my dear wife diane

sorry to have to inform you all but diane passed away on friday 1st may in the morning in the brompton hospital, she begged me to let her go as she could not face endless months of rehab etc, with no gaurantee of any suscessful outcome, she was far stronger than me , but i had to think of her rather than myself, they moved her to a peacful private room & i was at her bedside, holding her hand as she left me, am utter hearthbroken, feel so alone, thankfully i have some relations who are supporting me but feel so numb, if you dont hear from me for a while please dont think bad of me, just being a big cry baby at the moment, but i just wanted to say thanks to so many other members on here who left me many good will messages for diane & myself, thank you all xx

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  • Hi there I'm so so sorry to hear that. You must be devastated.

    Having lost a partner six years ago I know it's the worst thing

    In life.

    At least you were with Diane and that must have been so so

    Comforting for her, my partner died alone and I think about him a lot

    And wondered what was he feeling.

    It's natural to be in shock and numb, please look after yourself as its

    A very surreal stressful time.

    Think of the happy times she had and that you were so important to

    Each other.

    May God give you strength to cope.


  • hello , thanks for your memo, have never had to dealt with this before, and going from the greifing part - to almost the mechanical part, i.e obtaning a death certifcate etc, within a couple of hours seems so brutal, plus that as diane had an operation done there a few weeks earlier, they said the coroner has to be informed & in doing so am having to wait now until thats issued & it holds up the entire burial thing. tom

  • God bless you. You must be so proud to have had such a brave lady for your wife. The numbness you feel will ease in time it's such an awful process to go thro. Stay strong Diane will be in your heart forever. Take care. Kath xx

  • Hi Tom,

    I am so deeply sorry to hear that Diane has passed away. You were with her at the end giving her love and support, and she knew that, which must have made things easier and more peaceful for her.

    No wonder you are heartbroken and numb. You are still in shock and it is probably still sinking in. I am glad you have support around you just now because you will need it now and in the days ahead.

    Nobody on here is going to think bad of you if you don't appear for a while as you have more important things to do and think about just now, but hope you feel you can come here anytime and there will always be someone around to chat to or listen.

    If you can, take comfort from the fact that you and Diane were so loved by each other and that you were together when she passed, and in time you will remember happy times. For now, just lean on people and give yourself all the time you need. Look after yourself and take care.

    May Diane rest in peace, and wishing you find some peace and comfort too.

    Take care,

    hugs from Huggs xxxx

  • Hi Tigerhouse. I am so sorry to hear you have lost your wife Diana. It's such a sad time for you. I lost my beloved Husband last year so can sympathise with how you are feeling. We are all here to support you if you would like to talk to us. In the meantime. Please accept my condolences to you and your family. X

  • I am at a loss of words for what to say to console you for you loss.

    My heart goes out to you and I shall pray for peace, comfort and strength for you and your family.

    Please accept my sincere condolences.

    Take care, lynda x

  • Tom, I am so deeply saddened to hear your news of Diane, I pray you find strength and comfort as you cope with your heartbreaking loss. Love and Sympathy to you and your family, you're in my thoughts and prayers, hugs from huff x

  • So sorry to hear about your loss, thoughts and prayers are with you, david1968.

  • I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss, may she rest in peace.

    Kim xxx

  • Hello Tom, So sorry to hear of the loss of your wife, Diane. You are feeling numb with shock, I wish i could think of some comforting words to help. All i can say is i & i am sure many others, will be thinking of you . I am pleased you were with her at the end and that people are looking after you. Take care, Margaret x

  • Tom, Im so sorry for the loss of your wonderful Diane. I hope in time your memories will bring you comfort; in the meantime i send you my condolences, thoughts and love.

  • My heart goes out to you x

  • I am so sorry to read the sad news. Diane is now at peace and is no longer suffering.

    Bless you for everything you did to help her.

    Godspeed Diane.

  • Condolences to you and your family....she is at peace and her memory will live in your hearts.

  • I too am so sorry to learn of your loss.May i offer to you my deepest & sincere condolences.

  • Sincere condolences to you and your family Tigerhouse.

  • So sorry to hear of the loss of Diane, it's strange how we are touched by people we do not know, but it makes life more real as it could be any one of us going through the same.

    Time heals, and you need to reflect on the good and bad times but end up with thoughts of the GOOD.!

    My thoughts are with you.


  • So sorry to hear about your loss. As others have said she is at peace now.

    It will take time to come to terms with your loss and give yourself time. Try not to make any big decisions for at least a year. When you are so sad it is too easy to make mistakes about the future.

    Thoughts are with you.

  • So very sorry to hear that Diane has left this world, leaving you bereft and devastated.

    I am glad you were with her giving her your love and strength. She would have known you were there.

    Love AS

  • Oh Tom what devastating news. I felt pain reading your message: I don't really know what to say so shocking as she was so young. She and you were so brave and strong, comforting that you had some peaceful time together at the end. I wish you and your family all the very best; you will be in my thoughts and prayers. I hope that over time you will find happiness again. RIP Diane. Lovexxx

  • I'm so very sorry for your loss. I would love to be able to say something that would take away your pain but, hopefully, the support and loving thoughts that are coming to you from your friends here will help in some smalł way. Please take care of yourself. Jan xx

  • I feel for you, but you will grieve that is a natural process, Diane is now at peace and not suffering,try to take a small comfort from that.The pain you are feeling at the moment is huge and the feeling of being alone and bereft,it will ease some in time,and the wonderful memories of Diane will start to give you comfort instead of pain.I know from my own experiences my husband died aged 32 and my son aged 36,so i understand.My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family,God Bless You and give you strength at this terrible time.x

  • Tom...I'm so very sorry and understand eactly what you're going through. Please accept my deepest sympathy. Diane is at peace now. xxx

  • So sorry too hear your sad news ,I am thinking of you

    Take care


  • Sorry to hear that Diane passed away, my heart goes out to you in your sorrow. Take time to grieve for your loss. You have your memories to help you through, some things can be done later when you are over the shock.You have done your best for Diane now you must accept help for yourself while you come to terms and get over your sorrow Tom xx

  • I d never think bad of you you

    poor man. You re facing one of the

    hardest things we evr have to.

    We all wish strength and courage.

    With love


  • So sorry to hear that thinking of you at this sad time take care x

  • So sorry to hear your news, our thoughts are with you..

  • So very sad for you. I don't have any words for you except that you are in my thoughts. I am glad that your dear wife at least had a peaceful passing. Take care M x

  • Sincere condolences to you and your family at this sad time.

  • Good. Leaning Tigerhouse, So very,very sorry to read that you have lost your darling Diane. Agony to loose someone you have loved for such a long time,A dreadful, agonising time for you, Regards, Bulpit

  • Thinking of you and your family at this very sad time x

  • Tom, thinking of you at this very sad time and hoping you will find some comfort in relatives and friends around you. One day at a time. Love Iris x

  • I just want to say how sorry I am to hear this sad news,there are no words at a time like this,but we are all thinking of you and all who loved Diane, sleep tight Diane free from pain.

  • Oh Tom i am so very sorry, may you find the strength and hope you so badly need at this sad time. xx

  • I'm so sorry for ur loss, thinking of u both xx sonia xx

  • Oh I am so shocked and so deeply sorry to hear this news. You poor man. I can only imagine the pain you must be going through. It is just awful. I was pleased to see that you have family to support you. Be kind to yourself, it will take time. With lots and lots of love and the deepest sympathy. TAD xxx

  • Tom I am so saddened to hear Diane's passed away, my sincere condolences go to you and your family xx

  • Tom I am so sorry to hear this very sad news my condolences go out to you and your family.

    polly xx

  • So sorry for your loss, you must be devastated. Take care x x x

  • My deepest condolences to you Tigerhouse. I have not been through the loss of a partner myself, but can only imagine the pain and grief you must be feeling right now. Remember, that those we've lost would not want us to be sad for them as they are now pain and suffering free. Think of the wonderful life you had together - time is a great healer. Be strong. XX

  • My sympathies and prayers are with you. So sorry.

  • So very sorry for your loss Tom. Know that my thoughts are with you.


  • Sorry to hear of your loss. We are all always here for you so take all the time you want.

  • So sorry for your loss - my deepest condolences to you Tom. What a brave a lady, bless her. When it all gets unbearable please come on the site for some words of comfort and company. xx

  • Dear dear Tom, so very special Diane slipped away knowing you were with her, and that you supported her wishes even though it ripped you apart, God love her, and comfort you, have a candle going to light diane on her way, xxxxx

  • Thinking of you at this difficult time, take heart in that she knew she was loved and that you were with her. Bless you

  • My deepest sympathy to you,at the loss of your Dianne.Be comforted in the thought,that you respected her last wishes,& she is now at peace,eventually you will be too,& know you did the right thing,out of your love for her,& will gain comfort from your happy memories,of the life you made together,& the love you had for each other,

    Take care,hugs Wen xxx

  • thinking of you at this sad time xx

  • This is very sad news, to hear that someone so young has lost their battle against lung disease.

    R I P Tigerhouse x .

  • So sorry to read such sad news. Thoughts and prayers are with you . God Bless x

  • Im so sorry to hear that we all know how worried you were.

    I lost my partner suddenly when he was 39 and no matter what people said to me it didn't ease my pain the only thing that eased it was time.

    Take all the time you need you blf family is there to support you but she is still with you she is just in another room.

    Mandy x

  • So sorry to hear Tom. Thinking of you in your time of need, so glad you have support around you. Diane is at peace now... no more pain xxx

  • Tom I am so sorry for your loss.I know all that palaver after and am disgusted it cannot wait a week or so.Tom I know you probaly dont want to hear this but it will take time for thr rawness to go and then come the good memorys.When we lost our son I was numb for weeks .All you feel is normal.I just pray your pain eases very soon.You are both in my th a ughts and prayers .RIP Diane and Bless you Tom.You are not alone.All of us are with you.Just feel the love surround you. Love mags x

  • so sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved wife - take care xxx

  • so sorry to hear this terribly sad news.

    r.i.p Diane.

  • So sorry to hear of your loss you must never feel alone you have you extended family on this site. xx

  • So sorry to hear your sad news sincere condolences to you and all who loved diane

    R.i.p DIane

  • Sorry for your loss.

  • My heart goes out to you. Sending you warmth and love to support you on your journey through the grief. Peege xxxxx

    PS what an amazingly brave woman x

  • Rest in peace Diana !

  • So sorry to hear about your sad loss

    Bless you . Pat

  • So Sorry to hear your news. My thoughts are with you. There is nothing wrong in crying for those you love.

    Be Well

  • Sorry to hear about your sad loss,god bless her soul . This is a very difficult time for you,please be strong and look after your health,God bless naresh62

  • I am so sorry to hear about Dianne. I have followed some of your posts about Diane and I really feel for you. Dianne sounded like an amazing brave person.

    Be strong,


  • So sorry for your loss big hug xx

  • SO so sorry Tom for your loss. you will find comfort when things settle down by looking back on your happy times together, it will help you through the time you are in now, and by being with her in the last moments will mean so much to you as time moves on. god bless,will be thinking of you Neo.

  • I am thinking of you at this sad time, Xris x

  • I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that you can find those moments of your life with her that brought you such joy. I know that it will take time, but the way that you have talked about her and how much she ment to you. This must have been such a wonderful relationship that the two of you shared. Not many of us find that in our lives. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this time. Take Care of yourself, Nadine

  • I feel for you

  • Sincere condolences Tigerhouse and to all of you at this desperately sad time. Diane was such a brave lady and knew when she wanted to go. And you were all so brave to let her go. May you find peace and acceptance in the comfort of your family and friends.


  • So sorry for your loss you were so brave to let diane go in such a peaceful way and you your with her all the time , god bless you and may your friends and famiky help you through thus xxxx

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