its propped up especially in the u.s. to be one of the highest virtues there is this I never understood.its the farthest thing from a virtue.its gullibility with a Halo.its make-believe and causes way touch ignorance and hatred in the world.i like what you said about how when you were a kid they scared the hell out of you in church no pun intended.to tell a child that if they don't believe a certain way they will be tortured forever when they die is nothing short of child abuse.i am convinced a world with no religion would be a better world although I'm sure humans might just find another absurd reason to kill each other although killing someone no offense over ones imaginary friend is about as crazy as it gets.

[golden-retriever]

So sorry you lost your dad. I can’t imagine how hard that must be. Your post was beautiful. I’m Jewish too, but only in my blood. Take care of yourself.

[Damon1864 Volunteer]

So sorry about your dad, but I'm sure he would be so proud of you. I hope which ever direction your life takes you are happy and healthy as possible, have a good week and take care of yourself 😊 Bernadette xx

[sassy59]

You seem to have worked out what to do with your life for now anyway hope and that’s a good thing.

I don’t tend to discuss politics or religion and just believe in myself, caring for Pete and being close to our family.

I wish you well for the future, stay well and look after your mum and yourself.

All the best. Xxx 👍

[garshe in reply to sassy59]

Agree never get involved in Politics or Religion especially on this site. This is a health site sheila x

[Ergendl]

Condolences to you at this sad time. Your plan to support your Mom for a while sounds a good one. Hugs.

[Bingo88]

Hello hope132. I am glad that all went as well as things could go at your Dads Service. Think you are doing the right thing, Looking after your Mother, as your Dad wanted. This will give you chance to hopefully save some money. So eventually when it comes to your time. To do your own thing. You can do that, knowing you did your best for your parents. And hold your head high. And not have to hold your tongue, or take no shit off no one. Continued thoughts are with you while you arrange moving to live with your Mom. Brian

[illawarra]

My condolences on the death of your dad. So good that you will be there for you mum.Keep well hope132.

[morehope]

Do you believe in run-on sentences?

[shouty]

Hi we are having a Catholic service for my Mum as to converted to Catholicism a few years ago. It would be what she wanted but she also told us to go to the pub afterwards & have a good time.