I left today my dad in tears my mom in tears my sister in tears as well as me.on my way home a 4and a half hour drive my dad was on my mind my COPD was on my mind but it wasn't bad cause I am taking care of myself like crazy.my one fear on my way back was this guy I live with that I had to ask to stop with the dam airfreshner plug in that was killing me.he stopped and promised to not do it anymore as I explained I have COPD.i wasn't hear for 7 days and I swear to you I was scared this lunatic would do it again,matter of fact I was terrified.i pull in the driveway and open the door and this sob bought another plug in he just came back I just saw him.i asked him nicely why are u doing this again.says to me sorry I didn't know you be back today.i told him my dad is dying from COPD I have it if I take care of myself I could be ok.so why did he do it again,what the hell is wrong with him.he just shut it off how long will it take to air out.its brutal I might ask a friend if I can stay for 1 night.folks I have had enough,of all the things to get I have something where j have to depend on the consideration of another human being to stay healthy.i can't cope if it's not this nutjob it will be another one when he leaves.i have to stop this madness exercising and eating right don't mean anything if I have to breath crap in.i went right to work today on my day off to tell them I want full time as luck would have it there not there and even I If iget it it could take awhile.my only other option is put in for a transfer and move on with my mom in West and help her with dad.this can't happen anymore I can't count on others to give a dam about my health.im losing it.6 days of seeing my poor Dad and then come back to airfreshner man.how long do u think it will take for this hell hole to clear out.sorry to keep complaining but in a way you guys are my lifeline.what would posrss this lunatic to do this again.why can't he live without a lousy airfreshner.he had to know I was coming back.
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Im at the end of my rope
Hello Hope. 👋
As long as you have room mates, there will always be SOMETHING. Find your own place. Move back with your mother (she may appreciate the extra support). Do what it takes. Please believe me when I say your house mates may find you just as irritating as you find them. Not the best combination for a peaceful existence.
And, you are absolutely 100% correct , no one will give two hoots about your health. That, in essence your job. The sooner you realize this, the less stressful you will find other people. Don't expect others to care. They have their own issues. You are old enough to make the necessary changes to ensure your health and happiness. It really is your responsibility. Sorry for the tough love but this air freshener saga has been going on forever, hopefully some resolution can be found soon. I hope your father is comfortable.
U r right.tomorrow I'm asking for full time.might help my mom and live there might take what little stock money I have and go somewhere else but this will not continue
Excellent! Take control. You definitely can.
Oh so well said Caspiana.
Caspiana's right, many other people don't care about our health because they have their own fears and concerns. Many people don't understand respiratory problems, a broken leg they would see and understand but lung disease is invisible and some people just don't understand that scented things can cause difficulties.
Move in with your mum, until you can find somewhere else to live. She likely needs some support too, practical and emotional. You could do things like wash the dishes and the laundry, it would be a way of letting her know you are there for her, because she must be struggling too.
I hope something will work out for you soon and you find somewhere more suitable to live. 🤞
hope102 I feel for you living in share accommodation and having to put up with people with their sprays and other chemicals. It is hard for families often to understand let alone others. It would be better for you to go and live with your mum and you can be a support for her with dad.
Or if possible find a place where you can afford where you live alone.
Also buy a air filter so when you have neighbours or smoke or whatever affecting you just turn it on to clear the air. It is a great help.
First I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I totally understand as my last home 6months ago I was dealing with asshole burning plastic in the fireplace- INDOORS just hoping neighbors would eventually call health Dept. AND a son who practically bathed in Ax spray that they “ think” smells so great that would send me dry heaving from trying to hold my breath. So I get where you’re at. Can you tell the guy to hit the road Jack? If it’s a matter of finance I get that too. Honestly I’ve been in some crappy situations where grabbing a blanket & pillow and sleeping outside was my only breathable option. Maybe going to moms for a week might show dude you are serious OR grab the damn air plugs open the door and throw em out! Either way something’s gotta change those stupid things should be outlawed, even ppl who can breath well feel those stupid things are most offensive. Hang in there make a decision if possible and change something cuz ya ain’t gonna change anybody that selfish sorry
Not much I can really add after those replies hope but I so agree with Cas. Only you can look after and care about you so do whatever it takes and push forward.
Others don’t care because they’re not in your position and don’t have your worries or fears. Look out for your mum and I’m thinking of you all. Take care xxxxx
In my early days of COPD my partner (later my wife) carried on smoking. I had a choice - Leave my partner ( in this case throw her out, my flat) or put up with it. Obviously I put up with it and we’re still together (20 yrs) and she eventually stopped smoking. It is your choice as it is your life. But to me your man is being very selfish and unfeeling. Maybe marching orders. I have found over 13 yrs of COPD that exercise has been my saviour. Without exercise I deteriorate, with I get better. I hope you find a solution that works for you. Be self caring and look out for yourself.
Hi I know how you feel mate I have same problem. I have serve copd broncechtisis respiratory type 2 asthma and emphysema with nublizer and oxygen and NIV machine when my carers use mop they don't use detergent in my bed room nor I can use any perfumes or body spray makes it very hard to breath and itchy throat best thing is find a place alone. I know it's hard depending where you live but it's possible although you are working you can get p.i.p form DWP or different help or contact occupational therapy they will meet your requirements I was sharing with 6 people smoking drinking cooking smelling all soughts I couldn't breath in my room no fresh air then got air conditioning but no point my room was next to the tiolet more longer you leave it more stress and anxiety you will get and slowly slowly damage your health may be why take the risk when there is help out there my friend when it's too late sorry doesn't make it up or covers it you both live in the same house you can't take the fresh air and that guy can't take you both are paying same rent he is understanding but not obliged to listen if does good question is for how long and who would suffer for his fresh air.
Do whats best for you hope132. This lowlife is not careing at all about you. Else he would not keep bringing these air freshners in the house. He would open the windows for fresh air. Having over a 4 hour drive when you are upset is also dangerous. Move back with your family. Support each other. And Take Care xxx. Brian
I would go home Hope, you and your Mum can support each other and you will be closer to your Dad. Good luck with that, moving can be stressful so take your time - safe journey!
Each time he puts in an air freshener, remove and smash it in front of him and he will soon get the message. He is an inconsiderate b******.
Good luck
Kevin
He stopped using it for couple months but when I went to visit my dad I was gone for 7 days and before I got back I knew what I would smell when I opened the door.while I'm here he probably won't be doing it again.something mentally wrong with him never seen anyone with an air freshener fetish iny life,stupid moron has liver damage from being an alcoholic I said how would u like me pouring alcohol down your throat cause that's what u r doing to me with your going plug in.today I go in ask for full time.see what happens not living like this forever.want to get in my car go back up north can't afford it but I'm crazy enough to do it anyway.something has to change,I have to change it nobody else will.he shouldn't be using plug in while I'm here anymore I told the moron I am trying to leave so while I'm living here please don't use when I leave he can plug it in and shove it up his u know what.tjanks for responding
You can buy a Neutraliser for car.But you are winding yourself up.
Take a look online at Health Sciences Institutes.There you will find
things which will help you your Father and most people on this site !!!
Has already helped me,and l could send e-mails, to include pages of
it if we can exchange E-Mail on here ???
I feel bad for you hope132 but it seems there is no communication and your friend does not understand the severity of your condition. Not everyone understands. I live with a smoker but I also have a very strong air cleaner beside his chair and what we use are these sticks you put in scented oil, I can't smell them and you just keep flipping them. To me the point is I'm not going to let this disease run my life and ruin everyone else's. Compromise is key. To make my partner understand my breathing I sat on his chest holding a full suitcase and said ok breathe, he could but barely then I sprayed room freshener and he started choking and threw me off. Now he gets it lol. Doesn't mean we can't have scents just mild ones and air cleaners are key. I have one in every room. The best one I have which is whisper quiet I the ionic pro platinum and you never buy filters just throw it in the dishwasher or wash well with soap and water but it must be bone dry. I love it every room has one. I also have a cool mist diffuser because heat causes my throat to close. Every COPD person is different. Find what works for you. These are just a few of the tips I use. You need to find out why this person is addicted to plug ins there are many out there. I have an airwick which sprays every 45 minutes but it's on a high shelf so by the time the scent trickles down doesn't bother me. Lots of tricks to try😁 sorry about your dad.
Hi, it's good to know I'm not the only one who is struggling with other people using scented perfumes, shower gels , air freshness, smoke,. My husband is the same he has been selfish, because the shampoo he was using was scented. And causing problems with my asthma and airway obstruction. He kept moaning that he had to give things up. I said how the hell do you think I feel having this condition. And having to give things up myself. But no other people don't give a dam that their,scented toxic chemicals and their toxic cigarette smoke is killing our lungs . Mezz1
give him hell and move home..........life is to damn short
I can’t understand why an air freshener would be so important to him. I disliked them before I had COPD and don’t understand why a person would want their home to smell like that all the time. Most are way to strong and overpowering.
Because he is out of his fin mind.he has an airfreshner fetish .I was gone 7 days and he used another plug in.he is gone all dam day and still leaves it plugged in.why he isn't even there.if it happens again I might wind up in jail I kid you not.i will have to put in for a transfer and move to West palm.uproot my whole life I have to take control of my own life and someone find my own little place
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