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Just to let you all know my dad Tony passed away in the early hours of yesterday morning. I will write a longer post when I have the energy. I will say now that he had accepted that it was his time and the plan was to move him to a hospice. It happened more suddenly than expected. The nurse said that moments before she had asked him how he was and he had smiled and given her the thumbs up. Smiling and happy until the end. A true hero. The nurses told us it was very quick and peaceful so think of him and smile.

Lots of love to you all, your support to my father throughout the years has been a vital part of his life and I know you were all so so important to him and his fight.

Xxxxxxxxxxxxx

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mrsmummy

A real hero and I am so sorry to hear that he has left us. But you can be reassured that he will be a highlight of wherever he is now, free of any pain. God bless you all. RIP Tony. xxx

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sassy59

Smiling through the tears as your dad was such an amazing, inspirational man. So sorry for your loss, and thank you so much for letting us know.

Deepest sympathies to all the family. So very sad. Xx

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Caspiana in reply to sassy59

Me too. Smiling and snivelling.

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Lyd12

Shocked and saddened, such a wonderful man. Will always remember his optimism and smile in the face of adversity. His struggle is over, yours is beginning, pull together and you will have wonderful memories of a special person. Love Iris x

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pergola

Very sad to learn about your Dad. Best wishes and love from Pergola xxx

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Hacienda

So very Sorry, I had just recently got to correspond with him, A lovely genuine Man and always so Positive. RIP Tony. My Condolences to you and your Family. X Carolina X

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sue45

So very sad to hear this..my thoughts are with you & all the family.

Sue XxX

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stone-UK

Hi

Sincere condolences at the loss to your family. Tony was such an inspiration to many who suffer from a lung condition. He as left many memories on his videos, from his many outings, and sing alongs.

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hufferpuffer

My Deepest condolences to you and your Family for the loss of Tony your beloved Dad, may he rest in Peace and Love .smiling through the tears , much love huff xxx

Your Dad was a fine example to us all, what a great character. Soo sorry. :-(

Don

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Caspiana

Dearest donkeyonthehorizon .

I am utterly devastated. We so often talked about getting out transplants. He cheered me on and gave me so much hope through his compassionate and cheerful encouragement. My heart is broken.

He has gained his angel wings. Sing on Tony.

My deepest and heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

Sending love.

Cas xx 🌹

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clematis5932 in reply to Caspiana

You words speak for a lot of us I am sure Cas. Its always the ones that never moan, always look at the good in people, like you say encourage others and give hope that hit us the hardest when they are taken. We can learn a lot from people like Tony xxx

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Caspiana in reply to clematis5932

*Big hug* 🌻

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aberdeenman

A brave hardy man rip tony

Such sad news, ur dad was a fantastic inspiration to us all, RIP tony. 💖 Sonia xxx

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Mandy6513

I'm truly heartbroken by this news. Tony and I shared some special times. He always promised me a room at his dad's when I got my transplant. I will miss his happy nature and his determination. He was an amazing man. I feel your loss x

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2greys

For once I am almost speechless, your father was an inspiration to us all. My deepest condolences to you and your family.

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Lizzypick

Condolences to you and your family. Sorry to hear about your dad, it's not easy losing a parent💟💟

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Pam1952

My heart goes out to you and your family. Tony was a very special man and an inspiration to so many....this is a very sad day. Rest in peace Tony. ❤XXX

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Offcut

Our thoughts are we you on this sad day.

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O2Trees

How awful and shocking - I somehow thought Tony would live forever. It didn't seem possible that he would pass. Yes I will smile but Im crying too. Tony - our friend and your dad - was amazing, I don't have the words to say how much he meant to us here. His music, his countryside trips, so much he gave us from a life well lived despite such challenges. Your last sentence can be turned around - he gave us all so much support and love, so much fun, and so much to remember. Thank you for letting us know Sophie and sending you and your family love, strength and very sincere condolences. xxx jean

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cofdrop-UK

Dear Sophie

I am so very sad sweetheart to hear of your dear Dad’s passing. Tony was amazingly stoic, joyful and an inspiration to us all and he will be missed here. I know he was incredibly proud of you and thank you to you and your friend for your fundraising.

Please accept my sincere condolences to you and to your family and friends. I do hope you will find the words of the nurse a great comfort. You are so right Sophie, your Dad was ‘a true hero’.

With love

Cx

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knitter

Thinking of all of your family at this sad time.....his memory will live on in the hearts of all who knew him personally and through HU.

He was an inspiration .....flying free now on his beloved Malverns. I could never see those hills without thinking of your Dad.

Thank you for taking the time to tell us.

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Tee1008

Devastatingly sad news donkeyonthehorizon and truly heartbreaking to hear. My very deepest sympathy to you and all of Tony's family. Rest in peace you beautiful Rocker x

So sorry to read this sad news ..... I know Tony was a fighter and like others have said inspirational & upbeat too

All mis you Tony

Saddened to hear this news...Tony was a beacon of light...many stories...heart of gold....will be missed...condolences to the family...Yea tho I walk thru the valley of death I will fear no evil...........for thou art with me....

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newlands

So very sorry he was so brave and put up a good fight

Condolences to you and your family and his friends

Take Care

Dorothy

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Pantani

So very sad to hear that your father has lost his fight. His posts were always inspiring and he never let his illness stop him living his life to the full. He will be sorely missed by his many friends on here. My thoughts are with you and your family.

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Katinka46

He was an amazing man, he had so much courage and lived life to the full with enormous humour and grace. I followed his posts and was so encouraged by his attitude. Love and condolences to you and his family.

Kate xx

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skischool

Trust Tony to exit the stage on the day of the largest moon,one of the brightest in the sky,he will live on forever in our memories as a man of great character and strength and a continual source of inspiration.Condolences and warmth to you and all of your family.

Skis and Scruffy cat x

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onamission

So sorry to hear of this sad news Tony was a inspiration to us all and it was him who encouraged me to get back in the pool.

My thoughts are with you and the family at this very sad time xx

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Watfordgirl

One in a million and a friend to everyone. This is such sad news, a heartbreaking loss. My deepest sympathy to you and all Tony’s friends and family. Rest in peace Tony and sing on. Sue x

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Carnival567

So sorry to hear your news, but I'm glad it was peaceful at the end. Many blessings xx

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PentreathVolunteer

Dear Sophie - you are truly your father’s daughter. How kind of you to let us know so soon after Tony’s death. He certainly was a shining example of how to live fully despite having many hurdles to overcome. So sad for you and your family.

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jimmyg23

Very shocked to hear about his passing away will be missed very much rest in peace Tony I shall miss you

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moogle

My heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family. We will surely miss the presence of a truly loveable and inspirational man.

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Magpuss

So sorry to hear this, he was always so cheerful and I loved the way he continued his trips to the Malvern's - so determined not to stop enjoying the things that he loved doing. A very sad loss for you and the rest of the family, and for all of his friends, he'll certainly be missed here. It seems fitting that he left with a smile and a thumbs up. Ever the optimist- ready for his next trip. RIP Tony💐. My condolences to family and friends.xx

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hypercat54

Not our Tony. It's too much to bear. He was the heart of this group always keeping us smiling with his exploits and his positivity. I am so sorry and I am thinking of you all. R.I.P. Tony you lovely man. Bev xxx

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megannell

" Tony was a true inspiration to each and everyone of us..Rest in Peace Tony...."

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tomc

My deepest sympathy to you and all Tony`s family

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Kitten-kat23

RIP Tony. I'm so sorry.

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music

Hi, i am very sorry and sad about your dad has i remember him when i first joined this site and he was always so kind and helpful,

Love and best wishes

Music

So sorry Tony passed away. Thank you for keeping us informed. My deepest sympathy to you and your family.

Fran x

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Billiejean_2

This is just heartbreaking news and right now it's impossible to imagine a world without Tony in it. I last heard from him about a week ago as we tried to keep our spirits up about being in hospital. I sent him a few lines of The Animal's Song 'We Gotta Get Out of this Place' and with his customary good humour he was amused.

Sophie, I can't begin to imagine your pain and your mum and your brother's pain. You have lost the most wonderful father and husband and your hearts' must be broken. My sympathy and love to all of you.

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rubyred777

I've not been on hu. much anymore. One of the members I thought about most, was your dad. Such an inspiration to everyone. He tried so hard to be fit for his transplant. I'm so very sorry for your loss. Your dad was really special. Rest in Peace Tony

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Lillian12

My sympathy to you and yours at such a sad time . He celebrated life to the max and enjoyed his trips out rest easy 😔

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PollyP

Aaaahhhhh such sad news and condolences to you and your family...Tony embodied the spirit of someone who lived life to the full...life in every moment and inspired many of us here.

A couple of years ago 3 of us and Tony walked - sauntered the British Camp which was wonderful...I think he knew every inch of it ! and we had a few laughs along the way.

We ended up at the cafe for a butty and coffee!

I have many happy memories of Tony’s posts here.

May his soul soar high to the stars...

Breathe Easy Tony ...😘

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knitter in reply to PollyP

I have been looking at photos of British Camp today and remembering Tony and his determined spirit ....flying free over his beloved Malverns now.

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clematis5932

I was so shocked to hear that Tony is no longer with us. I always enjoyed his posts, his love of the countryside and family. I really am very sad xx

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jabber

So very sorry to hear this news of Tony. I loved his posts and photographs - always smiling. He was a bright spark on this forum and will be much missed. My heartfelt sympathy to you and your family.

With love, Jan x

So very sorry to hear this.Condolences to you the wider family and friends.Did like to see Tony post his pictures of himself on top of a peak in the Malverns.

helenxxx

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pollyjj

A truly inspirational man I always enjoyed reading his posts My thoughts go out to you and your family. R.I.P Tony.

I'll miss your dad so much, Sophie,The bravest man I never met. Always upbeat, funny and kind, a real ray of sunshine to us all. I'll miss his videos, his music, the tales of his walks in the Malverns, and his sheer joy in living. He was determined to stay fit for that transplant. Life is so terribly unfair. I am so so sorry and send love to you & your family.

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ggeorgiou

I am so sorry for your loss. Wishing you all the best. Stay Strong. x

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pegbl

I am shocked and very saddened to hear the news of your dad.

Tony was a inspiration to us all much loved and respected by all, what's more he was a tremendous fighter, inspired many others on the path he took. I am in tears writing it's so sad he will certainly be missed.

You should be Truly proud of him Sophie, as he was of you all.

My sincere condolences to you and all the family.

Xxxxx

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joyce74

Sorry to hear your news . Your dad will be sadly missed on here . Condolences to all the family

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SquirrelsHolt

Such sad,sad news. Your Dad was such an outstanding ambassador for all lung related illnesses and contributed so much to his family on here. Thoughts are with you....R.I.P. Tony.x

Very sad to hear about him passing away, he will be missed very much, rest in peace.

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Annie31

My sincere condolences xx

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esther333

Sending condolences RIP

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Stumpy55

So sorry for your loss, may god rest his soul. God bless you and your family 🙏

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frose

I am so terribly sorry to hear this. As you doubtless know better than me, your father was a very brave man and he inspired many of us here. His gentle humour made him loved by all and I am grateful to have met him. My heartfelt sympathies to you and your family.

Fern xx

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hopetorun

I am so sorry to hear Tony has gone. Sending my sympathy to you and your family.

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Silly-mummy

Such sad news I’m so sorry for your loss I’m glad that the end was peaceful for him, but he will be greatly missed on this site, just keep on rocking tony wherever you are x

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cosykitty

Please know we are all with you in your grief. My Mother's first anniversary is fast approaching on the 15th, so I'm acutely aware of how you will be feeling. Love and strength to you all at this difficult time. But glad for Tony, as he is no longer fighting. He deserves to rest in eternal peace now. Will be thinking of you over the coming weeks as you prepare to say goodbye xx

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KevinD1878

Sophie, I heard about Tony's passing from a mutual friend on Wednesday morning. I was so sad to hear it. I have missed our chats at the weekly Fit to Breathe sessions. Libby has been giving us regular updates each week. Such an inspiration and a real fighter. I first met Tony in an aisle at Morrisons, both of us with oxygen cylinders. He just said "snap". I was recently diagnosed (almost 4 years ago now) and about to start going through the transplant assessment process and his wisdom, experience and fortitude were so inspirational for me. Our next meeting of the IPF Support Group which Tony was instrumental in establishing late last year is next Tuesday. it is newly formed and growing at each meeting so far. It's continuing success will be a worthwhile and, hopefully, lasting tribute to Tony.

Sincere condolences to your Mum, you and your brother and Tony's Mum who brought him along to so many Fit to Breathe sessions in the last 12 months or so. God Bless.

Kevin

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jackdup

That is devastating news and I am so sorry to hear that. He was an inspiration to everyone here and will be missed terribly. I think he offered much more to those here then he got from us.

RIP our dear friend.

My condolences to you and your whole family. There really are no words to adequately describe how I feel.

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zube-UK

I am heartbroken to hear this news, I will miss Tony very much. thank you for letting us know. My heartfelt condolences to you and all your family.

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qbjb

Your Dad was amazing. So very sad he lost his fight. Sympathy and love to you and yours.

Jude Xxxx

Very sorry to hear about your dad. He will be truly missed .

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CELAT06

So sorry to hear this. I’ve not been on the site for a while but I have popped in now and then to see how folks are doing. I’ve followed Tony’s posts for a long time, walked with him, sang with him and enjoyed the beautiful scenery he was so proud to show us. He was truly inspirational and was determined to enjoy his life no matter what was thrown at him. He will be greatly missed by his family and his family on here. Sending condolences and special thoughts to all his family. He’ll be rocking on and livening up wherever he is. Much love and best wishes. Christine. XXX

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Dedalus

Such sad news. Condolences to you & your family. What a loss to us all. He was so inspirational and always cheerful in the face of all adversity. He will be sorely missed. RIP Tony xxxx

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Mollie01

Hi Sophie so sorry to have read this your Dad was a great inspiration to me. I am four years into this PF journey so I was an avid reader of all his posts. He gave great advice from experience with a wonderful sense of humour. Love to all your family and RIP Tony. With love Mollie xxx

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Shirleyj

So sad to hear this about you dear dad, he was a total inspiration for all of us and will be sadly missed.

Love and kind thought to you and your family at this very sad time . Take care X X X

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Time_2_drink

I Think Hannes post sums it up for me he Bravest man i never met .

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helenlw7

Very sorry to hear about your dad - he was an amazing man.

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ericwood992

So sorry...

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mskpjb

So very,very sorry to hear that you've lost your Dad and we have lost a truly treasured member of our community. He was such a vital source of joy to so many Breathe easy now Tony. Sheila xx

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Christabella153

in my thoughts & prayers at least your dad was happy to the end XC

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SusieQs

I loved Tony's posts especially the ones when he was out and about and gave a very descriptive and interesting account of his adventures. I don't come on here as much as I used to but always made a point of visiting Tony's profile when I was. So sad, a great loss to many. xxx

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Toci

I am crying. Your dad was such a special person, as you well know. The world is a poorer place for his loss. RIP, Tony. We will all miss you a lot. xxx

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warwickstag

Absolutely gutted by this news, a light that burned so brightly has been cruelly turned off. We shared a common interest in lower league football and real ale, and I so much regret that I never got to meet this hugely courageous human being. The world is a much poorer place today for his passing.

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peege

Dearest Sophie, my deepest and heartfelt condolences to you, your brother and especially your mum , Tony adored you all so much and was so proud of you all. Treasured on here are the memories he shared, over years, the music, the chuckles, huffing & puffing on the treadmill, singing his head off (oh his singing 😁), trips over The Malverns, the country lanes, by the river in Worcester and of course your granpa's garden. The best memory for me is meeting up with Tony, PollyP & Frose & for Tony to take us on a tour of his precious hills - I was the one forever falling on my rear - it was a lovely exhilarating afternoon followed by tea at the caff.

Be assured that many of us here will never, ever forget your lovely caring sharing Dad. ❤️ One in a million. Huge love, Penelope/Pen

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Dragonmum

Everything I would wish to say about Tony has been said - his wonderful videos lifted my spirits when at a very low ebb, he spread joy and wisdom like fairy-dust, he will be so missed and the world is a poorer place today. My sincere condolences to you and all the family.

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Nicholatracy

Very sad news. Thoughts and prayers coming your way

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cloggboo1

So sorry to hear of your loss. Your father was an inspiration to us all.Much love sent your way.xxx

I was so sad to read of your loss,of young Tony,my sincere condolences to your Mum,yourself & brother,indeed the whole family.

Tony touched so many people,giving them hope & cheer,what wonderful stories he told,& was so proud of all his family.Rock on Tony!

Thankyou,for letting us know,what beautiful memories you will have.

With much love to you all,xxxx

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scorpiolass

So sorry to hear of your loss Sophie; your dad Tony was inspirational to so any people. I loved his determined optimisim, his iexercising infectious singing; the accounts & videos of his walks in the Malverns & by the river, His Dad's garden was a source of wonder. My condolences to you, your mum & brother, your Grand parents & everyone that loved him.

Love & thinking of you,

Margaret xxxx

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casper99

I'm so sorry to hear your lovely Dad has passed away, he was an inspiration to us all with his sheer determination and positive attitude.

My deepest sympathy to you all. xx

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Gilliam

I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. Although I hardly ever post on here I always looked out for his posts as his determination and cheerfulness helped me as I could see he lived life to the full even with a terrible lung disease. Thinking of you and your family at this time. Xxx

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katieoxo60

So sorry to hear the sad news about your dad, he is at peace now and you can be sure hes no longer in suffering. Stoic to the end that was your dad, tony to us. My thoughts and memories will be with you plus a smile as requested. May he rest in peace and thank you for talking to us all and sharing your loss. x

So sorry to hear your news. Thoughts are with you.

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longlungs

Hello donkeyonthehorizon and too all of your family at this saddest of times.Ive been staring at this page and remembering your great dad and the many ways in which he inspired ,made us laugh and took us all along on his walks he was able to write in such a way you felt like you were walking along side him. No more anxiety but rocking with his music loud with a pint and a smile. He will be missed greatly from here .Silent tears are tumbling now am so sad and so very sorry for your loss. Jane x

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janice01

So sorry to hear your news.....

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peege

Still thinking of you all with love 🌻

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