In a mess

[Yodayodz]

Hi I needed to get on here to talk i eas and still am an alcoholic I've ot drank since I was diagnosed with cancer in 2017 went through cancer fast forward to 23rd December 2023 I had an heart attack I've not shared this with anyone but it's hit my mental health very hard every other week I'm not having a few drinks again not good I don't know what's going on with me but my head is going menopause not helping I think if I have a couple of drinks I'll be fine but I end up drunk not good I'm in a spin atm and need to sort myself out then I worry about having heart attack again it one thing over another not in a good place

[TasteLessFood4Life]

Sorry to hear about your story. For what it is worth, the booze isnt going to help you unfortunately. Can you not speak to anyone or close family member instead?

I appreciate it is a tough journey mentally, but try to do it as sober as possible. In the long-run it is not worth it. You need to focus on your health in the best shape possible.

Best of luck - stay away from the booze, you are much better than that.

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[Yodayodz in reply to TasteLessFood4Life]

I have an appointment for drinks councillor on Friday thank u so much for the positive response

[Blearyeyed in reply to Yodayodz]

That's such a positive step forward and you have been very brave opening up to us and acknowledging that you have this problem.Get whatever counselling you can.

If you would find it works for you try finding some alcohol group meetings sometimes just talking to others can keep you strong when you need to make a big change and give something up.

Ask for your GP or your cardiac helpline for more help.

You know you managed to stay alcohol free for a very long time . You know how hard it was and need to remember how you did it.

You did it once you will be able to do it again.

We will all be here if you need to talk and get some moral support.

If you feel up to it try to be honest with any friends or family whom you know we're helpful to you in dealing with this before because they will help again. They won't want to make you feel bad about it or guilty ( even if their first response isn't always good). They will want to support you back on track.

Whatever you do don't beat yourself up or make yourself feel guilty for slipping. We all make mistakes but you've just shown with this post that you are brave enough to fix them , hugs , Bee

[Yodayodz in reply to Blearyeyed]

Thank u so much I need to write on here more often it does help x

[Poppeye in reply to Blearyeyed]

I agree with everything that Blearyeyed wrote...you have done the hardest part and accepted that you have a problem with alcohol and want to change. The next part won't be easy but you are already part of the way there. Things can get better. Good for you and I wish you all the success in the world...

[Turnipgirl in reply to Blearyeyed]

Hardest part of dealing with problems is admitting them!

Yesterday I faced a demon of mine and even though it wasn't very nice I did it though and got something out of it!

[Blearyeyed in reply to Turnipgirl]

Well done , take care , Bee

[SlothOnSpeed]

Hi Yodayods, have you tried Naltrexone? If not, maybe give it a try. People drink for so many reasons. Sometimes it’s helpful finding someone to help you change your relationship with alcohol. The fact that you are not flat out drunk everyday is already great.

Best to go on Google and look for a clinical psychologist in your area. Can you afford private? Some people are still stuck in the dark ages when it comes to addiction issues.

And remember, many people fall of the wagon at some point. No shame in that. No easy fix. One day at a time. But there are people that can help.

Kind regards

[Yodayodz in reply to SlothOnSpeed]

I used acomprasate when I was diagnosed with cancer in 2017 November I took it for 4 weeks then stopped and I haven't drank since then but then my heart attack came 2023 then I have slowly been drinking every other week a few jds and coke so I know I'm slipping so when I see my councillor on Friday I may mention that thank u everyone x

[JeremiahObadiah]

I can’t add any advice but I do send you my support and very best wishes . We are on your side and really want you to succeed and come through this.

[Deejay62]

Well done for coming on here and telling us you are an alcoholic, not an easy thing to do but many have done it. There are some brilliant advice on here and I can’t add to it but I hope you get back to where you got to before this blip. You are always welcome to post on here if it helps you or someone else in the same position as you.

All the best. Keep fighting on x

[Turnipgirl in reply to Deejay62]

It takes great courage to face problems doesn't it?

Yesterday afternoon I felt upset and angry when I got an e mail from the bank saying about paying out interest on my overdraft and I felt it was to have a go at me!

What I did was I took time to calm down and think things over and then picked up the phone and rang them to see what they could do for me and they were nice after all that and they have sorted me out with a regular current account that doesn't have a ridiculous monthly fee and we agreed that I will reduce the overdraft limit by £25 per month and I cried in relief after I had finished the call and wondered why I had felt the way I did as I always feel that when help gets offered it's to have a go at me as that's what happened to Mr growing up I would get criticised disguised as help and when things to help come up I feel attacked and it's to have a go at me like it was back then!

[BeKind28-]

Hello

First well done staying sober for several years and as you will already know it is not easy when you have an addiction but you did it and a big part of why you did it is because you wanted to get sober that is the first thing we have to want to stop and as you have done admit your addiction has come back again

Once a Alcoholic always a Alcoholic just when we stop we are a recovering one as we know at any time if we pick up a drink that one drink just leads to another and another till we are back to square one

When life is difficult to cope with our natural reaction is wanting to block everything out so we can easily turn back to bad habits and forget what we are and what this will lead to

Now you need to want to stop again I read you went to AA it worked once it will work again

Have you got a Sponsor if so get talking to them before you pick up a drink not after you have had one but before when you are about to give in to temptation as you know this works from your past experience get to as many meetings as you can again and lean on them take their support and protect your health

It works if you work it so start now as again you know that with the support of AA if you want it you can stop

Every single day I could pick up a drink with all the struggles I have to go through and I am tempted so much but you know and I know it is just a short fix and we wont find the answer in the bottom of a empty bottle how to overcome what we are going through and how to cope

I hope you get back to your meetings just my experience but they are the ones that will give you the best support in stopping drinking again

Good Luck you can do this x

[Yodayodz]

U just made me cry with that wonderful message good cry so thank u so so much

[BeKind28- in reply to Yodayodz]

Hello

Hope they were tears that someone understands and knows you can do it

You know already but just to remind you again throw all the booze out you have in the house ask those that live with you if while you are struggling would they also not drink in front of you or bring it in the house

Make that call today is a new day you can do this x

[Turnipgirl in reply to BeKind28-]

I made that call facing up to problems yesterday afternoon and felt better after so if I can do it anyone can!

[BeKind28- in reply to Turnipgirl]

x

[Yodayodz]

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